Well I don't count myself as a spring chicken and since 1961 I have thought every year "it is now N years since we won the league and hoped this would be the season"Not once in my Spurs supporting time have I ever thought
"It's been N years since Spurs last won the league. About time
we won one by now" etc.
All that should matter is the club you support :
is playing decent football that you enjoy watching (more so if
you are a "paying customer" ) - the silverware is a bonus
.
By whose definition do we decide "all that should matter"
Each person has their own idea of what matters. I love winning - in everything I have ever tried. The buzz from winning I find exhilarating. Yes I can enjoy a good game of football but how many supporters leave a match they have drawn or lost fully satisfied because "it was a good performance?"
I want Spurs to win the League - not so that I can crow to others but so I can feel the exultation of having us Champions
For me the silverware is why we compete rather than becoming a Harlem Globe Trotters playing exhibition football. How many clubs and their supporters do not start the season wanting to reach the top of where their club could get (which differs for each). But a club like Spurs can reach for the number 1 spot.
The same applies to England - otherwise why the 40 (now the near 80) years of hurt. Blow playing nice football - when we take on Germany at penalties we want to win.

