Self restrainment O/T

[Teessidemackem]

Cut a long story short, got myself in abit of bother with one of my lasses best mates husbands last year at a wedding (I'd totally destroy him in every way).
He's an ex Boro frontliner, which at the time were one of the most respected firms in the country and still are, so he thinks hes the dogs bollocks.
I've just got home from a do today in which my boys attended and he was being an arrogant tw@t, so obviously I need to stay calm for them and my lass. Our original fall out broke my lasses heart, but looking at him I need to destroy him!
Help??

 

[Nostalgic]

Leave well alone TM, anything physical with him will leave him the injured party and your family the losers. As a Dad now is the time to leave violence to one side for the sake of your kids and leave the wife's relationship intact with his Mrs.

 

[Teessidemackem]

Leave well alone TM, anything physical with him will leave him the injured party and your family the losers. As a Dad now is the time to leave violence to one side for the sake of your kids and leave the wife's relationship intact with his Mrs.

The problem I've got now mate is I spent my whole life getting physically bullied as a kid and mentally bullied up until the age of 30 where I was never above 12 stone in weight. I now feel physically strong since joining the gym 8 years ago and doing Brazilian jui jitsu, ive rebelled against everything I've ever had to go through previously!!

 

[grandpops]

The problem I've got now mate is I spent my whole life getting physically bullied as a kid and mentally bullied up until the age of 30 where I was never above 12 stone in weight. I now feel physically strong since joining the gym 8 years ago and doing Brazilian jui jitsu, ive rebelled against everything I've ever had to go through previously!!

I very rarely get involved in these things but this time I`ll say my piece.

1). Nostalgics advice is sound.
2). The answer is in the title and your posts. You know this already.
3). You don`t have to be an arsehole to prove someone else is.

Steady lad. I think you`re better than that.

 

[Teessidemackem]

I very rarely get involved in these things but this time I`ll say my piece.

1). Nostalgics advice is sound.
2). The answer is in the title and your posts. You know this already.
3). You don`t have to be an arsehole to prove someone else is.

Steady lad. I think you`re better than that.

Thanks for the advice.

 

[Nordic]

depends what he's done, pal. if it is bad can't you shop the sod?

but don't jeopordise your own life coz he's an arrogant ****er. as tempting as it may be.

 

[Nostalgic]

I very rarely get involved in these things but this time I`ll say my piece.

1). Nostalgics advice is sound.
2). The answer is in the title and your posts. You know this already.
3). You don`t have to be an arsehole to prove someone else is.

Steady lad. I think you`re better than that.

There you go TM - quality advice from graduates of the University of Life.

 

[Brian Storm]

Cut a long story short, got myself in abit of bother with one of my lasses best mates husbands last year at a wedding (I'd totally destroy him in every way).
He's an ex Boro frontliner, which at the time were one of the most respected firms in the country and still are, so he thinks hes the dogs bollocks.
I've just got home from a do today in which my boys attended and he was being an arrogant tw@t, so obviously I need to stay calm for them and my lass. Our original fall out broke my lasses heart, but looking at him I need to destroy him!
Help??

Have a quiet word fella. Just you an him, keep nice and calm, and quietly tell him if he doesn't wind his neck in you'll punch his teeth out then bite a hole in his cheek to prove it to the world Maybe not that psychotic but you know what I mean. See if his arse goes without witnesses. If he wants his go, give him a mild kicking and let him know you held back. Don't do **** all in front of anybody though. If he's a proper hardcore hooligan there's no way he'll involve the old bill and I doubt he'll be running home crying you hit him, his pride will prevent that.

Or just leave him alone. Depends if you're going to lose enough control to prevent hurting him seriously. Only you know if you can keep your cool enough to engage without hospitalizing the little prick. Don't engage if you can't keep your cool throughout, your lads don't need you on a life sentence.

 

[Brian Storm]

This is probably bad advice by the way. If I knew I could destroy him it's the way I'd go. But then I don't have kids.

 

[Billy Death]

Catch him on his own & twat the ****.
Edit. Plus what Brian said.

