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Stay strong for those lads mate. It’s going to be tough for you personally for good while, but slowly the pain will start to ease and there will come a time when you will be able to rebuild. You have your health and my advise would be to hit the gym harder to burn off your anger and not hit the bottle to numb the pain. Believe me it doesn’t work.

Drink is the biggest hypocrite there is ...

... a depressant that makes you happy while it's in your hand.
 
I came out of a 9 year relationship in July, 2 kids. It kills me not being with them every day and I’m still getting used to the change, it really bothers me some days and especially at night time. My sister lost her fella in June to stomach cancer and it’s had a real effect on the family. I can say 2022 has been a rough year overall but I’ve still got some good memories. Watching the lads win at Wembley right alongside my 8 year old son and my dad was a special moment, one I’ll never ever forget.

Nightmare mate, I feel your pain.
I broke up with my ex wife/boys mam in 2016 and not living with my boys permanently really effected me and it still does now to this day. I'd have done anything to have a life living with them permanently and kissing them goodnight every single night.
It's really hard,and a massive head feck not being able to do it.
 
I came out of a 9 year relationship in July, 2 kids. It kills me not being with them every day and I’m still getting used to the change, it really bothers me some days and especially at night time. My sister lost her fella in June to stomach cancer and it’s had a real effect on the family. I can say 2022 has been a rough year overall but I’ve still got some good memories. Watching the lads win at Wembley right alongside my 8 year old son and my dad was a special moment, one I’ll never ever forget.

That's hard mate, I sympathise deeply.

No one ever said life was supposed to be fair ...

... not that it helps when it's not.
 
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Heres us 4 hours ago making memories. Deep down my head was in pieces but I always show a brave face to my lads in the hope they grow up mentally strong.
Just tell them every day how much you love them.
Also don't make the same mistake my sister made, by trying to buy their love by showering them with money and gifts, it back fired on her.
 
Just tell them every day how much you love them.
Also don't make the same mistake my sister made, by trying to buy their love by showering them with money and gifts, it back fired on her.

No need for that mate. I practically bought them up the first 4 years of their life which is the main reason me and their mam split up.
Our bond goes well beyond me having to spend money on them
 
@Tees...

I've always said that to give those you love the most you need to first be happy in yourself. There's all sorts of weird ones out there that like KFC smell good and look good but make you feel like crap the next day.

Be happy that you're a good dad and your boys love you, the rest is all just icing which isn't all that good for you anyway :)

Keep you chin up mate because good things do happen to good people.
 
@Tees...

I've always said that to give those you love the most you need to first be happy in yourself. There's all sorts of weird ones out there that like KFC smell good and look good but make you feel like crap the next day.

Be happy that you're a good dad and your boys love you, the rest is all just icing which isn't all that good for you anyway :)

Keep you chin up mate because good things do happen to good people.
Great post.
 
Nightmare mate, I feel your pain.
I broke up with my ex wife/boys mam in 2016 and not living with my boys permanently really effected me and it still does now to this day. I'd have done anything to have a life living with them permanently and kissing them goodnight every single night.
It's really hard,and a massive head feck not being able to do it.
How you doing now mate? I hope you get the chance to have your boys plenty over the next couple of weeks.
 
I'll be happy when my lads get dropped off tomorrow and then I give them back in the evening and wake up alone Xmas day whilst my lads are in another house experiencing an Xmas day without me and they'll be with their mam and stepdad.

Its mentally hard to take for me to take I'm sorry
 
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