Off Topic Mental Health Discussion Thread

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The Omega Man said:
I would like to thank you all for the kind words and most of all, this thread. Last Monday seems so long ago. Monday marks the end of my 7th week of lockdown and what maybe the start of another 12 weeks.

I have finally got my head sorted and can see the way forward. I have no financial worries and will earn as much sat at home as being fully out and about. Yesterday was in a way my first and last unnecessary journey.

My wife is doing very well and there is a difference of opinion to when she can come home. One consultant says she should be home now, the other says wait until Monday.
The decision will be made in the morning. My wife says she just wants to do the right thing and if they said another week she would not complain. She is walking and going up and down stairs, eating and has washed. Anyone who has spent time in hospital will know these little things are actually massive steps.

One thing that I would like to point out, the amount of NHS resources my wife has used in the treatment so far over the last 9 weeks

5 nights in a private hospital
2 nights in a NHS hospital
2 operations
6 clinic sessions
4 CT scans
1 MRI full body scan
16 full blood tests
4 ultra sound
2 consultant surgeons
1 non surgical consultant
3 days of one to one nursing
4 stoma nursing calls and visits
1 stoma information pack
3 post op physiotherapist sessions

Apart from the poor communication pre op, everything post op has been fantastic.

The sun is finally peaking out from behind the clouds, but next week we start another journey.
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Thanks for keeping us informed Tom, and keep it up please. We're all a part of your story now.

Keep fighting my friend x
 
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The Omega Man said:
Brought the wife home today, three big bags of kit and drugs.

She is in bed in the spare room. Knackered.

We played doctors and nurses this afternoon. One of the results of COVID 19 is that I couldn’t be shown how to change the stoma bag, so that took a couple of goes.

One day more...
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Great news she’s home.
Bit of a bonus you got drugs, they’re always good, and a kit too. Hope it was a blue and white striped Pepis one, or maybe a Riding Bitter matchwinner one?

Seriously it is great news she’s home. Look after yourself as well.
 
How are you lot holding up
I’ve noticed a change in quite few people I know. Not so many texts or jokes coming from them. All putting on weight. staying up later and later as nowt to get up for.

I’m lucky I’m working all the time.
 
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Chazz Rheinhold said:
How are you lot holding up
I’ve noticed a change in quite few people I know. Not so many texts or jokes coming from them. All putting on weight. staying up later and later as nowt to get up for.

I’m lucky I’m working all the time.
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That’s odd you mention staying up late.
I have been even though I’ve been working permanently from home. Mind you I’ve been lazily getting up late and going straight into meetings.
Had a bit of a dip couple of weeks ago, but that was cos I was working 7 days a week. Started a better work pattern and that helped.
Been weird though
 
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Chazz Rheinhold said:
How are you lot holding up
I’ve noticed a change in quite few people I know. Not so many texts or jokes coming from them. All putting on weight. staying up later and later as nowt to get up for.

I’m lucky I’m working all the time.
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I'm going to bed earlier because there's no reason to stay up and getting up later 'cos there's not much to do! I've worked part-time from home for the last 8 years or so so I'm used to being at home but the feeling of being trapped is getting a bit oppressive. My wife, who is an inveterate traveller and rule-breaker, is finding it a bit hard! We've also got daughter at home doing her final year dissertation and exams, she's very disillusioned about it all, no graduation ceremony and associated revelry, plans for summer hols likely scrapped, no jobs to go for.
On the plus side we live in a reasonable place with space, a garden and access to countryside so we don't complain.
 
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Chazz Rheinhold said:
How are you lot holding up
I’ve noticed a change in quite few people I know. Not so many texts or jokes coming from them. All putting on weight. staying up later and later as nowt to get up for.

I’m lucky I’m working all the time.
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struggling tbh - hopefully the end is within sight. Stay strong boys & girls x
 
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I think I was built for this life. The garden is getting to how we want it, I'm loving working from home (hoping the bosses will notice I'm more productive and make it permanent), I'm a stone lighter (because I can't go to co op for doughnuts) and a lot less stressed. Other than the worry over a killer virus I'm pretty happy

The dogs are loving us being home too because they are getting lots more training and garden time and I've built them some things to climb and walk on from wood and pallets we had lying around.

I feel bad being so happy with the situation when I know others are struggling. It will be over one day.
 
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In terms of staying up late; I was already an insomniac, nothing has changed.

It's nice and peaceful on a night. Sometimes I go for a walk - where I live I don't have to worry about coming across another soul at 3 in the morning.
 
Don't know what to say really. Basically I'm knackered working longer hours than ever because of the virus. Up at 5.00am 6.00 start finishing 12 or so hours later. Going home and bed at 9 00 and start again. Just done 12 days solid. I'm bloody 60. I suppose I should be happy and appreciate that I still have work.

I know many are in a worse place than me. I've worked my balls of all my life never really complained until now.

Anyway enjoy your salads and buy British.

Rant over

Still the must important thread on here by milest love to you all and stay safe.
 
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Qatartiger Cambridgetiger said:
Don't know what to say really. Basically I'm knackered working longer hours than ever because of the virus. Up at 5.00am 6.00 start finishing 12 or so hours later. Going home and bed at 9 00 and start again. Just done 12 days solid. I'm bloody 60. I suppose I should be happy and appreciate that I still have work.

I know many are in a worse place than me. I've worked my balls of all my life never really complained until now.

Anyway enjoy your salads and buy British.

Rant over

Still the must important thread on here by milest love to you all and stay safe.
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Good on you QCT.... but make sure you eat well hydrate and rest .... I'm your age and in our heads we're all younger.. Finances are a major worry for me, like many, but I know some are in a much worse place. Take care of yourself and dont make yourself ill...
 
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I was talking today with a friend on the phone and as today was perhaps the worst weather day in 6 weeks, we discussed how bad this situation would have been if the weather had played its part in a negative way. I don't want to know the statistics surrounding DV or even worse, but I'm sure that the sun has helped keep that figure manageable if thats even the right word to use ( 0 would be manageable). Maybe I have it totally wrong and if the weather had intervened the death figure might have been reduced as well as the hospitalisation. I do know from my perspective the sun has helped and for those elderly people in isolation who have at least managed to access gardens in some cases it has helped them bet through the day.
 
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Plum said:
I'm going to bed earlier because there's no reason to stay up and getting up later 'cos there's not much to do! I've worked part-time from home for the last 8 years or so so I'm used to being at home but the feeling of being trapped is getting a bit oppressive. My wife, who is an inveterate traveller and rule-breaker, is finding it a bit hard! We've also got daughter at home doing her final year dissertation and exams, she's very disillusioned about it all, no graduation ceremony and associated revelry, plans for summer hols likely scrapped, no jobs to go for.
On the plus side we live in a reasonable place with space, a garden and access to countryside so we don't complain.
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You told me you lived in a cave!!
 
This BBC programme was on tonight (Sat UK) for anyone who may be interested. Decent discussion.
Apologies if it has already been posted on this thread.

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Did anyone watch the Prince tonight on BBC1 and his 'heads up' campaign.... he speaks brilliantly, irrespective of his position. These are really tough times, just all take care and share with someone if you need to.... there was an amazing line in the programme and it was about on the outside being the first there to help others and not looking after yourself... it was 'imagine you're on a plane and the stewardess says if the oxygen mask drops, put yours on first'... resonated with me...
 
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