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brb said:
Sorry to read this mate, never realised you were already living apart. Suppose you just have to give her time. Maybe now restaurants are opened back up, ask if she fancies going for a meal - A quiet spot, that will give you both more opportunity to speak, to see where you are at in this relationship.

Good luck fella <ok>
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Cheers man. We were never living together, if we'd got married we would've moved in together. She had a kid from another marriage that failed as well so that was a factor. I don't have kids. I'm just going to do what she asked and leave it, I'm not desperate, I'm quite happy doing my own thing. If she gets back to me positively I'll probably just see if she wants a coffee
 
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lfcpower said:
Cheers man. We were never living together, if we'd got married we would've moved in together. She had a kid from another marriage that failed as well so that was a factor. I don't have kids. I'm just going to do what she asked and leave it, I'm not desperate, I'm quite happy doing my own thing. If she gets back to me positively I'll probably just see if she wants a coffee
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Fair enough mate, take it easy on yourself <ok>
 
lfcpower said:
I don't want to put too much but the nub is she was a different religion, after we got to know each other she wanted to get married asap basically as this was a requirement, I proposed so we were engaged, I wasn't really religious when we met but would have to convert and was trying to be alright with doing that, there had been other difficulties related to her religious beliefs, accusations at me of things I'd been doing wrong in her eyes which I managed to look past and try with, she gave me silent treatment quite a few times throughout the time, told me at one point she didn't want to get married to me anymore after an argument, despite all that when I decided to walk two months ago she was telling me for near two weeks how she's certain I'm the only person she ever wants to be with, love of her life all that kind of stuff. I could've acted better at times for sure but I didn't do anything seriously wrong in my eyes, apart from this and questioning things once before, but I'd started to feel like it was always me who was wrong about anything, that she thought she couldn't put a foot wrong, surely most things are 50/50
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Like all women she thought the same thing...I’ll wrap him around my finger...once he’s head over heels I’ll start to manipulate him with my demands and needs

called ****s for a reason mate and that reason is that it is the only useful bit on them

Is she out? Bag her clothes and dash them onto the footpath
 
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brb said:
<laugh>

I know what's it like, I used to get banned from my club main forum all the time, until I got a perm ban eventually :(
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Sorry to hear that mate. Everyone should be free to get a perm.
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Spurlock said:
Like all women she thought the same thing...I’ll wrap him around my finger...once he’s head over heels I’ll start to manipulate him with my demands and needs

called ****s for a reason mate and that reason is that it is the only useful bit on them

Is she out? Bag her clothes and dash them onto the footpath
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<laugh> [HASHTAG]#SubtleAsEver[/HASHTAG]
 
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lfcpower said:
I don't want to put too much but the nub is she was a different religion, after we got to know each other she wanted to get married asap basically as this was a requirement, I proposed so we were engaged, I wasn't really religious when we met but would have to convert and was trying to be alright with doing that, there had been other difficulties related to her religious beliefs, accusations at me of things I'd been doing wrong in her eyes which I managed to look past and try with, she gave me silent treatment quite a few times throughout the time, told me at one point she didn't want to get married to me anymore after an argument, despite all that when I decided to walk two months ago she was telling me for near two weeks how she's certain I'm the only person she ever wants to be with, love of her life all that kind of stuff. I could've acted better at times for sure but I didn't do anything seriously wrong in my eyes, apart from this and questioning things once before, but I'd started to feel like it was always me who was wrong about anything, that she thought she couldn't put a foot wrong, surely most things are 50/50
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You want to get back with that <laugh>
 
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lfcpower said:
I called her over the weekend. She answered and we spoke for almost an hour. I did apologise and all that, she heard me out but just said she's obviously had two months to think about things in the relationship and now she needs time to think and do the best thing for her. I followed it up with one email and said both times just let me know whatever she decides, so will leave it well alone now. I know what you're saying mate about having to let go of whatever entrenched position is there and just try to focus on the now in any future communication
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Weigh her in, she sounds like a right head worker, and it’s all way too complicated.

