The it’s ok to not be ok thread

[Tongester55]

Hope you managed to enjoy the game and all OK when you got home.

I often dread going home after a rare time out as its normally gond tits up.

My wife has had enough if medication and the 'experts' so she's today started a 3 day fasting of no food or water. We'll see.

Sorry to hear about your wife, hopefully things pick up.
Yeah, enjoyed the game, although thoughts kept wondering and hoping she was ok. However, felt confident for the game because when I went to get a bag out of the drawer, there was a charity bag in there, with the beautiful Bradleys face grinning up at me with his two thumbs up. Just the inspiration I needed to know that everything was going to be ok, match wise and wifevwise.
When I got home and saw that she had been ok the relief was obvious as I went over to her to give her a big hug and say thank you for convincing me to go. She told everyone that the smile on my face as I walked in was priceless.
Whilst I was out, my daughter and her planned a girly night in next Friday so I can get to the Forest match as well. Can't wait

 

[Chunksafc]

How's everyone doing?

Had a bit of a down week this week, been over thinking things as usual and trying to put on the brave face.

Found Andys Man Club has helped, I would be lower if I hadn't had a place i could get things off my chest this past 2 weeks.

Sorry everyone, just having a vent

 

[Essayyeffcee]

How's everyone doing?

Had a bit of a down week this week, been over thinking things as usual and trying to put on the brave face.

Found Andys Mam Club has helped, I would be lower if I hadn't had a place i could get things off my chest this past 2 weeks.

Sorry everyone, just having a vent

Vent away, that's what this place is for

 

[Essayyeffcee]

How's everyone doing?

Had a bit of a down week this week, been over thinking things as usual and trying to put on the brave face.

Found Andys Mam Club has helped, I would be lower if I hadn't had a place i could get things off my chest this past 2 weeks.

Sorry everyone, just having a vent

Do you think you'll use Andy's Man Club again?

 

[Snaggey]

The last week or so has been a bit of a struggle tbh, been quite down.

My daughter, her partner, and Grandson have been in Crete for 10 days and its been a bit strange not seeing them. They're back tomorrow night, so missing the Forest game to go and pick them up from Ponteland airport.

This little lad will be 1 in two weeks time, and i cant wait to see him again tomorrow.

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She found out on the day of my wife's, her Mam's, funeral in January that she was pregnant again, though she kept it to herself till the following day. It was lovely news, but a bit bittersweet at the same time....there was someone missing who should have been there to share the moment with.

Little Ronan is going to have a brother, and im absolutely made up.
Im gonna be a Grandad, again.

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[Chunksafc]

Do you think you'll use Andy's Man Club again?

Yes mate, its a good place and I will be going when i feel i need to

 

[Essayyeffcee]

Yes mate, its a good place and I will be going when i feel i need to

That's great to hear

 

[LAMackem]

The last week or so has been a bit of a struggle tbh, been quite down.

My daughter, her partner, and Grandson have been in Crete for 10 days and its been a bit strange not seeing them. They're back tomorrow night, so missing the Forest game to go and pick them up from Ponteland airport.

This little lad will be 1 in two weeks time, and i cant wait to see him again tomorrow.

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She found out on the day of my wife's, her Mam's, funeral in January that she was pregnant again, though she kept it to herself till the following day. It was lovely news, but a bit bittersweet at the same time....there was someone missing who should have been there to share the moment with.

Little Ronan is going to have a brother, and im absolutely made up.
Im gonna be a Grandad, again.

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He's going to break some hearts when he gets older.....congratulations grandad

 

[Becs]

The last week or so has been a bit of a struggle tbh, been quite down.

My daughter, her partner, and Grandson have been in Crete for 10 days and its been a bit strange not seeing them. They're back tomorrow night, so missing the Forest game to go and pick them up from Ponteland airport.

This little lad will be 1 in two weeks time, and i cant wait to see him again tomorrow.

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She found out on the day of my wife's, her Mam's, funeral in January that she was pregnant again, though she kept it to herself till the following day. It was lovely news, but a bit bittersweet at the same time....there was someone missing who should have been there to share the moment with.

Little Ronan is going to have a brother, and im absolutely made up.
Im gonna be a Grandad, again.

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Awww man, that's lovely news. Bairns are so precious

 

[Ozzymac]

Emotional rollercoaster is the only way to describe the las 24 hours. Either that or just call it a generally cr@p day.

