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[MrRAWhite]

Something I don't know until it happens... Probably hoping that my family are happy and successful in life..

 

[Chunksafc]

I've thought long and hard before replying and it's a subject I do often worry about. Have I made my parents proud? Have I brought my children up as well as I could? Have I worked hard to provide enough for them when I am gone?

Would I change anything? Some thingsi wish I had done better, but without going through them I wouldn't be at the position I am today with the children and my wife, do I need to change some of ways and behaviours? Yes I do and y writing this I guess it's me finally admitting I am scared of dying and need to sort myself out

Well tonight is my last night before back to work for 2020.

This post and thread has stayed in mind since it first came around. I have delayed the inevitable and tomorrow the inevitable needs to happen.

Im having my last couple of cans tonight, my last smoke and my last takeaway.

I need to get myself back on track, lose the weight I have piled on through the drinking and pack the smoking in. It's not going to be fun, but by god I will give my all to do it and if I fail, then I will dust myself off and try again

 

[rooch 3]

Instead of drinking 10 pints when you go out just drink half a pint instead needs to be whisky like but still the efforts there.

 

[Ozzymac]

Well tonight is my last night before back to work for 2020.

This post and thread has stayed in mind since it first came around. I have delayed the inevitable and tomorrow the inevitable needs to happen.

Im having my last couple of cans tonight, my last smoke and my last takeaway.

I need to get myself back on track, lose the weight I have piled on through the drinking and pack the smoking in. It's not going to be fun, but by god I will give my all to do it and if I fail, then I will dust myself off and try again

Don't do it Chunk.

Research has shown that work is the worst addiction that you can be afflicted with. Makes you stop doing the things you love like drinking, smoking and eating takeaway as well as occupies so much of your thoughts that you withdraw from your family for much of the day.

Stay drunk and call in sick

 

[Gil T Azell]

For what its worth my mam died at 38 (Cancer). I think I was too young, mentally too understand and never realised what my dad must have went through.
My dad, my best mate and even asked him to be my best man at my wedding I worshipped him that much died 3 years ago aged 80. In the last throes of his life he started calling out to his mam over and over again. Hopefully with his last breath he had found her and was content.
As for me approaching 60 I would be more than happy to have another 5 or 6 years of quality life and then hopefully either die in my sleep or at least very quickly without pain. I work in a care home ( and absolutely love it) where most of the residents have dementia. It is awful watching these usually lovely people referring over and over again for something that cannot be. I certainly do not want this for myself or any of my family in the future.

Apologies if I rambled there but thats my choice.

Great OP which has got a lot of people on here opening up on a strange subject.

 

[Chunksafc]

Don't do it Chunk.

Research has shown that work is the worst addiction that you can be afflicted with. Makes you stop doing the things you love like drinking, smoking and eating takeaway as well as occupies so much of your thoughts that you withdraw from your family for much of the day.

Stay drunk and call in sick

Unfortunatley mate, the drink, smoking and takeaways will kill me.

Im not proud to admit I like a drink but I honestly think I have a problem and need to put it right

 

[Ozzymac]

I can understand that mate and i'm looking at doing something about it as well.

Cost of smokes over here kills me by itself, $40 per packet.

Need to lose 10kg or a little more over the next 6 months which is a goal i've set myself.

 

[Chunksafc]

Here's to 6 months time when we both have achieved our goals

 

[samwise_new]

religion, not for me i'm afraid...a recently 'born again friend, now ex friend' tried hard to groom me into believing, he got that bad i had to stop visiting and he is a man i have always held a lot of respect for.

smoking...pleased i stopped, mind the heart attack was a damn good kick up the backside to finally do it, all i can add is good luck and hopefully get it kicked before the real damage is done, turns out i now have COPD but i am still happy got rid of the weed.

drinking...gave that lark up many years ago...realised i had far better things to do with my money than piss it away, now when i am around those who drink i realise i made a very good choice, have a non drinking night out and watch how people change as the night goes by...scary.

posted my other reply as i got the impression that folks are getting a little scared of death, it sounds daft but there really was nowt to it and although i would like to get a few more years yet (specialist said there was no reason for me not to manage it) i dont think i fear that final day now, although there is always the worry of those horrible, long, drawn out diseases i know the end is nice and peaceful...after that i cannot say but not having religion in my life if my ex friend is right i am gonna be damn hot!!

