Luvgonzo asks; Am I sexist?

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Back on topic, my boss atm is a woman and she's a right laugh. She wasn't my manager originally, we reported to same manager and we got on well then but had a shuffle and I report to her and she's a really good boss in terms of people skills.

Most at my team are women and have been for last few years though, has its ups and downs. Major down is lack of 'banter' can have, even just about football and stuff. Have to pop into guys in room next to ours and chat to them.

One is very annoying, couple people said she's quite difficult to get on with and we even have clashes between her and this over member of staff. On lther hand girl that just left was a right laugh so swings and roundabouts.

What at I find worse is not male/female but age. Most of team are in late 30s so middle aged women and me don't have much in common, where as girl that just left was my age so had much more in common and same wave length.
 
InBiscanWeTrust said:
Back on topic, my boss atm is a woman and she's a right laugh. She wasn't my manager originally, we reported to same manager and we got on well then but had a shuffle and I report to her and she's a really good boss in terms of people skills.

Most at my team are women and have been for last few years though, has its ups and downs. Major down is lack of 'banter' can have, even just about football and stuff. Have to pop into guys in room next to ours and chat to them.

One is very annoying, couple people said she's quite difficult to get on with and we even have clashes between her and this over member of staff. On lther hand girl that just left was a right laugh so swings and roundabouts.

What at I find worse is not male/female but age. Most of team are in late 30s so middle aged women and me don't have much in common, where as girl that just left was my age so had much more in common and same wave length.
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Late 30s = middle aged?

FFS <doh>
 
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pieguts said:
Like many on here, my experiences of working with the fairer sex has generally been positive. However, what does "grind my gears" is my company has embarked on this more women in the boardroom mentality. In the last 12 months, I have seen two women promoted into senior positions because they are women and two guys, who were more deserving miss out because of it. Surely, promotions should be based on ability rather than gender.
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I think there's a minefield here.

If you say ok. we've not done this well and there should really be more woman already at senior level then accelerating something to rectify an issue might make sense.

However to do it arbitrarily is dangerous. If you promote badly you will lose the talent as it will move elsewhere and you will be stuck with incompetance in your own ranks.

There should be by now more women at higher positions as we are now what 20/30 years or more into a far more equal situation for women.

I remember a guy where i used to work who told the quality site manager not to hire a woman as a quailty group manager cos she'd only go get knocked up and after 2 kids she'd **** off. she was married with one kid. now that ws the 1990s.. probably 96 or 97... the guy was dead right of course and it happened exactly as he predicted. was he right? no.

but there you go.

Thats a long time back but i do feel the lack of women at senior level is down to this kind of thinking back then cutting off opportunities.

I think naturally we should see more equailty at board room level in next 10 years... surely its inevitable as there a lot more women at middle management level
 
pieguts said:
Like many on here, my experiences of working with the fairer sex has generally been positive. However, what does "grind my gears" is my company has embarked on this more women in the boardroom mentality. In the last 12 months, I have seen two women promoted into senior positions because they are women and two guys, who were more deserving miss out because of it. Surely, promotions should be based on ability rather than gender.
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Positive discrimination in any guise is bollocks mate.

However, your view on whether these 2 women were less deserving of their promotion is subjective and it'd be wrong to assume that they got their new roles due to fitting the needs of a quota........or giving damn good head :bandit:
 
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InBiscanWeTrust said:
Back on topic, my boss atm is a woman and she's a right laugh. She wasn't my manager originally, we reported to same manager and we got on well then but had a shuffle and I report to her and she's a really good boss in terms of people skills.

Most at my team are women and have been for last few years though, has its ups and downs. Major down is lack of 'banter' can have, even just about football and stuff. Have to pop into guys in room next to ours and chat to them.

One is very annoying, couple people said she's quite difficult to get on with and we even have clashes between her and this over member of staff. On lther hand girl that just left was a right laugh so swings and roundabouts.

What at I find worse is not male/female but age. Most of team are in late 30s so middle aged women and me don't have much in common, where as girl that just left was my age so had much more in common and same wave length.
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not playing favorites then?

I have found the biggest single issue with men working for women is where the woman is an ardent promoter of females. Theres nothing wrong with any manager having a star pupil or mentor i suppose but where you see somebody getting preferential treatment from a woman boss as they are her giving back to the female community then that becomes an issue.

A manager should be developing all her staff to the best of her ability based on what they can do not anything else
 
InBiscanWeTrust said:
Back on topic, my boss atm is a woman and she's a right laugh. She wasn't my manager originally, we reported to same manager and we got on well then but had a shuffle and I report to her and she's a really good boss in terms of people skills.

Most at my team are women and have been for last few years though, has its ups and downs. Major down is lack of 'banter' can have, even just about football and stuff. Have to pop into guys in room next to ours and chat to them.

One is very annoying, couple people said she's quite difficult to get on with and we even have clashes between her and this over member of staff. On lther hand girl that just left was a right laugh so swings and roundabouts.

What at I find worse is not male/female but age. Most of team are in late 30s so middle aged women and me don't have much in common, where as girl that just left was my age so had much more in common and same wave length.
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No wonder you don't like us on here then.
 
Tobes said:
I know I'm middle aged mate, but 35 isn't ffs.

Scary that you're in Human Remains
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Give or take a year...

Im not in the fluffy part of HR, projects and systems is my thing.
 
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