Toby signs for Spurs - official.

I am relaxed. I have never and never will lose my cool on here. If some one disagrees with me they disagree with me. If some one calls me a prick it doesn't matter either. End of the day you are all randoms to me so I don't mind what you think of me. I just like talking to other Saints fans. When is it my turn to play my I Pod?

 

I may have obnoxious prick as my next name it sounds good. End of the day that's agree to disagree. Toby is in the past so all we are doing is saying the same stuff over and over again.

 

RLSGM the moment you stoop so low as to fire personal abuse, your credibility disappears. Even when you realised that, you didn't have the decency to apologise.

 

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Well you won't have any arguments from me on that front! Yep, he is gone and a big shame it is too, he will be hard to replace. Lets hope the recruitment team pull another rabbit soon.

 

The abuse wouldn't have arisen was it not for the manner in which my comments were replied too. I am not here to join your club FLT, just offer some different perspectives and be met with discussion, not condescending, obnoxious replies. I would react equally if anyone spoke to me in such a way in real life. Therefore I shall not be apologising at all as I was fully 'aware' of what I said when I typed it!

 

Depends what your music tastes are Beefy?

 

I'm not in a club, but I don't think there is any need for abuse like that. It doesn't stand anyone in good stead and you should really be able to debate and disagree without it. I disagree lots of times and sometimes in a heated manner, but you don't need to abuse people.

Just have a think about that, that's all. It's a pleasant board.

 

Can't beat a bit of Bob Marley or 80's tunes.

 

I agree that abuse should be avoided, but seriously, this board is one of the single worst for being fiery with outsiders. I offered a simple perspective once and had an absolute tirade of **** from all the regulars on here saying I was a WUM because I had the temerity to suggest there were links between the way my club and yours was run... Because WUMMING the Southampton board would be a worthwhile exercise for a Newcastle fan (right colour stripes, I'll grant you, and you may start with an S, but don't flatter yourselves)

It's a multi-board forum, it's not a single board forum. If you want to get your insular-introvert-jollies-off, pop onto Southampton.net or whatever. This is a board for all, not just those who support the saints, and while you will obviously have the most interest in it and post the most on it, everyone should be welcome. There's going to be people roving about offering opinions on things that tickle their muse, especially when their own club is unable to sign a player to save their life. Of all the boards, Southampton's is one of the single most hostile to the newcomer post (ironically, the Spurs board is in top spot in that regard, good luck with that bunch of tossers Toby!).

On the actual topic I came to post about, I'm disappointed Toby went for Spurs, and with his subsequent comments. Spurs and Southampton are in the same bracket as far as I'm concerned in the league top-doggery, and a real improvement would have been one of the top 4 (god knows he hasn't spent long enough at the Saints for Liverpool to come running like a dribbling-infatuated-school-kid). Koeman's shown a shrewd eye so far, and as much as I worried for the future of Saints after the old fella left and was replaced by someone who seemingly couldn't give two ****s, the ship seems in much safer hands than our own sinking vessel.

 

I completely agree with the debater aspect there, of which I didn't really get much. Just moral high grounding by the regulars! I am aware of how to conduct myself, and act accordingly. I don't throw insults around commonplace, only when I see fit.

 

I'm afraid to agree with everything here.....well done.
When I first posted on here I got abused and when I retaliated I was the one who got warned!.........not the greatest most welcoming board......and I'm a Saints fan!
Unfortunately unless you post regular your not in the "club" or that's how it certainly feels.
By Jove God forbid if you've got an opinion of your own or you don't agree with someone else's "more" important post.
But fair play.........it's meltdown time.

 

Thanks

 

That sounds like how life can be sometimes. Some people instantly feel welcome; some don't.

 

When given backhanded comments like that, sometimes will be always.

 

Where have I given a backhanded comment? I think you're just looking too hard now. There is nothing contentious or back handed about that post at all.

 

Certainly a very unwelcome board I'm afraid.
Most of the time I just read because it's just not worth putting your thoughts on here because their never right.
It's a old boys club.

 

Seriously, that's how life can be sometimes? When you're kid/wife whatever has a bad day the first thing you say is that's how life can be? It's like the most backhanded comment you can use. It's up there with 'well others have it worse off' and 'it could be worse'. It CAN be like that if you choose it to be, which you ever so clearly are!

 

If you post your opinion on here you have to accept some will disagree. If you have a go you have to accept some one will have a go back. As long as it doesn't turn into insults then it's fine. But then some people feel when their opinion is being disagreed with it's some kind of personal attack. It isn't it may seem like some one is going crazy at you or taking the piss but how can you tell? Unless it's obvious cough RLSGM cough (joking btw). That's the trouble with forums most of the time.

 

I do feel that criticism being labelled meltdown is abusive and belittling to genuine opinions. Please save meltdown comments for people screaming WE'RE GOING DOWN.