Had some interesting chats with a variety of Europeans this week, some colleagues from my company but most senior doctors. None were totally happy with the EU, but equally none wanted their country to leave. Only one (a Frenchman! But also a lovely bloke) wanted the UK to leave, on the grounds that many/most of us never really wanted to be in. The Eastern Europeans (Czech, Slovak, Pole, Lativian) who were all of an age to remember what it was like before the end of Soviet domination, were incredulous about the arguments about sovereignty, they felt that the EU underwrites democracy in their countries, and that things could have got very nasty indeed had they not had rapid access to the EU (Belarus often cited). The Spanish blokes were similar, the EU played a massive role in their transition from Fascism. All were concerned by the refugee crisis (especially the French and Germans), but none by free movement within the EU. And all were proud of their countries (while being open about a variety of problems) and felt that they would continue to exist within the context of the EU.
Of course, it's all relative, if people here feel they are oppressed by the EU that's a genuine feeling, even though the scale of oppression might be very different to what others have experienced. And, obviously, as these are the views of successful, cosmopolitan, well educated professionals, all true 'experts' in their field, they can be discounted as they are obviously members of either the 'liberal elite' or the 'establishment' (take your pick).
One interesting thing on the Euro. The Czechs and Swedes are not members, but they are meant to be working towards joining. In fact they have no intention of joining and deliberately don't meet some of the criteria needed so the question never arises. And this is tacitly understood by all, no big thing is made of it. It's not an inevitable juggernaut.
I hope, and think, EU reform (which is desperately needed, especially around the role of the commission) will happen. And we will probably claim the credit as the catalyst if we leave. But I think, with the right attitude, we could play a leading role in driving it if we stay. But we won't, because our fundamental attitude, from both the Remain and Leave camps, is 'what's in it for us'. I believe this narrow focus on 'our best interests' is the key issue here, inability to accept that the collective European best interest is actually also the UK best interest, blinds us to what could be achieved and locks us into an adversarial relationship. So I am right back to where I started on this thread. Despite my personal view, we are temperamentally unsuited to cooperation, we just **** it up for the others. Leaving will have negative consequences economically for both the UK and the EU, but in the long run they are probably better off without us.