Never a truer word, Alfie! So sorry to hear this and can only send heartfelt best wishes to you both. Stay strong!
I'm so sorry to hear this. If there's ANYTHING at all that any of us can do...you know that you just have to say... Love to you, your wife, your family and friends. You will be in my thoughts.
that's an awful situation but you are a fantastic person for doing what you are. I know people think that the samaritans are only there for those about to end their lives but they will listen to anyone ... you can call from any phone for free on 116123. I know that sharing on here has made me feel looked after...I hope it does the same for you 61. all the best
Thank you all for your kind comments and wishes. I was very nervous about posting it but the response has made me glad that I did.
Best wishes to you and your wife Alfie. Pancreatic cancer took my brother-in-law many years ago he was only about 50 and had no symptoms until it was nearly all over. As you say love your family and friends and do not put off all your plans till tomorrow as you really do not know what is around the corner. When we lived near London a neighbour's wife got dementia and he said to us that they had so many plans for their retirement but she no longer knew who he was half the time. Inspired by that I retired early and as soon as our youngest went to University we daftly went on the programme Escape to the Country and ended up buying a 35 acre farm near Carmarthen. We only had a year there before Mrs S61 was diagnosed with a tumour which in typical Welsh fashion they described as about the size of a rugby ball (she thought she just had a type of flu) - but that was one of the best years of our lives. We bought sheep, goats, chickens, Shetland ponies and dug about 30 vegetable beds whilst letting local farmers use much of the land. No regrets even though we had to sell and move back near London for Mrs S61's treatment. If you have plans - do them while you can.
Thanks to you all , we take each day as it comes because we do not know whats round the corner , Carol is one of those organisers, our marriage is one of those easy going partnerships where we Carried out traditional roles, I still worked until last month , the company have given me compassionate leave but it's the transfer of various things , insurance, bank accounts , standing orders ect , cancellation of a holiday was a massive ball ache and getting past the GPs reception, spending hours in A&E is draining but the staff are brilliant and the organisation by the hospice staff will be forever greatful but without doubt the hardest part is gradually breaking the news to the grandkids age 10,7,5 and 2 Thanks once again
