Off Topic Are parents to blame

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PISKIE said:
As I've said, all parenting will affect the children. That's the nature of parenting. What those effects are are more to do with the parenting style that the parent's sexual orientation.

Can you post a link to the research that shows that children adopted by gay parents were more likely to engage in homosexual behaviour ? as that sounds highly dubious to me.

As for social services scrutinising prospective adoptive parents. Rightly so, they should be. But again, sexual orientation isn't the issue, the issue is whether they will provide a loving and secure home for the child.
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Bumming session.

Sorry mate, ive actually took the the time to log onto my laptop, and now i know why the phone easier,,,your stupid ****ing signature is like a 8 year olds kids..why do you do this ****?
 
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PISKIE said:
As I've said, all parenting will affect the children. That's the nature of parenting. What those effects are are more to do with the parenting style that the parent's sexual orientation.

Can you post a link to the research that shows that children adopted by gay parents were more likely to engage in homosexual behaviour ? as that sounds highly dubious to me.

As for social services scrutinising prospective adoptive parents. Rightly so, they should be. But again, sexual orientation isn't the issue, the issue is whether they will provide a loving and secure home for the child.
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Sorry (and it may have changed) but loving home was not sufficient for adopting. See the bme kids bits I posted
 
thefanwithnoname said:
Best just google.it mate. It's a changing field

However it was a fact,maybe still is, that bme kids were left behind when it came to adoption and not through white folk jot wanting them.but how social services saw the "best thing" for the child. This.included facing racism, bullying etc

Now most research around gay parents suggests the kids do face the same, albeit not early on (the case for bme is same in say primary school). So they get bullied and homophobia
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Where do you think homophobia comes from in kids?

It's not the kids that are the problem but the hetrosexual parents. Primary school, seriously mate, think about it.
 
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thefanwithnoname said:
Follow the conversation ffs mate

That's what piskie wrote and I responded .
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You said 'if one parent must be same ethnicity' when that's clearly not true so how is it relevant in any way shape of form? It's just utter horseshit.

I see you're resorting to 'google it' and 'what i know as fact' blah de ****ing blah which is your standard when people ask you to clarify your posts.
 
thefanwithnoname said:
Tbh I was just giving examples I was aware of and I did say to leibh that I know they were looking at that so it may have changed

But again I will ask the question if one parent must be same ethnicity then how far do we go with gay couples? Should one be same gender? Can men only adopt girls and women only boys?
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I don't think it's a 'must be' scenario. I think it's more about seeking at least one parent of similar ethnicity in order to give the child some cultural context to their parent/child relationship. So that the child can learn about the culture of their ethnicity through a parent who has experienced it.

I don't think Gay/Straight comes into the same category. A child isn't (or shouldn't be) sexualised at all. They should be a child and the main concern is having loving parents who care for them. Their own sexuality is something they will explore when they become teenagers.
 
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brb said:
Where do you think homophobia comes from in kids?

It's not the kids that are the problem but the hetrosexual parents. Primary school, seriously mate, think about it.
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No doubt mate. I think I mentioned before that I did one of those live science events at the local uni and I was amazed that we had to separate certain schools. They were as young as 5 ffs

When I say separate I mean they were all about fighting each other.
 
Commachio said:
Bumming session.

Sorry mate, ive actually took the the time to log onto my laptop, and now i know why the phone easier,,,your stupid ****ing signature is like a 8 year olds kids..why do you do this ****?
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Sorry, thought you wanted a decent thread with some good debate.
 
PISKIE said:
I don't think it's a 'must be' scenario. I think it's more about seeking at least one parent of similar ethnicity in order to give the child some cultural context to their parent/child relationship. So that the child can learn about the culture of their ethnicity through a parent who has experienced it.

I don't think Gay/Straight comes into the same category. A child isn't (or shouldn't be) sexualised at all. They should be a child and the main concern is having loving parents who care for them. Their own sexuality is something they will explore when they become teenagers.
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But affected by what's around them at home?
 
brb said:
Where do you think homophobia comes from in kids?

It's not the kids that are the problem but the hetrosexual parents. Primary school, seriously mate, think about it.
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So. Having gay parents will make them ok>
 
The Liebherr Legacy said:
You said 'if one parent must be same ethnicity' when that's clearly not true so how is it relevant in any way shape of form? It's just utter horseshit.

I see you're resorting to 'google it' and 'what i know as fact' blah de ****ing blah which is your standard when people ask you to clarify your posts.
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Because piskie typed it and I responded. He only typed it as a response to what I had said tbf. But again follow he conversation
 
brb said:
Nope, I've never said that - there is no book to parenting, you either get it right or you don't. Nowt wrong in making mistakes that's how we learn, as long has we learn from them.
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Learn on the job imo.

You can prepare yourself as much as like for it but once that day comes your going on instinct mainly <ok>

It's why some people ain't cut out for it too.
 
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brb said:
Nope, I've never said that - there is no book to parenting, you either get it right or you don't. Nowt wrong in making mistakes that's how we learn, as long has we learn from them.
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We're still not looking at it from the kids for view,,
 
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