Move the **** on bro.
 
lfcpower said:
Cheers man. We were never living together, if we'd got married we would've moved in together. She had a kid from another marriage that failed as well so that was a factor. I don't have kids. I'm just going to do what she asked and leave it, I'm not desperate, I'm quite happy doing my own thing. If she gets back to me positively I'll probably just see if she wants a coffee
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Mate genuinely I think you've both gone into this relationship with your heart ruling your head. I think you probably both went in with good intentions but were naive and that suggests you're either young or inexperienced in mixed faith relationships or both. You've let emotion drive you before considering the reality of what compromises each of you would be willing to make to make this work. And I'm talking about how much she's willing to give up of her religious dogma and how much you're willing to take on.

She clearly isn't willing to make enough of those compromises and that doesn't make her a bad person - just someone who didn't look far enough ahead and is now struggling to come to terms with the realities of it all. I bet her immediate and wider family around her are her biggest obstacle? It takes a lot of balls to overcome that, and she would have to believe she's not betraying her faith before she could find that courage anyway. And from the impression you're giving, at this stage in her life she's not there.

In all honesty mate you both need to move on. It's not the religious divide that's the issue here but the inability on each of your part, especially her situation to look beyond that. And if you persist with it you'll both end up miserable. Find someone who makes you genuinely happy, same for her too. There's plenty out there.
 
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Treble said:
Mate genuinely I think you've both gone into this relationship with your heart ruling your head. I think you probably both went in with good intentions but were naive and that suggests you're either young or inexperienced in mixed faith relationships or both. You've let emotion drive you before considering the reality of what compromises each of you would be willing to make to make this work. And I'm talking about how much she's willing to give up of her religious dogma and how much you're willing to take on.

She clearly isn't willing to make enough of those compromises and that doesn't make her a bad person - just someone who didn't look far enough ahead and is now struggling to come to terms with the realities of it all. I bet her immediate and wider family around her are her biggest obstacle? It takes a lot of balls to overcome that, and she would have to believe she's not betraying her faith before she could find that courage anyway. And from the impression you're giving, at this stage in her life she's not there.

In all honesty mate you both need to move on. It's not the religious divide that's the issue here but the inability on each of your part, especially her situation to look beyond that. And if you persist with it you'll both end up miserable. Find someone who makes you genuinely happy, same for her too. There's plenty out there.
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Yeah what I said, only with more words and some actual subtlety.
 
Treble said:
I'm investing a bit of time in helping Lfcpower. There's a few unhappy livpl fans on here since they won the league. First Sucky, then Astro, now LP. It seems to have been a poisoned chalice.
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It seems to be a thing mate. They seem more arsed about people not being arsed than being happy that they’ve got the monkey off their backs.
 
@lfcpower you live in Liverpool? (Pretty rare for Liverpool fans to actually be there so I have to ask)

If so head down to popworld and get yourself a new girl. Full of young clung ready for action that place <cheers>
 
Treble said:
I'm investing a bit of time in helping Lfcpower. There's a few unhappy livpl fans on here since they won the league. First Sucky, then Astro, now LP. It seems to have been a poisoned chalice.
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Its like coming down after taking to much speed <rofl>
 
Sometimes relationships just don’t work and it’s no ones fault, in this case it seems like this girl wanted LP to change a lot of things, but doesn’t seem to be giving up on much.

maybe it’s best to move on, at least there is no kids or property involved so make a clean start with someone who will make you happy.
 
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Spurlock said:
Like all women she thought the same thing...I’ll wrap him around my finger...once he’s head over heels I’ll start to manipulate him with my demands and needs

called ****s for a reason mate and that reason is that it is the only useful bit on them

Is she out? Bag her clothes and dash them onto the footpath
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^^^^^^^ Kin' hell, I thought I was bitter. <eek>
 
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