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Red Hadron Collider said:
Thanks Danilo. That's made me feel a ****ing site better <yikes>

They're both coming round at 8.00 pm tonight. No pint or spliff when I get back from work. This is serious business.
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We all have to make sacrifices in life mate.

<laugh>

Joking aside, good luck trying to reason with a pair of headstrong twenty somethings, I hope logic prevails <ok>
 
Good luck RHC. You seem to have a good relationship with your daughter, so hopefully that means she respects your opinion, even where she doesn’t agree with it. If you can show your genuine concern and the reasons for it (but obviously not in a pathetic, whiny way!), hopefully that will resonate with her.

Or, if all else fails, grab a knife from the kitchen and hold it to her throat. Or better yet, his throat.*

*Note: I am not serously suggesting you do this.
 
moreinjuredthanowen said:
so......... comments

1. this is a snap decision based on chasing a man not here own aspirations? would you say she would never have gone to such a place if not for him?

2. if its chasing him.... then is he a johnny come lately you have not learned his name yet or is he the real deal... not to her to you, her sister etc..... will they fall out after 3 months and he leaves her to fend for herself?

3. is this a travel to one place OR is this lets tour round? you do see this being lets go through columbia... lets go to peru... where the danger is much higher?


My view is if someone has not shown interest before in travel suddenly is all for going its for a bad reason especially when uni is affected.

however it i a great learning by all accounts
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I can't really answer any of that yet. She's been seeing him for a fair while now and has pretty much moved in with him. He's a nice enough lad and she's not stupid. I need to uncover both his and her motivations, which I'll do tonight. My basic premise will be that at his age and hers, one more year won't make any difference, other than she'll have a 1st or 2.1 in English Literature. That's the ****ing bottom line.

He's got the right first name for the trip - Charlie <yikes>
 
Red Hadron Collider said:
I can't really answer any of that yet. She's been seeing him for a fair while now and has pretty much moved in with him. He's a nice enough lad and she's not stupid. I need to uncover both his and her motivations, which I'll do tonight. My basic premise will be that at his age and hers, one more year won't make any difference, other than she'll have a 1st or 2.1 in English Literature. That's the ****ing bottom line.

He's got the right first name for the trip - Charlie <yikes>
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fair enough... it sounds at least that unless he's doing it to avoid commitment she won't get dumped over there after 2 weeks.
 
RedLadSonofAnfield said:
That gives you a little less leverage then. If she's doing it all on her own/with her bf there's not much you can do
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That's not a good stance to take, let children know that if they've made their mind up there's nothing you can do and they'll walk all over you. Strange as it may seem, they do like having boundaries, which is why they like to push you a little further their way.
 
johnsonsbaby said:
That's not a good stance to take, let children know that if they've made their mind up there's nothing you can do and they'll walk all over you. Strange as it may seem, they do like having boundaries, which is why they like to push you a little further their way.
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Set boundaries on a 20 year old and your asking for trouble, imo. They don't need your permission for anything, and the more you come across as a heavy-handed parent (in their eyes), the more likely they are to resist.
 
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