Got the call at 10pm Monday that they had a donor liver for my wife. Told that they would call us first thing in the morning to confirm that the donation was going ahead.
8am phone call to come into the hospital to start the pre-surgical testing. Midday get told that it's not going ahaead as the liver is now getting sent interstate for someone on life support. Cue the tears from my wife and myself whilst understanding the decision.

Drive home and just sit there numb. Wife saying things like she can't do this anymore etc. She's been waiting 2 years in July if she makes it after being given 12-18 months so things are getting serious.

been home for an hour and the phone rings. Come back down, the interstate recipient have siad no to the donor liver. Trying everything to curb the excitement and concerns as to how will we handle this if we get told it's not happening twice in the same day as they need to do a biopsy after the liver is removed from the donor to make sure its viable.

Head back down to the hospital. A few more tests and waiting in silence to see if it's going ahead. 5pm the transplant coordinator comes in with what can only be described as an ashen look. The liver is not suitable. Absolutely gutted, wife says nothing but just starts to sob.

I feel it, its getting so damn hard for her and there's f*ck all i can do

 

[Smug in Boots]

Emotional rollercoaster is the only way to describe the las 24 hours. Either that or just call it a generally cr@p day.

Got the call at 10pm Monday that they had a donor liver for my wife. Told that they would call us first thing in the morning to confirm that the donation was going ahead.
8am phone call to come into the hospital to start the pre-surgical testing. Midday get told that it's not going ahaead as the liver is now getting sent interstate for someone on life support. Cue the tears from my wife and myself whilst understanding the decision.

Drive home and just sit there numb. Wife saying things like she can't do this anymore etc. She's been waiting 2 years in July if she makes it after being given 12-18 months so things are getting serious.

been home for an hour and the phone rings. Come back down, the interstate recipient have siad no to the donor liver. Trying everything to curb the excitement and concerns as to how will we handle this if we get told it's not happening twice in the same day as they need to do a biopsy after the liver is removed from the donor to make sure its viable.

Head back down to the hospital. A few more tests and waiting in silence to see if it's going ahead. 5pm the transplant coordinator comes in with what can only be described as an ashen look. The liver is not suitable. Absolutely gutted, wife says nothing but just starts to sob.

I feel it, its getting so damn hard for her and there's f*ck all i can do

All I can say is that I’m thinking about you both, I have nothing else mate.

 

[rooch 3]

Emotional rollercoaster is the only way to describe the las 24 hours. Either that or just call it a generally cr@p day.

Got the call at 10pm Monday that they had a donor liver for my wife. Told that they would call us first thing in the morning to confirm that the donation was going ahead.
8am phone call to come into the hospital to start the pre-surgical testing. Midday get told that it's not going ahaead as the liver is now getting sent interstate for someone on life support. Cue the tears from my wife and myself whilst understanding the decision.

Drive home and just sit there numb. Wife saying things like she can't do this anymore etc. She's been waiting 2 years in July if she makes it after being given 12-18 months so things are getting serious.

been home for an hour and the phone rings. Come back down, the interstate recipient have siad no to the donor liver. Trying everything to curb the excitement and concerns as to how will we handle this if we get told it's not happening twice in the same day as they need to do a biopsy after the liver is removed from the donor to make sure its viable.

Head back down to the hospital. A few more tests and waiting in silence to see if it's going ahead. 5pm the transplant coordinator comes in with what can only be described as an ashen look. The liver is not suitable. Absolutely gutted, wife says nothing but just starts to sob.

I feel it, its getting so damn hard for her and there's f*ck all i can do

That’s so sad mate, I have no idea what to say, except hang in there and hope the next ones for you.

 

[Slim Jim B]

Emotional rollercoaster is the only way to describe the las 24 hours. Either that or just call it a generally cr@p day.

Got the call at 10pm Monday that they had a donor liver for my wife. Told that they would call us first thing in the morning to confirm that the donation was going ahead.
8am phone call to come into the hospital to start the pre-surgical testing. Midday get told that it's not going ahaead as the liver is now getting sent interstate for someone on life support. Cue the tears from my wife and myself whilst understanding the decision.

Drive home and just sit there numb. Wife saying things like she can't do this anymore etc. She's been waiting 2 years in July if she makes it after being given 12-18 months so things are getting serious.

been home for an hour and the phone rings. Come back down, the interstate recipient have siad no to the donor liver. Trying everything to curb the excitement and concerns as to how will we handle this if we get told it's not happening twice in the same day as they need to do a biopsy after the liver is removed from the donor to make sure its viable.