 

[Teessidemackem]

There you go TM - quality advice from graduates of the University of Life.

It is, but how can I sleep at

Have a quiet word fella. Just you an him, keep nice and calm, and quietly tell him if he doesn't wind his neck in you'll punch his teeth out then bite a hole in his cheek to prove it to the world Maybe not that psychotic but you know what I mean. See if his arse goes without witnesses. If he wants his go, give him a mild kicking and let him know you held back. Don't do **** all in front of anybody though. If he's a proper hardcore hooligan there's no way he'll involve the old bill and I doubt he'll be running home crying you hit him, his pride will prevent that.

Or just leave him alone. Depends if you're going to lose enough control to prevent hurting him seriously. Only you know if you can keep your cool enough to engage without hospitalizing the little prick. Don't engage if you can't keep your cool throughout, your lads don't need you on a life sentence.

I tried a quiet word in November mate. He **** himself then when other people appeared he started giving it the bigun saying he'd kill me. We had about 10 people between us at that point !

 

[MrRAWhite]

As has been said already mate, your lass and the bairns welfare are your primary concern now...In my experience if you give an arsehole like this a good hiding, then he will probably try and gain revenge with a gang in the future...It is not worth the hassle..

 

[Teessidemackem]

depends what he's done, pal. if it is bad can't you shop the sod?

but don't jeopordise your own life coz he's an arrogant ****er. as tempting as it may be.

Hes shown me total disrespect mate. Will that do?

 

[Billy Death]

As has been said already mate, your lass and the bairns welfare are your primary concern now...In my experience if you give an arsehole like this a good hiding, then he will probably try and gain revenge with a gang in the future...It is not worth the hassle..

I doubt it mate as I don't think he'd want to lose face among his mates.
He'd probably invent some story about being jumped on by a gang of younguns.
I've met this sort before - gobshites.

 

[Brian Storm]

It is, but how can I sleep at


I tried a quiet word in November mate. He **** himself then when other people appeared he started giving it the bigun saying he'd kill me. We had about 10 people between us at that point !

Ok, so you had the quiet word. Now he's just mugging you off. Again, just you him, bitch slap him as hard as you can, degrade the ****er and tell him next time it's his teeth. Thing is, you've had a quiet word and he's still doing it, if you do nowt he knows you don't follow through on your threats and it will be open season for him to publicly bully you till you snap. You can't snap in public, worst thing you can do.

 

[Teessidemackem]

As has been said already mate, your lass and the bairns welfare are your primary concern now...In my experience if you give an arsehole like this a good hiding, then he will probably try and gain revenge with a gang in the future...It is not worth the hassle..

I get your point mate, but I can't sleep night thinking somebody's go

I doubt it mate as I don't think he'd want to lose face among his mates.
He'd probably invent some story about being jumped on by a gang of younguns.
I've met this sort before - gobshites.

Exactly

 

[Teessidemackem]

Ok, so you had the quiet word. Now he's just mugging you off. Again, just you him, bitch slap him as hard as you can, degrade the ****er and tell him next time it's his teeth. Thing is, you've had a quiet word and he's still doing it, if you do nowt he knows you don't follow through on your threats and it will be open season for him to publicly bully you till you snap. You can't snap in public, worst thing you can do.

Thanks mate , that's what I needed to hear. X

 

[Billy Death]

Brian's advice sounds good to me Tees.
How do you think this ****er would react to a public showing up?
Would it finish his reputation or would he come back?

 

[MrRAWhite]

If it is something that is stopping you sleeping then maybe try to catch him on his own. Just ask him if he wants to sort it out man to man as you are not prepared to put up with his ****..My bet is that he will say that he doesn't want any bother bla, bla, bla...And after that he will not bother you in the future..

 

[Billy Death]

If it is something that is stopping you sleeping then maybe try to catch him on his own. Just ask him if he wants to sort it out man to man as you are not prepared to put up with his ****..My bet is that he will say that he doesn't want any bother bla, bla, bla...And after that he will not bother you in the future..

Yep, once he's had a ****ing slap or two.