The players just get off way too easy. Its not a bad thing in some ways that Pardew is carrying the can for many of their ills, but its just not reality for me. Pardew has tried to get us playing football but as you say, when the pressure is on, its really down to the players on the pitch to deliver. The bottom line is they haven't. Of course Pardew and the coaches need to aid the players mentally with how they prepare them, but some of it has to come from within. Younger players you can cut some slack but the likes of Cabaye have been found wanting and look a bit fairweather.
I don't buy all this "its Pardew's long ball" bollocks personally. I think we have a few with split peas for hearts who have cracked under pressure. The kicker is the dramatic improvement in style when we had the new influx. The slip back in style has mysteriously coincided with negative results and pressure

We lack character. When the chips are down and the pressure is on, that is when you need character to put your foot on the ball and play. We've had the likes of Cabaye just wanting shot of the hot potatoe. Personally I think its the easy way out to blame the manager all the time. he hasn't had a great season but to suggest its all his fault is just utter ****e for me.
Anita has been used poorly by Pardew, that is one where he does deserve criticism. I understand he is trying to give him time to adjust but he should have been used more. Not necessarily from the bench because once the bottlers start bottling and the game s gets long and scrappy he is maybe not the guy. But in that murderous run of games he should have rested Cabaye and Sissoko on occasion but got into the mentality of "these are the best players, therefore they must play".
Debuchy will be fine but it is tricky as a defender coming in mid season. Again Pardew seemed reluctant to go back to Simpson (as were many of the fans mind), when personally I think he never lets us down.
Regardless we need to add in grit for next season and leadership. We have one leader in the squad! Its not enough. The effect Colo had in one game pretty much confirms where we are lacking.