As someone who lived away for years, I can confirm you can watch your team only rarely yet remain a committed supporter.
I also don’t hold it against anyone who does go to Wembley. Personally. I do have problem with the EPL juniors being crowbarred into it. Nevertheless, we did consider going but added to the philosophical objections, a) I’ve already committed to £1,000 taking we 4 to home games, b) in terms of time, that means going to all the remaining Saturday games except Derby and c) although I think we can go up automatically, we certainly would go to any playoff games including Wembley, so we’ve decided not to.
For every one person now saying “how can you not support your team at Wembley”, there’s another saying “don’t cave in now in opposition to the EPL”. Both have merit but there are other factors too.