Off Topic Life after divorce

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Teessidemackem

Teessidemackem

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Massive love and respect to all that know me from being a member on here since 2010 and probs know me better than anyone.
Ive been married, had twin boys, divorced and then went onto make many bad life choices..

Lets leave this as an open page for posters like me to share and talk.
 
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KIds are resilient mate and all you can do is be the best for them.

Many dads work away, do unsociable hours, serve in the forces, etc and see less of your kids than you do.

I wonder if they know how many people, on here, have followed their progress and have grown to love them.

I've no doubt they'll end up meeting people off here <laugh>
 
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Smug in Boots said:
KIds are resilient mate and all you can do is be the best for them.

Many dads work away, do unsociable hours, serve in the forces, etc and see less of your kids than you do.

I wonder if they know how many people, on here, have followed their progress and have grown to love them.

I've no doubt they'll end up meeting people off here <laugh>
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They melt my heart on a daily basis mate. Id have topped myself a year ago if it wasn't for them
 
Smug in Boots said:
They'll keep you right mate ...

... I'd do anything for mine.
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I cant even begin to explain how hard mentally and physically being a dad to twin boys has been mate working shifts etc and then going through a divorce when they were 4 and having them 50/50. Ive been mentally broken many times
 
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@Teessidemackem no-one is judging you off here. We can all dip below the standards we set for ourselves at times and it’s painful when we do. We do a lot of soul searching and as much as we might not like to admit it, we wonder what others may think of us in that moment.
As long as you can be a good dad to your boys and you can give them your own good values then you’re doing well.
 
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Teessidemackem said:
Yeah mate at a high standard now...

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Forever proud.
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I've followed your posts over time and have seen the pain you've been going through,but,I tell you what,to have two smashing lads like that you are a very lucky man!
Think of the positives,not the regrets. This is not an easy world for our kids to grow up in....they are going to need you every step of the way.
I have grandchildren roughly the age of your lads and I know first hand the challenges modern life presents to them.....they'll be lucky they have a caring Dad on whom they can call.
 
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Teessidemackem said:
Massive love and respect to all that know me from being a member on here since 2010 and probs know me better than anyone.
Ive been married, had twin boys, divorced and then went onto make many bad life choices..

Lets leave this as an open page for posters like me to share and talk.
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Gordon “ Teesside “ Ramsey <ok><ok>
I’ve followed you from the beginning mate and I can honestly say you’ve got two cracking lads, you should be well proud of yourself and not feeling guilty at all.
All the best mate.
 
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rooch 3 said:
Gordon “ Teesside “ Ramsey <ok><ok>
I’ve followed you from the beginning mate and I can honestly say you’ve got two cracking lads, you should be well proud of yourself and not feeling guilty at all.
All the best mate.
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Thankyou very much mate. You are a top bloke x
 
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Been there done that and got the tee shirt. My daughter is the greatest achievement of my life. So proud of her and everything she’s achieved and now have adorable grandchildren who mean everything to me. I like to think I’ve played my part in my daughter’s happy life by just being there for her after my divorce and guiding/helping her along the road of life.

Only had the one child, you’re so lucky to have 2, but saying that you’ll have to put in twice the work I did.
 
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Being there for your kids is fantastic mate but remember to spend time on yourself as well.
To be the best for them you have to love yourself first and look after you. Then you can show them by example what a real man does and how a real man is (strong and proud dad) as not many kids have that these days.
 
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I grew up from a similar position mate, the difference being between my father and yourself is that he made very little effort to stay present in my life and was lucky to see him once or twice a month.

He missed everything from my life that I’d needed a father figure there for. (Football games at school etc) and I tried to reach out multiple times to try and forge some form of relationship with little joy and all the pulling coming from my side and not his.

I could go on but I won’t, if you’ve followed me on socials you’d know what I’m referring to I think the point I’m making is despite you and the mam not being a unit anymore your still showing up and doing everything you can to keep that relationship alive with your kids when so many don’t, they’ll remember that and you should be so proud of yourself for that.

Everything your doing now will shape them into being a better father themselves when they of age (if they want that), trust me I know.

so big applause to you mate, it’s not easy.
 
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Blond Bombshell said:
Praying you can stay strong and wise for your boys Tees lad. Praying you can find peace and happiness. Blessings
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Thankyou mate. Im in the best mindset ive ever been in right now. Met an amazing lady, got loads of weekends and holidays booked this year with my lads and with my missus, im thriving at work and close to another promotion and i can honestly say ive never been this happy in all my life.
 
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Teessidemackem said:
Thankyou mate. Im in the best mindset ive ever been in right now. Met an amazing lady, got loads of weekends and holidays booked this year with my lads and with my missus, im thriving at work and close to another promotion and i can honestly say ive never been this happy in all my life.
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Great to hear marra, thank God for what you have. Blessings
 
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