It's all very well telling him to do nothing, think of the kids. But I sense a fiery temper in Tees, if he sees red and loses control he can't think of his kids or his lady, he's already lost control, he'll become unable to think rationally. He needs to sort this while he's in control. Prod a caged animal with a stick long enough he's going to kick off.He should sort this away from his family's knowledge before he's provoked into doing something in front of them. We all have our limits and a line we cross where we lose control and that line is different for everyone.
Not always necessary in my experience...The expectation that he might get a slap in the future if he carries on being a twat often works better..
I texted him in November after our last spat, friendly but straight to the point. Meet me man to man on the field behind our house. He told his lass who told her mates and then my lads, so everyone of my lasses Mates think I'm trouble. All because I stood up to a little weasel
That's what I'd do, open palm, clean knock him off his feet. Or if you really want to degrade him a back hand Never in front of anyone else though.
Don't text him then, man to man always, may mean you have to go hunting but don't ever give him anything his lass, your lass or his mates can see. Discretion is the key here mate.
I know mate. They don't Iive local anymore so I rarely see him anymore. This was the first time since November and because I was at a party where he knew everyone he was giving it the bigun. I had both my lads on my knee most the day, so what could I do??? I need to kill him !!!
He sounds like a reet soft **** to me if he's going blabbing to his woman. There's some ****ers around my way who hang on to the coat tails of the Gremlins. They went to Carlisle pre season a few years ago & all of them got a howking.
Going to take a bit of a hard line here as I think it's what you want. You've got two options in my eyes.. Decide to do nowt and feel a bit ****ty about it until tomorrow and spend the day with your lads realising who gives a **** what some silly twat acts like. Decide to have him, have him and possibly give your kids a couple of years without their old man. Fighting is all well and good until you've got something to lose. You never know when there's a copper around the corner or a knife in someone's pocket. **** that ****.
You don't man, you just need to put him in his place. You need to take control. He want's you to hit him in front of everyone so make sure you don't by sorting it in private. He'll provoke you until you do and by the sounds of it it will effect a lot of relationships. Don't give him what he wants, sort him on your terms.
I didn't mean it when I said kill him. I need to hurt him badly. Sorry the word kill should never be used.
That's what I thought you meant, I didn't think you meant actually kill him. I wouldn't go that far yet though fella. If you must hit him, timed controlled aggression should be the order of the day, enough to make your point nothing more, accidents happen, your lads and your lady don't need you doing a stretch inside. It's not a risk worth taking.
No middle ground can be had now I'm afraid mate, he's crossed the line and I never forget. That's the whole point of this thread.
You'll have to let your pride and self respect take a hit then for your family. There's no shame in being the bigger man. I'd toy with him and have some fun, turn him into a hobby but that's the middle ground. Have you worked the bag today fella? Sounds like you need to let of some steam.
You need to swallow your pride chief. You're a dad. Your self respect should come from being a good man, a good mate, son, husband, dad. Not from putting some weasel in their place.
No mate, haven't done nowt for 8 weeks cause of my wrist op, it's killing me. The gyms the only thing that keeps me calm so the last thing I need in my life at the moment is a wana be Burberry wearing smoggy wana be hard man giving it large when I've got my fecking kids sat on my knee!!
Well there's a bit of mix of advice & opinions here. I'm not saying I'm right but I believe in fighting fire with fire. Can't go with this turn the other cheek, Ghandi type of bollocks. If there's a problem then you nip it in the bud.
Well there's half your problem. Don't do anything about this chump now fella, recover, strengthen your wrist get your aggression channeled a bit then revisit this situation. That's my advice.
I'm with you on that mate, but when I tried a discreet one on one arrangement he fecking ruined me by blabbing to all my lasses mates I'm aggressive.
