Off Topic How do you handle terminal news?

[Makemstine Roger]

My mam is terminal, kidney, lung, thyroid, adrenal gland, back, lymph nodes, we’ve only just lost @grandpops my sister is critically Ill also, why is life so ****ty?

I don’t know what to say to my kids

Sorry for the late reply mate,i've been there myself ,the pain does fade but never forgotten ,the more the kids go to the top of your thoughts the easier the pain becomes, its the only advice i can give that and my heart goes out to you

 

[Ozzymac]

My mother in law was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian 6 weeks ago now.

She was fit and healthy and thought she had a urinary tract infection. Turns out it was a little more than that.

She is still lucid and sometime in the next few days she has to decide whether she want's to continue chemo or just go palliative. Doctors have said ba=est case scenario if she recommences chemo she may get another 4 or 5 weeks.

Wifes on the way to the hospital now to make(if that's what you call it) the palliative decision.

It means she can come home at the end of the week and die with dignity surrounded by her cats who she loves and have more than 2 visitors a day.

Timeframe we've been given is 2-3 weeks vs 1-2 days if they try chemo again. Time for a bit of day drinking i think.

 

[Smug in Boots]

Wifes on the way to the hospital now to make(if that's what you call it) the palliative decision.

It means she can come home at the end of the week and die with dignity surrounded by her cats who she loves and have more than 2 visitors a day.

Timeframe we've been given is 2-3 weeks vs 1-2 days if they try chemo again. Time for a bit of day drinking i think.

That's tough mate, all I can say is that I'm thinking about you.

You're in my prayers if that means anything to you.

 

[C Montgomery Burns]

Wifes on the way to the hospital now to make(if that's what you call it) the palliative decision.

It means she can come home at the end of the week and die with dignity surrounded by her cats who she loves and have more than 2 visitors a day.

Timeframe we've been given is 2-3 weeks vs 1-2 days if they try chemo again. Time for a bit of day drinking i think.

That's tough mate, I've been there myself. All I can say is that you and your family are in my thoughts and look after yourself and each other

 

[rooch 3]

Wifes on the way to the hospital now to make(if that's what you call it) the palliative decision.

It means she can come home at the end of the week and die with dignity surrounded by her cats who she loves and have more than 2 visitors a day.

Timeframe we've been given is 2-3 weeks vs 1-2 days if they try chemo again. Time for a bit of day drinking i think.

Can’t even begin to imagine what you are going through, but all my love is with you and your wife mate.

 

[Whittylad]

Wifes on the way to the hospital now to make(if that's what you call it) the palliative decision.

It means she can come home at the end of the week and die with dignity surrounded by her cats who she loves and have more than 2 visitors a day.

Timeframe we've been given is 2-3 weeks vs 1-2 days if they try chemo again. Time for a bit of day drinking i think.

That’s just awful . I hope your mother in law is comfortable and doesn’t suffer. At least she will have family around her which I’m sure will be a comfort to her. Thoughts are with you and your family.

 

[rowley]

My mother in law was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian 6 weeks ago now.

She was fit and healthy and thought she had a urinary tract infection. Turns out it was a little more than that.

She is still lucid and sometime in the next few days she has to decide whether she want's to continue chemo or just go palliative. Doctors have said ba=est case scenario if she recommences chemo she may get another 4 or 5 weeks.

Awful mate. Really awful. Just enjoy the time you have left with her and remember all the best bits.

All about her now, what is best for her, and what she wants.

God Bless you all, I've been there a bit, and the clouds lift in the end, even though life is never the same.

 

[flandersmackem]

Wifes on the way to the hospital now to make(if that's what you call it) the palliative decision.

It means she can come home at the end of the week and die with dignity surrounded by her cats who she loves and have more than 2 visitors a day.

Timeframe we've been given is 2-3 weeks vs 1-2 days if they try chemo again. Time for a bit of day drinking i think.

Truly awful news mate… I cannot even begin to know what you and your family going through. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this terrible time

 

[one gary owers]

Wifes on the way to the hospital now to make(if that's what you call it) the palliative decision.

It means she can come home at the end of the week and die with dignity surrounded by her cats who she loves and have more than 2 visitors a day.

Timeframe we've been given is 2-3 weeks vs 1-2 days if they try chemo again. Time for a bit of day drinking i think.

My heart goes out to her having to make a decision like that

 

[Montysoptician]

Wifes on the way to the hospital now to make(if that's what you call it) the palliative decision.

