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Best of luck PL. I hope you get what you want out of the appointment and whatever happens down the road, but most of all I hope you can be happy and feel comfortable in yourself and who you are.
 
I think many feminists would take issue with this.
I'm probably classed as a feminist and it really doesn't bother me. In some countries I would be a worthless woman as I can't have children but I'm still a woman. Just because PL won't be having periods and won't be able to have children won't make him less a woman when/if he transitions.

Just out of interest, the BBC website has been running a 100 Women feature and I found this segment particularly interesting. Anyone who thinks that sexism is dying out needs to see it. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/world-41502661/100-women-i-transitioned-and-lost-my-male-privilege
 
Okay... as with Chilco I respect your right to your opinions and I understand your concerns even if I am a bit concerned with your choice of language (tranny and shemale, both of which have derogatory conations even if you're not meant to be derogatory) but let me try to address them. Firstly, this isn't something I've just thought about recently, it's been going through my head for years and years. It's only in the last year I've actually decided to do anything about it. Secondly, before having surgery you are required to live an entire year as your re-assigned gender to make certain you want surgery. Tbh, surgery is way down the line and isn't necessarily something I'm rushing into. Thirdly, hormone therapy, which is the first stage is reversible. Just stop the treatment and (in this case) give testosterone.

I must admit, I have had concerns about whether I would pass. Even when I was young (like pre-GCSE) I remember thinking to myself I would get a sex change if I could and but I probably wouldn't because it wouldn't be passable. However, having said that I've seen plenty of people who have transitioned and no one would think they weren't born female or male (as transgender men exist, there was one on Naked Attraction whom you would have sworn was a man except for his, er, downstairs region).


Anyway, it's nothing to do with being girly or manly, I'm not hugely girly nor am I hugely manly either. And to go back to your point about being a transvestite... I don't think I'd ever feel truly comfortable if I was just in female clothing without even hormone therapy, I'd be too worried about people being able to tell (damn facial hair) or just thinking me as a weirdo in a dress. And as Beef says, post-op i'd be a woman. Yes, I would be different from those who were born female to some extent, but I would for all intents and purposes be a woman.

Thanks for sharing this with us PL. I have to admit it's not something I have ever been able to get my head round so I am interested to read your comments so I can try to understand better. I for one am being educated. Thank you.

Good luck with everything, I hope it works for you and you finally feel happy within yourself.

We need more females on here. :)
 
End of the day. Long as a oerson is happy and not hurting any one by it then I give that person all the encouragement they want. Too many people have to put in a act to please others. **** that ****

Spot on Beef. And I apply that to everything not just the topic at hand.

Same sort of thing with people who spend their lives looking for something trivial to be offended by, usually on others behalf... Boils my piss tbh.


It's the social media generation sadly, and it will likely never change.

Edit- ****ing hell reading that back I come across much older than what I am <laugh>
 
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Thanks for sharing this with us PL. I have to admit it's not something I have ever been able to get my head round so I am interested to read your comments so I can try to understand better. I for one am being educated. Thank you.

Good luck with everything, I hope it works for you and you finally feel happy within yourself.

We need more females on here. :)

What happened to @jenthesaint1990?

Not been around properly for a couple of years now, she popped in and made one post recently but hasn't again since, as far as I can see.

If I remember correctly it was her who first proposed the idea of a meet that have come so far since without coming to one <laugh>
 
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End of the day. Long as a oerson is happy and not hurting any one by it then I give that person all the encouragement they want. Too many people have to put in a act to please others. **** that ****
100% Beef

Don’t care what color, which way you swing, how much money you have or what private parts you have - born with or not. Just be yourself and enjoy what you are and how you live your life.

This is what makes the world go round. It would be so boring if we are all the same. There is no normal, only YOUR normal.

PL really tough to come here and bare your soul so good on you. Even more so on a Saints forum lol.[emoji6]

God luck with the outcome and I hope you find yourself [emoji106]
 
Spot on Beef. And I apply that to everything not just the topic at hand.

Same sort of thing with people who spend their lives looking for something trivial to be offended by, usually on others behalf... Boils my piss tbh.


It's the social media generation sadly, and it will likely never change.

Edit- ****ing hell reading that big I come across much older than what I am <laugh>
Lol reading that I can’t believe I have a daughter older than you [emoji6]
 
100% Beef

Don’t care what color, which way you swing, how much money you have or what private parts you have - born with or not. Just be yourself and enjoy what you are and how you live your life.

This is what makes the world go round. It would be so boring if we are all the same. There is no normal, only YOUR normal.

PL really tough to come here and bare your soul so good on you. Even more so on a Saints forum lol.[emoji6]

God luck with the outcome and I hope you find yourself [emoji106]

Wise words No7...
 
Lol reading that I can’t believe I have a daughter older than you [emoji6]

<laugh> I'm definitely older mentally than my real age, not sure if a good thing or not but certainly feel I was born in the wrong generation!

Your daughter single btw? :bandit:















*I'm sure you know that I'm joking but thought I'd confirm just in case and for others sake <rofl>







*I also know she's happily married in the States... Bet part of you wishes she married that lanky Welsh bloke though <whistle>
 
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<laugh> I'm definitely older mentally than my real age, not sure if a good thing or not but certainly feel I was born in the wrong generation!

Your daughter single btw? :bandit:
*I'm sure you know that I'm joking but thought I'd confirm just in case and for others sake <rofl>

*I also know she's happily married in the States... Bet part of you wishes she married that lanky Welsh bloke though <whistle>


Lol, luckily her husband can provide her with the same material goods as the Welsh bloke...just not the Real Madrid tickets lol as he thinks a box at the Atlanta Braves is the same......[HASHTAG]#YanksHaveNoClue[/HASHTAG]

Edit: Just reread this and I sound shallow now. I’m not really, just want the best for my little girl [emoji6]
 
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