My gut feeling is that if there was the much sought after "People´s Vote" or another referéndum the "Leave" side would win unless it was split between the various leave options and remain. Unlike you, I do blame the Tories for the complete fiasco. What started off as an internal spat should have remained that. Alas Cameron allowed the boil to explode with negative consequences. It has divided familites, friendships, the UK. And of course there could well be considerable public disorder, something which the Tories are expert in creating. Remember Heath in the 70s, Thatcher in the 80s, and now this lot. It will take a Labour Government to heal the country as it did in 1964, 1974, 1997.
When Leave won the Referéndum, what should have happened then was to have resolved the conditions of leaving and agreed this in the HoC before issuing Article 50. Instead this lot put the cart before the horse.