The non-Jordan thread...

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cyprussydsafc said:
If you come to Durham jersey I will take you out, I know all the student places, have my membership card for the varsity, may pull a couple of women, what do you say.
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Hmmm, I might go to Lancaster instead... :D

Steve, I am so sorry for you and your family, I'll be sure to pray for you.
 
blackcatsteve said:
yeah i know mate, the other day when it happened i didnt want to talk to anyone, now i have talked to a few people, staff on my site, neighbours, family etc and i feel a lot better, next week though is when its all going to come flooding back.

bottom line is, my wife was 8 months pregnant, sunday she had a miscarraige, hd to give birth naturally, was there for the birth at 5am sunday, didnt hit home really till we seen him, then the waterworks/floodgates and everything else opened, wife got let out today but it was touch and go on whether she would need a blood transfusion, luckily she didnt but didnt find that out till this morning.

got to go and register the death tomorrow then sort out whatever funeral we are going to have for him, wife isnt sure if she wants to go, she is a bit of a state atm, hence why she is at her mams, but we need something, they said we could just give him to the hospital and they would deal with it (without holding him/looking at him at all) i just couldnt do that, he deserves a good send off and a proper buriel site.

told you i didnt want to make this morbid lol
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****ing hell, that put's everything into prospective.

Sorry for you and your Mrs mate, god bless, and best wishes.
 
blackcatsteve said:
yeah i know mate, the other day when it happened i didnt want to talk to anyone, now i have talked to a few people, staff on my site, neighbours, family etc and i feel a lot better, next week though is when its all going to come flooding back.

bottom line is, my wife was 8 months pregnant, sunday she had a miscarraige, hd to give birth naturally, was there for the birth at 5am sunday, didnt hit home really till we seen him, then the waterworks/floodgates and everything else opened, wife got let out today but it was touch and go on whether she would need a blood transfusion, luckily she didnt but didnt find that out till this morning.

got to go and register the death tomorrow then sort out whatever funeral we are going to have for him, wife isnt sure if she wants to go, she is a bit of a state atm, hence why she is at her mams, but we need something, they said we could just give him to the hospital and they would deal with it (without holding him/looking at him at all) i just couldnt do that, he deserves a good send off and a proper buriel site.

told you i didnt want to make this morbid lol
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Sorry to hear that BCS. No one deserves that. Hope the wife and yourself are keeping well considering the circumstances.
 
blackcatsteve said:
yeah i know mate, the other day when it happened i didnt want to talk to anyone, now i have talked to a few people, staff on my site, neighbours, family etc and i feel a lot better, next week though is when its all going to come flooding back.

bottom line is, my wife was 8 months pregnant, sunday she had a miscarraige, hd to give birth naturally, was there for the birth at 5am sunday, didnt hit home really till we seen him, then the waterworks/floodgates and everything else opened, wife got let out today but it was touch and go on whether she would need a blood transfusion, luckily she didnt but didnt find that out till this morning.

got to go and register the death tomorrow then sort out whatever funeral we are going to have for him, wife isnt sure if she wants to go, she is a bit of a state atm, hence why she is at her mams, but we need something, they said we could just give him to the hospital and they would deal with it (without holding him/looking at him at all) i just couldnt do that, he deserves a good send off and a proper buriel site.

told you i didnt want to make this morbid lol
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****ing hell mate.

Nowt we can say to fix it, other than to say stay strong, support eachother, and you have all of our best wishes.

Hopefully just having it out there will help take some of the load of.

<ok>
 
blackcatsteve said:
yeah i know mate, the other day when it happened i didnt want to talk to anyone, now i have talked to a few people, staff on my site, neighbours, family etc and i feel a lot better, next week though is when its all going to come flooding back.

bottom line is, my wife was 8 months pregnant, sunday she had a miscarraige, hd to give birth naturally, was there for the birth at 5am sunday, didnt hit home really till we seen him, then the waterworks/floodgates and everything else opened, wife got let out today but it was touch and go on whether she would need a blood transfusion, luckily she didnt but didnt find that out till this morning.

got to go and register the death tomorrow then sort out whatever funeral we are going to have for him, wife isnt sure if she wants to go, she is a bit of a state atm, hence why she is at her mams, but we need something, they said we could just give him to the hospital and they would deal with it (without holding him/looking at him at all) i just couldnt do that, he deserves a good send off and a proper buriel site.

told you i didnt want to make this morbid lol
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dont you be worried about morbid mate, it does us good to be reminded that when we are all arguing about football bad things are going on out there. I wont try and say the right thing because there is no right thing. But we will be thinking of the three of you.
 
Thankyou, it may only be words on a forum but it does help.

and i know there isnt anything to say, if i was in your shoes i probably wouldnt even post to something like that, but its happened, we cant turn the clock back, there was nothing that could be done, the placenta came away from the wall in the womb and she bled heavily (hence the blood transfusion), so it was no ones fault, **** happens as they say, we just have to try to put the pieces back together.

