Off Topic The Burly Arms

[Stan]

My Brother has failed to get in for the last 3 years , no idea why , he has been for years .

Is he using the right entrance?

 

[Skylarker]

Sounds like you're already coming to some good arrangements with your lad. That's fantastic! It will help that it fits in to both of your working arrangements.

Sooner or late though you may end up going down the legal route to tie things off. So a word to the wise, try and document in some way this joint custodial arrangement you've agreed to. Record the nights your lad stays with you. A judge would be unlikely to want to see that changed if its already working. It will also help with any financial agreement you'll be required to make.

My 2 lads stayed with me 5 nights 1 week, 2 the next, which helped reduce my payments to the CSA. The judge didn't even get involved with the kids as we'd agreed custodial arrangements.

Does that count if I'm not married. Luckily I haven't got a divorce to go through...

We don't plan to drag this though the courts. I respect her, she respects me.

Other than splitting up we'll remain friends (of sort).

 

[Number 1 Jasper]

Is he using the right entrance?

You idiot .

 

[Burly Hurley]

Does that count if I'm not married. Luckily I haven't got a divorce to go through...

We don't plan to drag this though the courts. I respect her, she respects me.

Other than splitting up we'll remain friends (of sort).

Oh that's great if you can do that Sky!

 

[Tobes]

Does that count if I'm not married. Luckily I haven't got a divorce to go through...

We don't plan to drag this though the courts. I respect her, she respects me.

Other than splitting up we'll remain friends (of sort).

Good choice, it never ends well when the briefs get involved.

Shared custody, no maintenance, let her keep the house for an agreed period for your lads benefit, everyone wins.

 

[Skylarker]

Oh that's great if you can do that Sky!

Can you clarify as this is all new to me... and Cleary not for you

I was with her 15 years but never got married. Due to not getting a divorce do or will the courts ever be needed?

 

[Skylarker]

Good choice, it never ends well when the briefs get involved.

Shared custody, no maintenance, let her keep the house for an agreed period for your lads benefit, everyone wins.

Yeah I'm not paying maintenance, I'll just share the cost of what he needs etc.

She earns 40k - and trust me for this area that is good money. I'm now on about 30k, which is also fairly good for this area.

Maintenance etc. Is bollox, we just need to share costs of school uniform, clothes etc. etc.

 

[Skylarker]

Good choice, it never ends well when the briefs get involved.

Shared custody, no maintenance, let her keep the house for an agreed period for your lads benefit, everyone wins.

She can have the house mate, I'm not fussed. I've seen her will and the house is going to the kids.

I don't need the hassle of selling etc. Just to get extra money.

 

[Tobes]

She can have the house mate, I'm not fussed. I've seen her will and the house is going to the kids.

I don't need the hassle of selling etc. Just to get extra money.

That’s sound, but often life takes a different route, so it’s best leaving it as you’re sound with her keeping it for now.

As she could end up meeting someone else flogging it and moving in with him, and the inheritance angle becomes moot.

 

[Skylarker]

That’s sound, but often life takes a different route, so it’s best leaving it as you’re sound with her keeping it for now.

As she could end up meeting someone else flogging it and moving in with him, and the inheritance angle becomes moot.

That's if the person that moves in isn't murdered by a stranger in the night.

 

[Burly Hurley]

Can you clarify as this is all new to me... and Cleary not for you

I was with her 15 years but never got married. Due to not getting a divorce do or will the courts ever be needed?

Tobes has pointed out that things are never that straightforward. Life is always throwing curve balls.

I mentioned the legal route primarily because of the issues around property. As Tobes said, she may have the house then meet someone and move in with them. The capital in the property is then diluted and another guy is involved in the mix. Any will written now can easily be superceded by another and any potential monies now guaranteed to your son could disappear at the stroke of a pen.

I'm no legal expert and most of us slag lawyers of one time or another but that doesn't invalidate the advice and service they provide.

Might be best if you can get your agreement about your property in contract form Sky. Speak to a solicitor mate. No need to tell your ex just yet, but get some legal advice now.

 

[Spurlock]

Khabib batters gobshite and his crew

 

[The Ginger Marks]

Khabib batters gobshite and his crew

Nice to see the pikey oik get a pasting.

 

[Skylarker]

Tobes has pointed out that things are never that straightforward. Life is always throwing curve balls.

I mentioned the legal route primarily because of the issues around property. As Tobes said, she may have the house then meet someone and move in with them. The capital in the property is then diluted and another guy is involved in the mix. Any will written now can easily be superceded by another and any potential monies now guaranteed to your son could disappear at the stroke of a pen.

I'm no legal expert and most of us slag lawyers of one time or another but that doesn't invalidate the advice and service they provide.

Might be best if you can get your agreement about your property in contract form Sky. Speak to a solicitor mate. No need to tell your ex just yet, but get some legal advice now.

Thanks for the advice bro, really really appreciate it.

This is all totally new to me.

 

[luvgonzo]

Watching footy.

 

[thefanwithnoname]

Thanks for the advice bro, really really appreciate it.

This is all totally new to me.

Sorry to hear your troubtes mate.

You probably don't want to hear this but being nice doesn't mean being "silly" in these situations. I get there are emotions etc but you need a clear head

Advice like this always comes across a bit raw and nasty but long term it's sensible from what I know. I know two guys right now who did everything amicably but now are literally crying as they lost everything as time went on.

Listen to @Burly Hurley and speak to a solicitor etc. No need to let people know and certainly not mutual friends (always surprises me how people you have known for years can suddenly start taking sides and become ****s)

Anyway mate sorry if that sounds horrible and all the best

 

[Skylarker]

Funny how suddenly priorities change your view on things....

Usually today id be nervous as hell as we're playing Man City, but I'm not even fussed about it.

That might change when i start watching it but im not fussed about winning or losing at the moment.

I think i need a good ****ing slap with an attitude like that.

 

[Dier Hard]

Khabib batters gobshite and his crew <pa>

Nice to see the pikey oik get a pasting.

Loved it. Everything Khabib said he’ll do to him in the cage he did.

Was even more sweeter that as a fight billed “striker vs grappler”, it was the grappler that scored a knockdown from a punch.

Conor’s fan boys are still crying on social media. It’s fantastic. Great night for MMA.

 

[Number 1 Jasper]

Funny how suddenly priorities change your view on things....

Usually today id be nervous as hell as we're playing Man City, but I'm not even fussed about it.

That might change when i start watching it but im not fussed about winning or losing at the moment.

I think i need a good ****ing slap with an attitude like that.

Well . IMHO you’re talking bollox ( first time for everything ) .

In your situation , it’s no bloody wonder you are not 100% focussed on football .

 

[PINKIE]

Just picked this bad boy up

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