Off Topic Mental Health Discussion Thread

[Wildie]

Myself and a few friends have set up a Facebook group purely for posting happy, exciting, wholesome content to avoid the negativity that surrounds us in the news, on Social Media etc. Its something light hearted, to encourage people to post things that make them happy, excited, or to show off their passions without worry of people commenting negatively. Join if you want

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1130240004737623

 

[SW3 Chelsea Tiger]

This has been a very good thread, let's not spoil it.

what happened? What did I miss?

 

[AlRawdah]

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c51y2g5qnw4o

 

[steverico]

what happened? What did I miss?

I asked questions but not allowed by the thought police

 

[TIGERSCAVE]

Well done Wolves…

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Ive seen different versions of this not only with the suicide message on YT... all have the same result. people of all ages prepared to share with a complete stranger, that which they might find difficult to share with these nearest to them. I have a particular friend who when I asked are you ok.?.. his response of 'yeah I'm ok', let me know he wasn't. We talked for maybe half an hour and he broke down, but I think and hope it helped him to have been able to uncork the bottle so to speak..

 

[DazzaHatty]

You know what **** it I need help guys. Worth a try. I know I'm a negative ****er on these forums but, it's me currently. I see the worst in everything. Including City I apologise but, yeh. This is my story. **** it.

I've got a lot of problems currently. I'm 32 and don't feel like I've accomplished anything in my life. It all started after I lost my dad 3 years ago. Was at university doing really well and since thst point everything has gone to crap. Started university in 2018 with a foundation year so likely would've finished 2022. Now it's 2024 I've just dropped because, I just can't do it. Employers won't employ me because obviously they see was at university for 6 years and didn't graduate. Feel depressed, lost, still missing my dad, useless, hopeless and worthless. Never known what ot feels like to be in love either. I can't drive so I have the negativity of most jobs having driving license as essential. Yeh I don't know.

 

[DazzaHatty]

You know what **** it I need help guys. Worth a try. I know I'm a negative ****er on these forums but, it's me currently. I see the worst in everything. Including City I apologise but, yeh. This is my story. **** it.

I've got a lot of problems currently. I'm 32 and don't feel like I've accomplished anything in my life. It all started after I lost my dad 3 years ago. Was at university doing really well and since thst point everything has gone to crap. Started university in 2018 with a foundation year so likely would've finished 2022. Now it's 2024 I've just dropped because, I just can't do it. Employers won't employ me because obviously they see was at university for 6 years and didn't graduate. Feel depressed, lost, still missing my dad, useless, hopeless and worthless. Never known what ot feels like to be in love either. I can't drive so I have the negativity of most jobs having driving license as essential. Yeh I don't know.

I feel as though I'm spiralling to rock bottom and I can't put the breaks on it.

 

[Paul Jewitt]

I feel as though I'm spiralling to rock bottom and I can't put the breaks on it.

I know it's an obvious thing to say but the first step you should take is speaking to your GP. If you get prescribed anti depressants it can steady the ship enough for you to get a grip on the other aspects of your life you're dissatisfied with. I have just had to go back on them and after 4 weeks I'm feeling in a much better place to deal with things.
Don't get me wrong, medication is probably not the solution long term, but it can help you begin to deal with things that are getting on top of you

 

[DazzaHatty]

I know it's an obvious thing to say but the first step you should take is speaking to your GP. If you get prescribed anti depressants it can steady the ship enough for you to get a grip on the other aspects of your life you're dissatisfied with. I have just had to go back on them and after 4 weeks I'm feeling in a much better place to deal with things.
Don't get me wrong, medication is probably not the solution long term, but it can help you begin to deal with things that are getting on top of you

Thanks mate. I think I'll get in contact with them. I know I need to do something. Like do you know how I can spin my cv into a positive? Should I say I lost my dad so that's why I didn't graduate? Should that go on my cv? Ideally it shouldn't but, how else can they know why I dropped out during final year?

 

[Paul Jewitt]

Thanks mate. I think I'll get in contact with them. I know I need to do something. Like do you know how I can spin my cv into a positive? Should I say I lost my dad so that's why I didn't graduate? Should that go on my cv? Ideally it shouldn't but, how else can they know why I dropped out during final year?

It would probably be better to put that on your cover letter rather than the CV

 

[DazzaHatty]

It would probably be better to put that on your cover letter rather than the CV

That makes sense! Thank you.

 

[DuaneDarby18]

You know what **** it I need help guys. Worth a try. I know I'm a negative ****er on these forums but, it's me currently. I see the worst in everything. Including City I apologise but, yeh. This is my story. **** it.

I've got a lot of problems currently. I'm 32 and don't feel like I've accomplished anything in my life. It all started after I lost my dad 3 years ago. Was at university doing really well and since thst point everything has gone to crap. Started university in 2018 with a foundation year so likely would've finished 2022. Now it's 2024 I've just dropped because, I just can't do it. Employers won't employ me because obviously they see was at university for 6 years and didn't graduate. Feel depressed, lost, still missing my dad, useless, hopeless and worthless. Never known what ot feels like to be in love either. I can't drive so I have the negativity of most jobs having driving license as essential. Yeh I don't know.

My first bit of advice is to not take the rejection of job offers personally. You will be rejected a lot before you are accepted somewhere - only people who are very lucky will get something first time.