Head back down to the hospital. A few more tests and waiting in silence to see if it's going ahead. 5pm the transplant coordinator comes in with what can only be described as an ashen look. The liver is not suitable. Absolutely gutted, wife says nothing but just starts to sob.

I feel it, its getting so damn hard for her and there's f*ck all i can do

So sorry to hear that. Far too much of an emotional rollercoaster for you both. Stay strong, your wife needs all your support and strength now. Thinking of you both

 

[TonyG]

Emotional rollercoaster is the only way to describe the las 24 hours. Either that or just call it a generally cr@p day.

Got the call at 10pm Monday that they had a donor liver for my wife. Told that they would call us first thing in the morning to confirm that the donation was going ahead.
8am phone call to come into the hospital to start the pre-surgical testing. Midday get told that it's not going ahaead as the liver is now getting sent interstate for someone on life support. Cue the tears from my wife and myself whilst understanding the decision.

Drive home and just sit there numb. Wife saying things like she can't do this anymore etc. She's been waiting 2 years in July if she makes it after being given 12-18 months so things are getting serious.

been home for an hour and the phone rings. Come back down, the interstate recipient have siad no to the donor liver. Trying everything to curb the excitement and concerns as to how will we handle this if we get told it's not happening twice in the same day as they need to do a biopsy after the liver is removed from the donor to make sure its viable.

Head back down to the hospital. A few more tests and waiting in silence to see if it's going ahead. 5pm the transplant coordinator comes in with what can only be described as an ashen look. The liver is not suitable. Absolutely gutted, wife says nothing but just starts to sob.

I feel it, its getting so damn hard for her and there's f*ck all i can do

We think we have problems and then we see a post like this. Really hope the situation changes mate.

 

[Snaggey]

Emotional rollercoaster is the only way to describe the las 24 hours. Either that or just call it a generally cr@p day.

Got the call at 10pm Monday that they had a donor liver for my wife. Told that they would call us first thing in the morning to confirm that the donation was going ahead.
8am phone call to come into the hospital to start the pre-surgical testing. Midday get told that it's not going ahaead as the liver is now getting sent interstate for someone on life support. Cue the tears from my wife and myself whilst understanding the decision.

Drive home and just sit there numb. Wife saying things like she can't do this anymore etc. She's been waiting 2 years in July if she makes it after being given 12-18 months so things are getting serious.

been home for an hour and the phone rings. Come back down, the interstate recipient have siad no to the donor liver. Trying everything to curb the excitement and concerns as to how will we handle this if we get told it's not happening twice in the same day as they need to do a biopsy after the liver is removed from the donor to make sure its viable.

Head back down to the hospital. A few more tests and waiting in silence to see if it's going ahead. 5pm the transplant coordinator comes in with what can only be described as an ashen look. The liver is not suitable. Absolutely gutted, wife says nothing but just starts to sob.

I feel it, its getting so damn hard for her and there's f*ck all i can do

Ah mate, I feel for you both, I really do.
That is so sad to read, I cant imagine what youve both gone through today.
You will both in my thoughts, and hoping for a positive outcome.

 

[LAMackem]

Emotional rollercoaster is the only way to describe the las 24 hours. Either that or just call it a generally cr@p day.

Got the call at 10pm Monday that they had a donor liver for my wife. Told that they would call us first thing in the morning to confirm that the donation was going ahead.
8am phone call to come into the hospital to start the pre-surgical testing. Midday get told that it's not going ahaead as the liver is now getting sent interstate for someone on life support. Cue the tears from my wife and myself whilst understanding the decision.

Drive home and just sit there numb. Wife saying things like she can't do this anymore etc. She's been waiting 2 years in July if she makes it after being given 12-18 months so things are getting serious.

been home for an hour and the phone rings. Come back down, the interstate recipient have siad no to the donor liver. Trying everything to curb the excitement and concerns as to how will we handle this if we get told it's not happening twice in the same day as they need to do a biopsy after the liver is removed from the donor to make sure its viable.

Head back down to the hospital. A few more tests and waiting in silence to see if it's going ahead. 5pm the transplant coordinator comes in with what can only be described as an ashen look. The liver is not suitable. Absolutely gutted, wife says nothing but just starts to sob.

I feel it, its getting so damn hard for her and there's f*ck all i can do

God bless you mate....my thoughts and prayers are with you both.

It's easy to say this but try, try, try to keep it going...you have to have the strength for both of you now...things can change in any given minute to give you both the answer your looking.