It means she can come home at the end of the week and die with dignity surrounded by her cats who she loves and have more than 2 visitors a day.

Timeframe we've been given is 2-3 weeks vs 1-2 days if they try chemo again. Time for a bit of day drinking i think.

It's a very difficult time for you all Ozzy, my parents were taken relatively quickly with cancer but I went through a very similar situation with my wife's mother, my thoughts and prayers are with you, take care

 

[Montysoptician]

Been debating a long time wether I should contribute to this thread , after taking advice was told to post well my life really or the latter part of it
Been watching this thread and don’t know wether to join in or not.
Some may not like what has happened to me. No that not the way to put it,that’s why I am struggling on what to do.
Nine year gone April I had a golf ball sized lump in my right arm pit went to see the DR booked me in to Darlington hospital to remove it. I just thought it was a blocked sweat gland.
Two days later was called to hospital and was told it was cancerous. Malignant Melanoma.
I had to have all my lymph nodes removed in my right arm pit and was booked into Durham hospital in four days.
I don’t think I was sober till I went in.
They removed the nodes then had to wait about four month to see jf it was a success.
Had CT and PET scans unfortunately the melanoma had moved onto my lungs three spot on my right lung and two on my left.
I was told I was fortunate it was Braf- and there was treatment for it.
I was sent to the Freeman hospital and saw a DR Kelly ( the ****ing fat ginger bastard my wife called him. First time I heard her use the f word ) he told us the Vemurafanib tablets would slow the cancer but in about three years it would find a way round it and that would be it.
When my cancer nurse phoned up to find out how it went repeated it to her never saw the fat ginger bastard again.
That the back ground information for you.
Five years latter I asked how am I still here was told I was one of seven who had lasted this long.
Was scared to ask more questions.
April gone nine years after being first diagnosed,just after a recent scan was told the cancer was no longer there and I could stop taking Vemurafanib , at first I said no ( it was my crutch that kept me alive ) but when I researched and found a man in Auckland New Zealand had had the same result .
I took all the family sons wives grandchildren away to tell them.
Lots of tears I can tell you , filling up just writing this
But I don’t know how to bring it into the terminal thread.

Brilliant, you have been through the mill but came out the other side, so pleased for you and your family, take care

 

[one gary owers]

Brilliant, you have been through the mill but came out the other side, so pleased for you and your family, take care

Ty and everyone for the good wishes
The Judge sat in the courtroom removed the black cap and said get on with life ( that’s how it felt anyway)

 

[Makemstine Roger]

Wifes on the way to the hospital now to make(if that's what you call it) the palliative decision.

It means she can come home at the end of the week and die with dignity surrounded by her cats who she loves and have more than 2 visitors a day.

Timeframe we've been given is 2-3 weeks vs 1-2 days if they try chemo again. Time for a bit of day drinking i think.

Everything that could be said to help you cope with your sorrow has already been said, all i can add is every supporter on here is right behind you in your grief, Stiff upper lip mate she wont want to see you devastated.

 

[one gary owers]

Everything that could be said to help you cope with your sorrow has already been said, all i can add is every supporter on here is right behind you in your grief, Stiff upper lip mate she wont want to see you devastated.

I agree but she is the one making the call she needs more support
Can you imagine you make the decision if someone should live. i could not do it

 

[Makemstine Roger]

I agree but she is the one making the call she needs more support

agreed and when the time comes and Ozzy needs us i will be here for him a pm and ill even chat with him as long as he wants

 

[C19RK73]

She’s gone

 

[John Wick]

She’s gone

Mate, heartfelt condolences. No-one ever knows what to say at a time like this. I hope you and yours can be there for one another, help each other. Other than that, sorry for your loss,mate.

 

[Snaggey]

She’s gone

Ahh, man. So sorry for your loss mate, sending sincerest condolences to you and your family.

R.I.P. to your Mam.

 

[monty987]

My mother had a tumor near her gall bladder 2003, i looked for wonder cure tablets, faith healers anything to help her, it is terrible yet pnumonia took her. My dad had a urine infection 2018 we did not know though, although he was seeing things etc, a warning is if you spot that get him/her straight to hospital don't delay, maddening thing was he had a check up about a year and a half before but no follow up, cranberry juice prevents that by the way that's what they say.

 

[Montysoptician]

She’s gone

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this sad time, take care