The it’s ok to not be ok thread

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SAFCDRUM said:
I'm in an awful financial position at the moment. Does anyone recommend anywhere for advices or help?
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Me and the Mrs got sorted with stepchange - I was really nervous about calling them as we got ourselves into a right hole with our finances. They were quite frankly briliant - no judgment whatsoever and we ended up on a debt management plan(DMP) they sorted everything with people we owed money to and packaged it up into one single payment. Its still ongoing but not ashamed to say me and the mrs burst into tears at the end of the call more with relief than anything that we could finally see a light at the end of the tunnel.

Give them a call and see what they can do for you.

Good luck!
 
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I find myself fairly lucky no major health problems
Only weight problems
However the big C bought up with us in 2022
My wife had a successful operation and recovered well
We both suffer from back problems which has prevented us walking as much I we would like to
I’m not a rich man nevertheless we can afford our new cars and many holidays we just plod on
I agree we are better off than a few that’s because we prepared for our retirement
Now health is ok but we are getting older and feel it more
We try to support our family 2 daughter 1 granddaughter 3 great grand kids
I’m in Rhodes typing this and feel blessed
When I read all the comments about other
Posters problems I feel very happy that others are giving there support
Roll on the premiership
 
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SAFC2403 said:
Me and the Mrs got sorted with stepchange - I was really nervous about calling them as we got ourselves into a right hole with our finances. They were quite frankly briliant - no judgment whatsoever and we ended up on a debt management plan(DMP) they sorted everything with people we owed money to and packaged it up into one single payment. Its still ongoing but not ashamed to say me and the mrs burst into tears at the end of the call more with relief than anything that we could finally see a light at the end of the tunnel.

Give them a call and see what they can do for you.

Good luck!
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Thank you.
 
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SAFC2403 said:
Me and the Mrs got sorted with stepchange - I was really nervous about calling them as we got ourselves into a right hole with our finances. They were quite frankly briliant - no judgment whatsoever and we ended up on a debt management plan(DMP) they sorted everything with people we owed money to and packaged it up into one single payment. Its still ongoing but not ashamed to say me and the mrs burst into tears at the end of the call more with relief than anything that we could finally see a light at the end of the tunnel.

Give them a call and see what they can do for you.

Good luck!
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Good advice mate and even better if it’s helps a single soul :emoticon-0148-yes:
 
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Well it's the night before my dad's funeral and I think I'm coping ok.

Still having my moments, but having family and friends around has helped, this past 2 weeks have shown me it's ok to admit your feelings as others are feeling the same.

Tomorrow is going to be incredibly difficult, bit the thought of family, friends and Internet strangers raising a glass to dad give me and my family such comfort.

As the thread title says, it's ok to not be ok
 
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Chunksafc said:
Well it's the night before my dad's funeral and I think I'm coping ok.

Still having my moments, but having family and friends around has helped, this past 2 weeks have shown me it's ok to admit your feelings as others are feeling the same.

Tomorrow is going to be incredibly difficult, bit the thought of family, friends and Internet strangers raising a glass to dad give me and my family such comfort.

As the thread title says, it's ok to not be ok
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All the very best mate. Take care
 
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Chunksafc said:
Well it's the night before my dad's funeral and I think I'm coping ok.

Still having my moments, but having family and friends around has helped, this past 2 weeks have shown me it's ok to admit your feelings as others are feeling the same.

Tomorrow is going to be incredibly difficult, bit the thought of family, friends and Internet strangers raising a glass to dad give me and my family such comfort.

As the thread title says, it's ok to not be ok
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Will think of you tomorrow. It'll be a tough day, but keep remembering and talking about the good times and happy memories
 
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Chunksafc said:
Well it's the night before my dad's funeral and I think I'm coping ok.

Still having my moments, but having family and friends around has helped, this past 2 weeks have shown me it's ok to admit your feelings as others are feeling the same.

Tomorrow is going to be incredibly difficult, bit the thought of family, friends and Internet strangers raising a glass to dad give me and my family such comfort.

As the thread title says, it's ok to not be ok
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Good luck mate but I'm sure you'll be fine.

You may find that, as you're 'representing' your dad, you'll find the strength to help those around you.

I'm sure he'd be proud of you.
 
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Chunksafc said:
I hope I make him proud, I just miss him
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Only time I’ve ever seen my dad, a manly old school bloke, genuinely broken was his Mams funeral.

It humbled me. It made me and my Dad so much closer. I remember just going up and doing the old ‘alreet da’, and we had a snappy hand on back moment and moved on.

We had a much more open father son relationship straight after.

Death is horrific, but it can be channeled. I hope you get through the day strong mate, and I hope you get some positive bonding and family time from it like I did that day.

I’m certain he’ll be proud. Just remember to kiss, hug and tell the ones you love that you do.
 
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Chunksafc said:
Well it's the night before my dad's funeral and I think I'm coping ok.

Still having my moments, but having family and friends around has helped, this past 2 weeks have shown me it's ok to admit your feelings as others are feeling the same.

Tomorrow is going to be incredibly difficult, bit the thought of family, friends and Internet strangers raising a glass to dad give me and my family such comfort.

As the thread title says, it's ok to not be ok
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Thinking of you all for tomorrow, thoughts are with you all. <hug>
I will be raising an alcohol free glass to your Dad tomorrow.
 
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