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i love this little bastard
 
Coming on the internet about selling gear <doh> be very careful about what you type mate.

nah i don't mean, i've never sold drugs, i meant, anyone who sells it mate

i've never ever sold it and i never would, and i meant i never sold onto drugs

extremely bad definition i know! i have never ever sold drugs, i realise that's a pretty bad post though.. ffs
 
i ned th e staoon

i canlt let i go

i think europa fom

we ar eokay laddies
 
An enlightening and thought provoking topic, I admire and respect the candid stories and statements of the posters on here and thank you for sharing them with people such as myself who haven't been affected by this kind tragic situation, if only to make us more aware of psychological disorders- only that 'positive subjects ' like this can only help give a broader awareness to the anxieties concerning people with 'mind' illnesses.
 
I think discussing it is exactly what's needed, instead of a taboo subject in which the suffers keep it to themselves. Mental health needs so much more awareness. People how suffer from mental illness or their concerned family or friends should be free to discuss it without any hang ups and be able to be as honest as they feel they need to be. A person would feel uncomfortable talking about a poorly leg so why not a poorly brain?

I totally agree mate. I was just referring to some of the comments/insults you occasionally see. Sometimes they just a little tempering.
 
Lads, im just an outsider from QPR board and i have to congratulate you on such an open and honest thread.
Firstly, well done to your mods for keeping this running as I can see many times thay could have closed it.
next, well done to the guys/girlz who fronted up and admitted thier problems. Massive respect to you.

We had a similar thread a while back on our board and we had posts from a few guys who had been in the position. had some great posts too.

Good luck next season lads <ok>
 
Bumping this one.
Won't give personal details out but had a house fire today. Dragged fella out of house reluctantly and put fire out. Turned round to leave and found another seat of fire in another room. Turns out he was trying to end it all. To top it off he'd purposely left 3 gas rings on too so could of taken myself and mate out with him, completely selfish move.
Again though, he was clearly depressed and at that point I guess you don't think straight.
I am so glad I've got a carefree attitude toward life, I can't imagine putting my friends and family through that.

P.S the old fella was fine ...... well physically.
 
My beloved sister took her own life years ago and it still hurts me thinking about her today. Sometimes when I talk about her I'm in floods of tears. It had a terrible effect on my poor mother.
 
I had vestibular nueritas in 1994, it was worse than like being sea sick all the time, my balance went and my eyes rolled etc and it took 7 months before I got better, I reckon I got it from a poisonous plant in our garden, but that was sheer hell and drove me close.
 
My beloved sister took her own life years ago and it still hurts me thinking about her today. Sometimes when I talk about her I'm in floods of tears. It had a terrible effect on my poor mother.

That's awful mate...One of my granddads killed himself because he didn't want to go in hospital..He thought they would use him for experiments because he was 78. However, I was only seven at the time so didn't really understand at the time..
 
Bumping this one.
Won't give personal details out but had a house fire today. Dragged fella out of house reluctantly and put fire out. Turned round to leave and found another seat of fire in another room. Turns out he was trying to end it all. To top it off he'd purposely left 3 gas rings on too so could of taken myself and mate out with him, completely selfish move.
Again though, he was clearly depressed and at that point I guess you don't think straight.
I am so glad I've got a carefree attitude toward life, I can't imagine putting my friends and family through that.

P.S the old fella was fine ...... well physically.

Well done mate. Not sure if you're in the services, not that it matters, but well done anyway.

You're right though, guys in that state don't consider the consequence of their actions, or that they may put others in harm's way. They're beyond logic and reason, and need help not derision.
 
Some good posts on here, it makes you open your eyes to the world, your own minor irritations become just that when you read what others go through! Fortunately never been there myself (close once), so all I can say is keep going forward, and like the posts, help each other get through the darkest times.
It's true what they say a trouble shared is a trouble halved. Many of you who have been there probably wouldn't, if only you had been able to talk to a mate.
Keep up nthe good work lads.
 
Another one from Sunderland has just ended it...



DEVASTATED that his benefits had been stopped, a man with epilepsy hanged himself.

Trevor Drakard had been deemed fit for employment, after a back-to-work assessment.

The 50-year-old, who never married and had few friends, took his own life at his home in Sunderland.

An inquest into his death heard Mr Drakard had been diagnosed with epilepsy from the age of six and was receiving Incapacity Benefit.

Coroner&#8217;s officer Neville Dixon told a hearing in Sunderland: &#8220;In the past few months he had been deemed fit to work and his benefits were stopped.

&#8220;He had been in the process of appealing with the Citizens Advice Bureau.

&#8220;He had been feeling very down in recent weeks, due to the stress of losing his benefits.&#8221;

http://www.sunderlandecho.com/news/...elf-after-his-benefits-were-stopped-1-6825510
 
Another one from Sunderland has just ended it...



DEVASTATED that his benefits had been stopped, a man with epilepsy hanged himself.

Trevor Drakard had been deemed fit for employment, after a back-to-work assessment.

The 50-year-old, who never married and had few friends, took his own life at his home in Sunderland.

