Probably the worst place to put this but I need a laugh. Right lads not been on here much as been going through some ****e. Bottom line is looking like marriage is over n that. Thing is I'm actually looking and feeling happier than I have done for time, as has been commented on by family n friends. Which has me feeling a little guilty tbh. I know a few on here have been through break ups n that so go on tell me what time went through. And how you got on after. How did you deal with it and shnizzle
Never een there . Hope I never have to and honestly cannot see any reason for ever to happen . Mrs J is the best thing that has ever happened to me . Goodluck and honestly wish you all the best .
I bounced my ex in 2006 her mum was hitting me round the head as I laughed my way out of her house after dumping the useless ****. Her mum said I’d never make myself into anything cos I didn’t go to uni and I told her that her son (ex’s brother) gets dressed into his suit every day, drives to his mates house and chills there all day because he got sacked from his job as a medical researcher 5 months previous... They ****ing hated me.
Cheers J. Tbh mate before Xmas I would have written the same response. 23 years been together. Never been apart due to fall out or argument etc. Now you'd think I was evil incarnate with what's being said.
My in laws loved me more than my own family. Or did . Now my numbers blocked. When I think about it I start laughing too.
Splitting up from a long term partner or wife is ****ing amazing. Hard to start with though as it's a massive change, but.... Burying your head in different flange 3 times a week soon makes you realise how many years you wasted trying to make things work. I'm hardly a super model but **** me it's so easy these days to pull women. I've got 3 on the go at the moment and possibly about to add a 4th... nothing serious just playing the field. I will get another proper relationship at some point but having far too much fun right now!
It's astounding how quickly things can turn bad. Relationships have to be worked on continually. Every day, you have to keep asking yourself "Do I really have the strength to keep putting up with her ****?" So long as you have the strength to keep saying "yes" to that question, you're fine. The day you wake up and admit to yourself that, in fact, "No, I cannot take the same **** anymore," that's when you become Beelzebub, himself, and you earn your freedom. I hope this helps, friend.
Any tips? I'm realising how the years have made me awkward in situations I would be life and soul of. The daily family life and stuff means I've kind of forgotten how to be single, if that makes sense?
Look after yourself fella, a couple of my mates have split with long term relationships in recent years one in particular didn’t cope all that well. Keep social and your mates around you
Book yourself a weekend in Newcastle. It’s like the girls there have been told that shagging is being made illegal the next day and they have to get as much as they can before it happens.
Agreed. It's so ****ing easy up here, it really is a town of sluts. That's the reason I shop elsewhere. I'm useless with relationships, I've never even considered asking a bird to marry me. I'm currently having a right battle with my bird, at the moment, and it looks like this one is coming to an end soon. I'm not bothered, though. I've been through this hundreds of times. It's easy now, I'll sleep like a baby when it happens. @thefanwithnoname As has been said, keep socialising with your pals and don't be afraid to jump straight in and have fun with another lass. Try and have at least one day, each week, to yourself. If you surround yourself with people constantly, you'll have to hit that lonely spot, at some point. Drop it in gradually and you'll be fine after about a month or two. Good luck
Been there twice mate, it’s not much fun and it’s ****ing expensive! If you can get it done as amicably as possible, then do.
Too expensive to get divorced in the US, especially if you have kids... I make sure to make my marriage work... Although I don't have personal experience, from all I've read and all I've witnessed... Make sure you don't hole-yourself up. Studies have shown that couples become more introverted when married; but when they split the woman goes back to being extroverted but the natural inclination of the man is to become more introverted and avoid people. Don't let yourself get stuck at home. If you split put yourself out there and make new connections.
That's the hardest bit, amicably. I would give everything I have to them (wife n kids) even now. It was all for them anyway. So the expense doesnt bother me It's the whole "you never did anything for us" that's a bastard. ****ing 23 years, houses and friggin merc (which she has while I'm in a ****ty little 2 door thing) and I did **** all? I used to know a judge/magistrate bloke who used to oversee divorces and he would laugh and say that women always said **** like " he never did anything for me, never made me happy" n stuff. Ungrateful as ****
Tbh mate I don't revel in self pity. Not in my makeup. I am actually more active now than the last 20 years. Everyone close to me saying the separation has done wonders for my Outlook. Have to say though a bit out of practise with women. Awkward to say the least. Been a while
You never forget how to use your knob, friend. I never did. Mind you, I did have to put in a lot of practice on my own, at times. Hope you find some comfort in that.
