Your stretching and jumping from one context to another too flippantly. And why are you using the race/gay card? Your Sunday League reffing is slightly different from a professional game in the Turkish Superlig.
I totally agree with you about abuse from players and coaches btw, in all contexts. Should be totally outlawed and punished accordingly. I also agree that at a non-professional level, abuse by fans should be treated in the same way.
Your original response however seemed to imply that any abuse from the fans shouldn't be tolerated either. While I tend to agree with the sentiment, it just isn't realistic to expect a crowd of thousands of passionate fans to behave in a totally respectful way. Again, a few angry chants is a world away from a fan actually running on the pitch and violently attacking a ref. But if we outlaw antagonistic chants towards referees, then we have to do the same about those towards players, and eventually what? Towards opposition fans? Okay, well bye bye atmosphere then.
And then Tom wouldn't be able to shout at Nathan Jones telling him his football is ****

Not necessarily related to this conversation but I honestly believe we're only about 15-20 years from some clubs trying to ban swearing in grounds.