OT. Guatemala

We all have to make sacrifices in life mate.



Joking aside, good luck trying to reason with a pair of headstrong twenty somethings, I hope logic prevails

 

If she does go make sure she brings you back some of this...........

http://www.amazon.co.uk/s/?ie=UTF8&...vptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_70e3ct8b4o_b

 

Good luck RHC. You seem to have a good relationship with your daughter, so hopefully that means she respects your opinion, even where she doesn’t agree with it. If you can show your genuine concern and the reasons for it (but obviously not in a pathetic, whiny way!), hopefully that will resonate with her.

Or, if all else fails, grab a knife from the kitchen and hold it to her throat. Or better yet, his throat.*

*Note: I am not serously suggesting you do this.

 

So update RHC - how did the talk go?

 

It's at 8pm tonight...

 

I read back and saw 8pm, thought it was last night ..... so still one more day to worry.

 

I can't really answer any of that yet. She's been seeing him for a fair while now and has pretty much moved in with him. He's a nice enough lad and she's not stupid. I need to uncover both his and her motivations, which I'll do tonight. My basic premise will be that at his age and hers, one more year won't make any difference, other than she'll have a 1st or 2.1 in English Literature. That's the ****ing bottom line.

He's got the right first name for the trip - Charlie

 

[QUOTEHe's got the right first name for the trip - Charlie][/QUOTE]

Not Charlie the landscape gardener??????

 

fair enough... it sounds at least that unless he's doing it to avoid commitment she won't get dumped over there after 2 weeks.

 

So many variables and unanswered questions here. For example, does he want her to go and so asked her to, or did she suggest that she joins him??

 

The other bottom line is that I won't be funding ANY of this and I'd be astonished if her mother was prepared to do it. I'll save that until the end

 

Unknown.

 

4 hours 17 minutes to go...

 

That gives you a little less leverage then. If she's doing it all on her own/with her bf there's not much you can do

 

That's not a good stance to take, let children know that if they've made their mind up there's nothing you can do and they'll walk all over you. Strange as it may seem, they do like having boundaries, which is why they like to push you a little further their way.

 

Set boundaries on a 20 year old and your asking for trouble, imo. They don't need your permission for anything, and the more you come across as a heavy-handed parent (in their eyes), the more likely they are to resist.

 

FFS

 

Oh bugger.
Fair cop.
I'll change it quick before RHC sees it.

 

I think that's the first mistake I've seen from you - I wanted to get in quick and take the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.