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Off Topic How do you handle terminal news?

Discussion in 'Sunderland' started by C19RK73, Jun 22, 2022.

  1. Makemstine Roger

    Makemstine Roger Well-Known Member

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    Sorry for the late reply mate,i've been there myself ,the pain does fade but never forgotten ,the more the kids go to the top of your thoughts the easier the pain becomes, its the only advice i can give that and my heart goes out to you
     
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  2. Ozzymac

    Ozzymac Well-Known Member

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    Wifes on the way to the hospital now to make(if that's what you call it) the palliative decision.

    It means she can come home at the end of the week and die with dignity surrounded by her cats who she loves and have more than 2 visitors a day.

    Timeframe we've been given is 2-3 weeks vs 1-2 days if they try chemo again. Time for a bit of day drinking i think.
     
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  3. Smug in Boots

    Smug in Boots Well-Known Member

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    That's tough mate, all I can say is that I'm thinking about you.

    You're in my prayers if that means anything to you.
     
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  4. C Montgomery Burns

    C Montgomery Burns Well-Known Member

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    That's tough mate, I've been there myself. All I can say is that you and your family are in my thoughts and look after yourself and each other
     
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  5. rooch 3

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    Can’t even begin to imagine what you are going through, but all my love is with you and your wife mate.
     
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    Whittylad Well-Known Member

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    That’s just awful . I hope your mother in law is comfortable and doesn’t suffer. At least she will have family around her which I’m sure will be a comfort to her. Thoughts are with you and your family.
     
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  7. rowley

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    Awful mate. Really awful. Just enjoy the time you have left with her and remember all the best bits.

    All about her now, what is best for her, and what she wants.

    God Bless you all, I've been there a bit, and the clouds lift in the end, even though life is never the same.
     
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  8. flandersmackem

    flandersmackem Well-Known Member

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    Truly awful news mate… I cannot even begin to know what you and your family going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this terrible time
     
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  9. one gary owers

    one gary owers Well-Known Member

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    My heart goes out to her having to make a decision like that
     
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  10. Montysoptician

    Montysoptician Well-Known Member

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    It's a very difficult time for you all Ozzy, my parents were taken relatively quickly with cancer but I went through a very similar situation with my wife's mother, my thoughts and prayers are with you, take care <ok>
     
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  11. Montysoptician

    Montysoptician Well-Known Member

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    Brilliant, you have been through the mill but came out the other side, so pleased for you and your family, take care <ok>
     
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  12. one gary owers

    one gary owers Well-Known Member

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    Ty and everyone for the good wishes
    The Judge sat in the courtroom removed the black cap and said get on with life ( that’s how it felt anyway)
     
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  13. Makemstine Roger

    Makemstine Roger Well-Known Member

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    Everything that could be said to help you cope with your sorrow has already been said, all i can add is every supporter on here is right behind you in your grief, Stiff upper lip mate she wont want to see you devastated.
     
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  14. one gary owers

    one gary owers Well-Known Member

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    I agree but she is the one making the call she needs more support
    Can you imagine you make the decision if someone should live. i could not do it
     
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  15. Makemstine Roger

    Makemstine Roger Well-Known Member

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    agreed and when the time comes and Ozzy needs us i will be here for him a pm and ill even chat with him as long as he wants
     
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    C19RK73 Red & White army!

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    She’s gone :emoticon-0106-cryin
     
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  17. John Wick

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    Mate, heartfelt condolences. No-one ever knows what to say at a time like this. I hope you and yours can be there for one another, help each other. Other than that, sorry for your loss,mate.
     
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    Ahh, man. So sorry for your loss mate, sending sincerest condolences to you and your family.

    R.I.P. to your Mam.
     
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    My mother had a tumor near her gall bladder 2003, i looked for wonder cure tablets, faith healers anything to help her, it is terrible yet pnumonia took her. My dad had a urine infection 2018 we did not know though, although he was seeing things etc, a warning is if you spot that get him/her straight to hospital don't delay, maddening thing was he had a check up about a year and a half before but no follow up, cranberry juice prevents that by the way that's what they say.
     
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  20. Montysoptician

    Montysoptician Well-Known Member

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    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this sad time, take care
     
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