An inquest into his death heard Mr Drakard had been diagnosed with epilepsy from the age of six and was receiving Incapacity Benefit.

Coroner’s officer Neville Dixon told a hearing in Sunderland: “In the past few months he had been deemed fit to work and his benefits were stopped.

“He had been in the process of appealing with the Citizens Advice Bureau.

“He had been feeling very down in recent weeks, due to the stress of losing his benefits.”

http://www.sunderlandecho.com/news/...elf-after-his-benefits-were-stopped-1-6825510

Strong minded people with friends & family can overcome most of life's tribulations.

Poor bloke's like him don't have the resolve or hope to overcome these problems.

Whatever the case he's been let down.

Anyone who has the courage and determination to be able to hang themselves doesn't deserve that horrible end.

I don't believe there are more than 1% of the country who could deliberately take their own lives.

Suicide is as brave as it's often considered cowardly.
 
This is an amazing thread and I admire as well as respect all those who have laid themselves bare and more vulnerable with some of these confessions.

I think it has to be one of our last great frontiers, to confront openly, with humility, those who suffer the stigma of anxiety, stress, depression and mental disability/illness. There should be no shame in saying openly, 'I had a disrupted childhood', 'my family values/upbringing was dysfunctional', 'I was abused and I'm trying to come to terms with it', or 'I was maliciously bullied at school and it has left a scar'. Additionally, I suffer from anxiety and I don't know why, or I have a chemical imbalance that leads to depression and I take pills for it - surely no one should feel shame in saying those things? There are SO MANY! people in this situation and most will not come forward for fear of what others might think - in part, the negative stigma these kind of ailments receive from society and in part, a symptom of the lowered self-esteem that sufferers feel; everything from not wanting to be a burden to a fear that this would further their feelings of inadequacy, in other words another symptom of the illness.

We really need to wake up here. Mental well-being is surely on a spectrum from very healthy to varied levels of less than healthy. We all know the less than healthy because we have all been there at some point. In a well-functioning and healthy society, people should be able to come forward and say "hey, I'm not doing so good this morning" - can you just give me a bit of space and can I please slope off early today as I need to speak to ...how many employers would currently - knowingly take on someone who is bi-polar or BPD as against a non-BPD? The whole value system associated with this is f**ed up.

The older I get, the more I've come to realise, there is a scary big number of damaged individuals out there that are shunned, ignored and marginalised. We should be enabling and supporting these people to have more enriching and fulfilling lives which would be to the benefit of all in society. People today say things like: "Yes, I was a victim of bullying", "I had cancer" or even "I am gay" with relative comfort - why shouldn't it be the case with these kind of issues? - where, for instance in the workplace, someone might say "I suffer from Aspergers" and this is what it means to me, this is what others can do to help me a bit. or "I suffer from OCD and it upsets me when ..." this happens, if people could please do this instead.

This is a problem that is not going to go away, if anything, it will probably get worse and I strongly feel that we as a society are guilty of avoidance.
 
This is an amazing thread and I admire as well as respect all those who have laid themselves bare and more vulnerable with some of these confessions.

I think it has to be one of our last great frontiers, to confront openly, with humility, those who suffer the stigma of anxiety, stress, depression and mental disability/illness. There should be no shame in saying openly, 'I had a disrupted childhood', 'my family values/upbringing was dysfunctional', 'I was abused and I'm trying to come to terms with it', or 'I was maliciously bullied at school and it has left a scar'. Additionally, I suffer from anxiety and I don't know why, or I have a chemical imbalance that leads to depression and I take pills for it - surely no one should feel shame in saying those things? There are SO MANY! people in this situation and most will not come forward for fear of what others might think - in part, the negative stigma these kind of ailments receive from society and in part, a symptom of the lowered self-esteem that sufferers feel; everything from not wanting to be a burden to a fear that this would further their feelings of inadequacy, in other words another symptom of the illness.

We really need to wake up here. Mental well-being is surely on a spectrum from very healthy to varied levels of less than healthy. We all know the less than healthy because we have all been there at some point. In a well-functioning and healthy society, people should be able to come forward and say "hey, I'm not doing so good this morning" - can you just give me a bit of space and can I please slope off early today as I need to speak to ...how many employers would currently - knowingly take on someone who is bi-polar or BPD as against a non-BPD? The whole value system associated with this is f**ed up.

The older I get, the more I've come to realise, there is a scary big number of damaged individuals out there that are shunned, ignored and marginalised. We should be enabling and supporting these people to have more enriching and fulfilling lives which would be to the benefit of all in society. People today say things like: "Yes, I was a victim of bullying", "I had cancer" or even "I am gay" with relative comfort - why shouldn't it be the case with these kind of issues? - where, for instance in the workplace, someone might say "I suffer from Aspergers" and this is what it means to me, this is what others can do to help me a bit. or "I suffer from OCD and it upsets me when ..." this happens, if people could please do this instead.

This is a problem that is not going to go away, if anything, it will probably get worse and I strongly feel that we as a society are guilty of avoidance.

It's been an eye opener.... So many stories about life..

Don't know what else to say really. But i've learned a lot from it.
 
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