It’s a horrible thing to say but it’s quite important to have the do not resuscitate conversation with your elderly relations before it gets to this stage, where no one can be expected to think straight. I had to do it with my mum a few years ago after she had recovered - 6-8 months- from massive heart surgery - she was very clear that she would not go through anything like that as an older or frailer person.
Totally this.......’cos if the conversation hasn’t taken place, even if you know granny would like to pass away peacefully.......if I don’t see that bit of paper that I’m gonna be pumping on her chest and breaking every rib in her little frail old body.......(though in certain circumstances I might not start)