Have you seen The Cook, The Theif, His Wife and Her Lover?
Mind blowing!
Can't say I have mate, I don't get time to watch many films as it happens so when I do I tend to just stick to the man-films I've missed over the last few months.
I'm going to bookmark the thread though for future reference.
Edit: Just noticed the bit in bold, is her lover a woman? Is it a lesbo-flick? If so I'll watch it tonight!