Off Topic Death.

Understandable mate. In fairness, I thought it was the case that he was only trying to raise your spirits and good that he has clarified that. Timing wasn't the best perhaps!

You will have mood swings up to the event but funerals can actually be cathartic.

Say your own goodbye and ignore any ****er that iritates you - if you start feeling the red mist think of your Gran and what she would want you to do most - it's really her day ... nobody else's.

 

I don't own a suit,

this is a right ballache.


The funeral costs are covered and money set aside for that.

****, theirs a lot off planning needed here.

 

Got a dark jacket? ... that'll do ... hate my black tie but it does feel like it's a mark of respect.

 

I've seen lots off death mate.

It;'s a horrible thing. I'm not looking for sympathy, just some tips.

I block everything out, same as i have always done, maybe not a good thing.

 

Hardest one was my cousin last year. We were in the same class at primary school; I was 3 weeks older. She called me just before my op and actually had me laughing. She was a tough cookie and beat breast cancer in her 30s before throat cancer got her in her 50s. Wasn't at all embarrassed about the tears in my eyes at her service ... said my goodbye, blew her a silent kiss and raised a glass in the pub after. Do similar mate - my tip

 

I won't shed a tear, i've already said my goodbye, in my personal way.

I didn't cry, i just sat in a slumber for about 5 minutes, could feel a tear coming tho.. So got my **** together,

 

Take it easy bruv ... I'm off to bed now so all the best

 

I'm always ok mate, just do my ****

 

Condolences Com, for your nan. Just do what you feels right, that's how most things go. Your local undertaker can help if you feel the pressure of arrangement is too much.

 

Black polo shirt or jumper seems to be acceptable if you don’t own a black tie. Suit or blazer, dark trousers.

No trainers.

 

Nothing ever dies, it simply changes form.

 

Sorry to hear of your bad news Commie

 

The ever changing kaleidoscope of life.

 

Moss Bros mate. They do quality suits for around £120

 

It's the first law of thermodynamics, energy cannot be created or destroyed in a closed system, merely changed.

 

The above post was to a comment much earlier, and wasn't a mark of disrespect Comm. I lost a very close friend 4 months back. Very sad story. RIP to your Nan,lad

 

Ah, but the second law - entropy always increases - says everything falls apart in the end.

 

Life moves on, as it always does.

 

that went west fast.