I think he may believe that you are not prepared to consider the situation today based on some experiences you have had in the past (your words). I’d call that closed minded. Others may say another thing.
I understand that fats...........Trust me I am not closed minded............My past experiences will never allow a change of mind..........they were bad experiences to the extreme. I just cannot discuss them on a forum..........Trust me I would not use them to influence anyone........they were just my family experiences. Thats all I want to say on the subject.