Hull City fan in peace.
I hope all your family are ok, but particularly your oldest son.
My oldest Grandson is autistic and likes to occasionally go with me to games, and even when he isn’t going he likes to talk about the fact he has done and that we go together.
I’m even having to try and grow an apple tree from seeds he kept from a free apple he got from the kids fruit box at a game!

Different point really but the club have been fantastic with him (sensory room access, dedicated parking spot, showing him round days before games so he knows where he is going and sitting before anyone else is in the stadium etc)
I really feel for you, and can imagine how hard this is for him and you.
Sending you all my best wishes.
Take care