Will be on the pray mate tonight for you......LA

 

[Becs]

Emotional rollercoaster is the only way to describe the las 24 hours. Either that or just call it a generally cr@p day.

Got the call at 10pm Monday that they had a donor liver for my wife. Told that they would call us first thing in the morning to confirm that the donation was going ahead.
8am phone call to come into the hospital to start the pre-surgical testing. Midday get told that it's not going ahaead as the liver is now getting sent interstate for someone on life support. Cue the tears from my wife and myself whilst understanding the decision.

Drive home and just sit there numb. Wife saying things like she can't do this anymore etc. She's been waiting 2 years in July if she makes it after being given 12-18 months so things are getting serious.

been home for an hour and the phone rings. Come back down, the interstate recipient have siad no to the donor liver. Trying everything to curb the excitement and concerns as to how will we handle this if we get told it's not happening twice in the same day as they need to do a biopsy after the liver is removed from the donor to make sure its viable.

Head back down to the hospital. A few more tests and waiting in silence to see if it's going ahead. 5pm the transplant coordinator comes in with what can only be described as an ashen look. The liver is not suitable. Absolutely gutted, wife says nothing but just starts to sob.

I feel it, its getting so damn hard for her and there's f*ck all i can do

So sorry to hear what happened today. That would be testing for anyone.

Stay strong and look after your missus, but also keep an eye on yourself. It's hard work supporting someone going through a serious illness and you need to look after yourself as well.

If there's anything we can do, just say. We're all with you and hoping you get better news soon on the liver.

Take care mate xx

 

[gelders pie]

Emotional rollercoaster is the only way to describe the las 24 hours. Either that or just call it a generally cr@p day.

Got the call at 10pm Monday that they had a donor liver for my wife. Told that they would call us first thing in the morning to confirm that the donation was going ahead.
8am phone call to come into the hospital to start the pre-surgical testing. Midday get told that it's not going ahaead as the liver is now getting sent interstate for someone on life support. Cue the tears from my wife and myself whilst understanding the decision.

Drive home and just sit there numb. Wife saying things like she can't do this anymore etc. She's been waiting 2 years in July if she makes it after being given 12-18 months so things are getting serious.

been home for an hour and the phone rings. Come back down, the interstate recipient have siad no to the donor liver. Trying everything to curb the excitement and concerns as to how will we handle this if we get told it's not happening twice in the same day as they need to do a biopsy after the liver is removed from the donor to make sure its viable.

Head back down to the hospital. A few more tests and waiting in silence to see if it's going ahead. 5pm the transplant coordinator comes in with what can only be described as an ashen look. The liver is not suitable. Absolutely gutted, wife says nothing but just starts to sob.

I feel it, its getting so damn hard for her and there's f*ck all i can do

You may be on the other side of the world , but know , and tell Mrs Ozzymac, that distance won’t stop our love and thoughts reaching you

 

[Chunksafc]

Emotional rollercoaster is the only way to describe the las 24 hours. Either that or just call it a generally cr@p day.

Got the call at 10pm Monday that they had a donor liver for my wife. Told that they would call us first thing in the morning to confirm that the donation was going ahead.
8am phone call to come into the hospital to start the pre-surgical testing. Midday get told that it's not going ahaead as the liver is now getting sent interstate for someone on life support. Cue the tears from my wife and myself whilst understanding the decision.

Drive home and just sit there numb. Wife saying things like she can't do this anymore etc. She's been waiting 2 years in July if she makes it after being given 12-18 months so things are getting serious.

been home for an hour and the phone rings. Come back down, the interstate recipient have siad no to the donor liver. Trying everything to curb the excitement and concerns as to how will we handle this if we get told it's not happening twice in the same day as they need to do a biopsy after the liver is removed from the donor to make sure its viable.

Head back down to the hospital. A few more tests and waiting in silence to see if it's going ahead. 5pm the transplant coordinator comes in with what can only be described as an ashen look. The liver is not suitable. Absolutely gutted, wife says nothing but just starts to sob.

I feel it, its getting so damn hard for her and there's f*ck all i can do

Thoughts and prayers to you both, we are all here for you both if you need us

 

[cumbrianmackem]

There's so many lads on here affected with family medical issues it makes me think that at the end of it all football is just a game however passionate we all are.
Thoughts are with you both Ozzy, hope you get the finale you deserve and that goes for all you on here who are suffering difficult life changing experiences.