The hard part for me is, we are both 39, and he was my first son (i have 2 stepsons but they have a different names) and 2 daughters, and as we are getting on in years the chance of having another (which tbh we are not even thinking about atm) is slim to none.
 
hi bb i hope everthing whent ok i was a bit livid this morning but i have settled down a bit now <bubbly>
 
blackcatsteve said:
Thankyou, it may only be words on a forum but it does help.

and i know there isnt anything to say, if i was in your shoes i probably wouldnt even post to something like that, but its happened, we cant turn the clock back, there was nothing that could be done, the placenta came away from the wall in the womb and she bled heavily (hence the blood transfusion), so it was no ones fault, **** happens as they say, we just have to try to put the pieces back together.

The hard part for me is, we are both 39, and he was my first son (i have 2 stepsons but they have a different names) and 2 daughters, and as we are getting on in years the chance of having another (which tbh we are not even thinking about atm) is slim to none.
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like you say steve now is not the time but you never know what the future holds mate, right now its the wife who will need you and you need her.
 
blackcatsteve said:
Thankyou, it may only be words on a forum but it does help.

and i know there isnt anything to say, if i was in your shoes i probably wouldnt even post to something like that, but its happened, we cant turn the clock back, there was nothing that could be done, the placenta came away from the wall in the womb and she bled heavily (hence the blood transfusion), so it was no ones fault, **** happens as they say, we just have to try to put the pieces back together.

The hard part for me is, we are both 39, and he was my first son (i have 2 stepsons but they have a different names) and 2 daughters, and as we are getting on in years the chance of having another (which tbh we are not even thinking about atm) is slim to none.
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39 is no age my friend, my uncle had 2 wonderful sons into his 40's, now isn't the time to talk about that, but if this is what you both want, just hold onto that, and somewhere down the line it will happen for you.

I don't have kids, so i can't imagine your pain, but my heart goes out to you, and i give you all the best wishes i can.
 
vincemac said:
hi bb i hope everthing whent ok i was a bit livid this morning but i have settled down a bit now <bubbly>
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Hi Vince,

All's gone great aside from the aforementioned moped driver who rear ended me, there was no damage to my machine, so i laughed at the muppet, wasn't laughing till i'd checked mind ;)

Cheers.
 
Bruceys Beak said:
39 is no age my friend, my uncle had 2 wonderful sons into his 40's, now isn't the time to talk about that, but if this is what you both want, just hold onto that, and somewhere down the line it will happen for you.

I don't have kids, so i can't imagine your pain, but my heart goes out to you, and i give you all the best wishes i can.
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Agreed. You're well respected on here, though we're all just unknown faces behind computer screens, we'd do anything to help that we could, even if it's just kind words.
 
blackcatsteve said:
yeah i know mate, the other day when it happened i didnt want to talk to anyone, now i have talked to a few people, staff on my site, neighbours, family etc and i feel a lot better, next week though is when its all going to come flooding back.

bottom line is, my wife was 8 months pregnant, sunday she had a miscarraige, hd to give birth naturally, was there for the birth at 5am sunday, didnt hit home really till we seen him, then the waterworks/floodgates and everything else opened, wife got let out today but it was touch and go on whether she would need a blood transfusion, luckily she didnt but didnt find that out till this morning.

got to go and register the death tomorrow then sort out whatever funeral we are going to have for him, wife isnt sure if she wants to go, she is a bit of a state atm, hence why she is at her mams, but we need something, they said we could just give him to the hospital and they would deal with it (without holding him/looking at him at all) i just couldnt do that, he deserves a good send off and a proper buriel site.

told you i didnt want to make this morbid lol
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So sorry to read your sad news Steve. I know how you feel, because the same thing happened to me in 1989, we had a still born daughter 2 days after I returned home from my dads funeral. There is nothing that any of us can say to take away the pain that you and your wife are currently experiencing. All I can say is that time is a great healer. My thoughts are with you both.
 
I suppose i always wanted a son to carry on my name, my brother is 34 and single my sister 29 and single so i always felt its been up to me. If my surname was jones or smith i wouldnt really care, but there is not many of us in the NE, so it would have been nice. ah well wasnt to be.
 
NQDP said:
Agreed. You're well respected on here, though we're all just unknown faces behind computer screens, we'd do anything to help that we could, even if it's just kind words.
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We don't know eachother, but it sure feels like i know you all, so for all it's just words we can offer, if it can offer Steve the tiniest crumb of comfort, then that's a start.
 
I can assure you having the surname Smith is a ****ing annoyance.

However I was speaking to Npower customer services earlier and the woman asked me to spell my name out for her. That cheered me up no end though.
 
NQDP said:
I can assure you having the surname Smith is a ****ing annoyance.

However I was speaking to Npower customer services earlier and the woman asked me to spell my name out for her. That cheered me up no end though.
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<gasp> was it Chris??!!
 
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