I don’t want to put words into people’s mouths, but it reads like Beddy is talking about generational racism; racism that wasn’t necessarily meant as a direct insult, but commonly used.
Now Beddy is even older than my Dadand it’s an expression I use about my Dad. He is getting better but still uses the odd phrase or expression that I have to point out to him, he shouldn’t really be saying. My wife is Chinese Jamaican and my best mate’s wife is Sri Lankan. Our parents went to the same school and they both still use expressions such as “being one of them” when talking to our wives! No insult meant, but a bit of a clumsy expression.
I must admit to doing the same.......my grandchildren will correct me when they ask and I talk about my friends. As does my wife occasionally.......and there has been the occasional gaff on here too I might Add............... (and not so much on the ancient please
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