 

[Blyth_bucaneer]

I've had a simple view on this for years, it's inevitable and happens to all. Just try and take the positives from the negatives, ie: no more work, nagging or not tonight dear I've got a headache. Do agree with getting ones house in order though, even though it's pretty irrelevant to the dead bod.

 

[Billy Fish]

... but it makes you think.

I was discussing mortality with Mrs Smug earlier.

I asked her what would be the last thing she'd think about as she passed away. She kindly said it would be me and the places we've been. When I suggested that, in reality, it would be her folks and where she was brought up she smiled and agreed.

Despite how much I love her I reckon I'd be thinking about my parents, Allendale Cottages and my kids.

None of us know how we'll feel at the end, and perhaps don't want to think about it, but I've arrived at a point whereby I need to 'put my house in order'.

Haven’t been on this forum for a few weeks now so missed this thread. Hopefully the text I got from you before Donny game saying you were ill and now reading you need to “ put your house in order” doesn’t signify anything too serious.

Lots of spiritual messages on the thread which make interesting reading. Although I was brought up by a Catholic mother and went to a left foot school I never considered myself spiritualistic. However I was doing by bedside stint by myself as my Dad was in his last hours a few years ago. He was in a care home and passed away in the early hours of the morning when all was peaceful and quiet on his landing. Just as he let go of his last breath an old dear who was on night duty popped in to see us. I said he’d just left us and she came across the room, opened the window and said “Let’s let his spirit out”. There was a light movement of air as she did it and it made me feel so comforted I can’t fully describe it. It was the most wonderful sentiment and feeling I’ve ever felt.
Not sure when my time will come but by Jayzuz I want someone there to open that window for me when it happens!

 

[Smug in Boots]

Haven’t been on this forum for a few weeks now so missed this thread. Hopefully the text I got from you before Donny game saying you were ill and now reading you need to “ put your house in order” doesn’t signify anything too serious.

Lots of spiritual messages on the thread which make interesting reading. Although I was brought up by a Catholic mother and went to a left foot school I never considered myself spiritualistic. However I was doing by bedside stint by myself as my Dad was in his last hours a few years ago. He was in a care home and passed away in the early hours of the morning when all was peaceful and quiet on his landing. Just as he let go of his last breath an old dear who was on night duty popped in to see us. I said he’d just left us and she came across the room, opened the window and said “Let’s let his spirit out”. There was a light movement of air as she did it and it made me feel so comforted I can’t fully describe it. It was the most wonderful sentiment and feeling I’ve ever felt.
Not sure when my time will come but by Jayzuz I want someone there to open that window for me when it happens!

Brilliant post mate, I had to read it twice.

Also, thanks for the concern. I was just ill with tonsillitis on top of flu ...

... over it now mate and planning MK Dons.

When I mentioned 'putting my house in order' it was just to push myself, and perhaps others, into a kind of last will and testament. Neither of my parents left any 'instructions' which caused a fair few disputes in the family. It's amazing what arguments can ensue from the most insignificant sounding decisions.

Who'd have thought a bunch of flowers or a piece of music could cause a row eh

 

[Billy Fish]

Brilliant post mate, I had to read it twice.

Also, thanks for the concern. I was just ill with tonsillitis on top of flu ...

... over it now mate and planning MK Dons.

When I mentioned 'putting my house in order' it was just to push myself, and perhaps others, into a kind of last will and testament. Neither of my parents left any 'instructions' which caused a fair few disputes in the family. It's amazing what arguments can ensue from the most insignificant sounding decisions.

Who'd have thought a bunch of flowers or a piece of music could cause a row eh

Good to hear you’re on the mend.
Will probably head to MK but as ever need to sort my tickets out!