These companies and people you are applying to don’t know you. They are also probably looking at lots of other CV’s, such is the way of the world at the minute.

When I left Uni, I messed up my final year and went through depression. I did not find work for nearly a year, despite having a degree (albeit not one that was as good as it should have been due to those issues). This obviously added to my negative thoughts etc and at that time I truly believed there was no hope and blamed it all on myself. That was 16 years ago.

Since then, I have worked in various fields and thrived in all of them. I love my job now, where I make a huge positive impact on young people. I don’t earn a lot, but to me, job satisfaction means more than anything.

I would recommend doing something where you can help others (healthcare, support work etc). Turn this around so that you can use it as good experience to help others who might struggle at times. You will find something. It might just take a bit of time. Nice one for speaking up about it.

 

[askewshair]

You’ve probably taken the biggest step by admitting you are struggling. I’m sure you’ve heard of Andy’s Man Club?
https://andysmanclub.co.uk/full-club-lists/
It’ll be another big step to get through the door, but apparently there’s no pressure to talk until you feel ready.

 

[Heimdallr]

Thanks mate. I think I'll get in contact with them. I know I need to do something. Like do you know how I can spin my cv into a positive? Should I say I lost my dad so that's why I didn't graduate? Should that go on my cv? Ideally it shouldn't but, how else can they know why I dropped out during final year?

What type of work are you applying for?

 

[Plum]

That makes sense! Thank you.

Good on you for 'coming out' as it were, the best first step you can take. I can't offer much by way of advice save for the one time I found myself in a dark place. I found a private counsellor I felt comfortable with, she worked wonders for me. In terms of your cv and your circumstances I wonder if these people can help?
https://nationalcareers.service.gov.uk/contact-us
As posted earlier see your gp in the first instance.
Good luck.

 

[dennisboothstash]

You know what **** it I need help guys. Worth a try. I know I'm a negative ****er on these forums but, it's me currently. I see the worst in everything. Including City I apologise but, yeh. This is my story. **** it.

I've got a lot of problems currently. I'm 32 and don't feel like I've accomplished anything in my life. It all started after I lost my dad 3 years ago. Was at university doing really well and since thst point everything has gone to crap. Started university in 2018 with a foundation year so likely would've finished 2022. Now it's 2024 I've just dropped because, I just can't do it. Employers won't employ me because obviously they see was at university for 6 years and didn't graduate. Feel depressed, lost, still missing my dad, useless, hopeless and worthless. Never known what ot feels like to be in love either. I can't drive so I have the negativity of most jobs having driving license as essential. Yeh I don't know.

I’m no expert, but it sounds like losing your father was a trigger, and a very understandable one.
Life changing events like that can be much more traumatic than you expect, and affect different people in very different ways.
As others have said you’ve taken an important step talking about it on here, and if you can do that in person with a professional then even better.
I know it won’t feel like it now, but you will be able to turn things round and end up in a happier place. There are a lot of people in their early 30’s who will have a worse CV and won’t even know what they really want to do as a career anyway. Same for loving relationships.
A discussion with some type of career advisor will also help frame what you can apply for, what you can do to be more employable in your careers of choice, and how to make the most of the learning you do have.
As I said I’m certainly no expert, but I have been on an awful lot of interview panels so if you want me to cast an eye over a CV or a supporting letter for something then feel free to PM me and I’ll help if I can
Take care

 

[DazzaHatty]

Just want to say thank you to everyone who took the time to reply to me or message privately. I appreciate all of you. There's so much advice to take on board that I'm a little overwhelmed by it all. I honestly never expected this much support. I'm going to take some time to carefully analyse the advice from all of you and come up with the best strategy I think is for me. Didn't want you to think that you took that time to offer support and advice that I've ignored you. I haven't, I've read all of it but, briefly atm. I feel its easier to post a blanket message to thank all of you together. This is why I love our tiger family

 

[Leon...]

Just want to say thank you to everyone who took the time to reply to me or message privately. I appreciate all of you. There's so much advice to take on board that I'm a little overwhelmed by it all. I honestly never expected this much support. I'm going to take some time to carefully analyse the advice from all of you and come up with the best strategy I think is for me. Didn't want you to think that you took that time to offer support and advice that I've ignored you. I haven't, I've read all of it but, briefly atm. I feel its easier to post a blanket message to thank all of you together. This is why I love our tiger family

Dazza - re: Careers Advice.

Not sure which university you attended but it is highly likely that you will still be able to access their careers advice centre and it's likely it'll be free and impartial. Typically they are good - universities are measured on student progression.

It might be also worth speaking to said university about your circumstances (if not already). You may be able to pick up where you left off at a later date/transfer your credits.

Best of luck with it all, you'll get through it, and from reading the above, some great advice and people on your side already.

 

[amberman8]

Got my 1st ever MRI scan today looking for inflammation in my spine. Not a big deal for most of you but I'm sh1tting myself...panic attacks all week. Will be done by 1.30pm hopefully...im just a great big baby

 

[originallambrettaman]

Got my 1st ever MRI scan today looking for inflammation in my spine. Not a big deal for most of you but I'm sh1tting myself...panic attacks all week. Will be done by 1.30pm hopefully...im just a great big baby

Good luck, hopefully you'll find you've be worrying unnecessarily.

I've had about 20 MRI scans, it's a slightly odd feeling, but over before you know it.