Mental Health Thread
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Sometimes…You really are.
It shines through in everything you post
Thoughts are with you today RCL.
You really are.
It shines through in everything you post
You should have seen his matchday threads on the Arsenal board during the peak Wenger/Ebening/Early Arteta collapse era
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Yeah, on reflection, he’s a bit of a twonk really isn’t he?You should have seen his matchday threads on the Arsenal board during the peak Wenger/Ebening/Early Arteta collapse era
Please don't apologise, RCL. This is what this thread is for. Dump away.
Im not ashamed to admit that the Not606 family is an important one to me for this very reason
We are great support for each other and this place as an outlet is essential in a world that makes it difficult for us to be open and vulnerable as men.
Bro hugZ to Alfie and Col
much love to you both
Xxx
We are great support for each other and this place as an outlet is essential in a world that makes it difficult for us to be open and vulnerable as men.
Bro hugZ to Alfie and Col
much love to you both
Xxx
Many factors today had me at my lowest, today the weather was as gloomy as my mood , We have my wife's funeral on Monday so I was putting the final details to that , then I realised that I had not seen certain precious items of jewellery that she used to wear . I sat in our bedroom and just thought where would you put them as we had to leave for the hospital in a hurry all those weeks ago , then it came to me ,they were in a box on the dressing table that one of the grandkids gave her .
Out of the blue one of our neighbours called for a chat and a cup of tea , her family had only moved in six months ago but she said my wife was the first to welcome them to the street and offered help one day when my wife could see she was looking upset , 2hrs later after a lot of tears and some laughter she left with me with a lighter mood
Out of the blue one of our neighbours called for a chat and a cup of tea , her family had only moved in six months ago but she said my wife was the first to welcome them to the street and offered help one day when my wife could see she was looking upset , 2hrs later after a lot of tears and some laughter she left with me with a lighter mood
Every parents worse nightmare, and I genuinely don't know how I would have coped in that situation. I've had lots of ups and downs in my life but nothing approaches what your family went through. I'm not afraid to say I shed a tear reading your post.
Take care young man.
So so sorry for your loss Alfie...Hope Monday goes as well as can be.
Sending a hug and good thoughts
To everyone...thank you for your very kind comments.
This is genuinely a good place full of good people.
This is genuinely a good place full of good people.
Monday will be difficult for you but funerals can also help people move on and face their future with a bit more clarity and certainty. Give your wife the send off she deserves.
Jolly good to hear there were some laughter today intermingled with your grief. Take care.
My heart goes out to Alfie and RCL - both wonderful people. I have not been around for a bit as we are trying to move near our daughters for better support after last month's fall and it is unbelievable how much time solicitors, finance people and estate agents take up.
Sorry to miss your post on Thursday RCL - others here do not know how much you are supporting me through whatsapp at the moment and you do that despite everything going on in your life. The tree is a wonderful thing.
Alfie - i will be thinking of you tomorrow - you too are the best.
Sorry to miss your post on Thursday RCL - others here do not know how much you are supporting me through whatsapp at the moment and you do that despite everything going on in your life. The tree is a wonderful thing.
Alfie - i will be thinking of you tomorrow - you too are the best.
Along with all the other lovely folks on here, sending love to you and your family at this terrible time - and you will be in my thoughts tomorrow!
May you take more of that joy and laughter from the day and keep it with you forever!
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The club linking up with The Samaritans? Makes sense.
Not a bad attempt, to be fair.
Hi all.
A week or so ago I went through some difficult times at work.
I was reported for an alleged misdemeanor - or if you want sexual harassment and fat shaming of a female staff member.
I am in my 60's and have never had this happen to me before.
At the same time a younger male staff member was also accused of deeds worse than mine( he resigned before the investigation ended)- all connected to the same complainant.
I was placed on indefinite leave with pay while it was investigated.
The first week was waiting to find out what the complaint was about - this was a very stressful and worrying time as the complainant was free to work while I couldn't.
Turns out all the complaints were hearsay and guesswork as it was all about the other guy - I was collateral damage and in the end they could find no proof on any of the accusations.
So 2 weeks to reach the correct decision - but it did my mental and physical health no good but my family stood by me and for that I am grateful.
What I am getting to is my company did not offer any support or assistance until I asked for it.
I kept getting apologies and didn't get any information until I returned to work last Monday.
HR law here in Australia states that the employer must provide assistance where required - mine didn't.
My manager was furious with HR and has vowed to ensure this doesn't happen again.
I am still getting back to normal but am wary of what I say and to whom.
Thanks for reading.
Btw I was hoping Spurs would distract me from my woes but of course they didn't !
COYS
A week or so ago I went through some difficult times at work.
I was reported for an alleged misdemeanor - or if you want sexual harassment and fat shaming of a female staff member.
I am in my 60's and have never had this happen to me before.
At the same time a younger male staff member was also accused of deeds worse than mine( he resigned before the investigation ended)- all connected to the same complainant.
I was placed on indefinite leave with pay while it was investigated.
The first week was waiting to find out what the complaint was about - this was a very stressful and worrying time as the complainant was free to work while I couldn't.
Turns out all the complaints were hearsay and guesswork as it was all about the other guy - I was collateral damage and in the end they could find no proof on any of the accusations.
So 2 weeks to reach the correct decision - but it did my mental and physical health no good but my family stood by me and for that I am grateful.
What I am getting to is my company did not offer any support or assistance until I asked for it.
I kept getting apologies and didn't get any information until I returned to work last Monday.
HR law here in Australia states that the employer must provide assistance where required - mine didn't.
My manager was furious with HR and has vowed to ensure this doesn't happen again.
I am still getting back to normal but am wary of what I say and to whom.
Thanks for reading.
Btw I was hoping Spurs would distract me from my woes but of course they didn't !
COYS
God an awful story that must have been sheer hell.
Similar thing happened to a friend's son in law here at the local secondary school . Girl made an accusation that almost led to police action even before things had been looked into.
Eventfully due to a fluke disclosure it all came out how the girl had "a thing" about him and was under the impression he had rejected her, even though it was a fabrication!! He went through months of shocking stuff (as it had leaked via the kids) before being exhonorated. Frightening how it can spiral so quickly....