By the way Lads I'm not like that believe me. The last girlfriend I had was the result of a meal at La tasca. Never fails. i reccomend it.
All the advice in the world couldn't work when everyone you meet is already in a relationship. I had one shot with a girl I met online but I blew it due to a moment of absolute stupidity which has blown my best chance of getting a girlfriend in the last four ****ing years.
May as well. Basically, I met this girl on a dating site and started talking, so we chatted for a while and then planned to meet up. Initially I suggested the Science Museum as she was into science and museums and so on, but then for some unknown reason she wanted to change so we met up in a Costa in a quiet London satellite town. So, I met her at Costa and we got chatting and it seemed to go well, though it only lasted like... I dunno, an hour and a half. Anyway, then she had to head home, so I walked with her to a car park place and then we were saying bye and she said we should meet up again and there was a few moments of like "Ohhh, do we hug?" so I was like "yeah, let's do it!" so we hugged. Then came the utter face-palm moment. Just after we hugged I stupidly and without thinking opened my mouth and said "We could always kiss if you like" and as soon as I said that I was like in my head "Oh ****! I shouldn't have said that". She said "No, I'm good thanks." Or something like that, but I knew I'd ****ed up and it was quite out of character anyway. So I was like "Yeah, sure. Sorry" And then she went off to get her bus. So I knew then that despite having said we should meet up, that we were not going to. Afterwards, we chatted by text a bit, but her texts were quite short (though saying that they were hardly long before) and then that stopped altogether. I actually told a few of my friends what had happened, including two girls and none of them thought what I said was a big deal, and it seems harsh that one little mistake would ruin everything over the last two couple of months. But it did. And what's even more annoying is that on the world of online dating, getting into a convo with someone seems quite rare (even getting a reply is rare!) and even more so meeting up with someone (only the second time it's happened) it does feel like a complete missed opportunity. It's like the JLS song, you only get one shot, so make it count, you might never get this moment again. Then again, I don't know if she actually meant it when she said we should meet up or if she was just saying that with no intention of doing so (even before I messed up). Though I think everything happens for a reason, and if was just less than ten words cost me any shot with her, then it wasn't meant to be with her.
Seems a bit harsh on yeah Lapras. I went out with the girl. At teh end of the "date" we hugged and I said and I quote "giz us a kiss". She obliged. No biggie. We didn't get together anyways but, maybe you and that dating site girl just weren't meant to be.
I think you are being a bit harsh on The Lord pm, if it wasn't for PL Stewie acting high and mighty and far more insulting, the thread could have been funny with banter, as it has at the end, even though it is about dating and women and not football, But then who cares, we all need a change in direction at times. PL I know everybody has different ideas on getting to know women better and what worked for them but as you can see because we all have slightly different opinions it shows lots of women like different approaches. I agree with The Lord on you not saying " she was out of my league" never think that, I would not quite put it like The Lord did, but yes you will always see attractive women on let's say a ordinary looking mans arm, and why not ? It's down to you to try and read the situation with different women but always be true to yourself.
Maybe I should have been more like "let's kiss!" rather than "We could always kiss...." Still, not sure it was annoying or depressing as what happened with the girl before
You've got to tell us now, Laps! And btw, many girls feel uncomfortable about kissing on the first date. Wait until the second/third next time, Lapras
Not sure there will be a next time, maybe. Well, I may as well I guess. Basically I met a girl online on a different dating site and we got talking, we seemed to get on really well and she seemed really nice, and also into football(!) and spent much of the summer talking. After about a couple of months, I suggested meeting up. She said basically no, let's wait to see how things go first as when she meets up with someone, she wants there to be something there. Which makes sense. I was fine with that and we kept talking. Then a bit later, we were talking and she mentioned she was going to a traffic light party and asked me what colour she should wear. And I was like "Um....", as I don't want to dictate what people wear, so I said it depends whether you're interested and can see anything happening between us, she said she was interested, so I was somewhat happy by that as you can imagine. She later texted me and said that she wore red to the traffic light party. So suddenly things blew up and we were talking loads, and had long phone convos at 1am in a morning, phone calls lasting an hour or more, and we planned to meet up after I got back from a holiday. So I went on holiday, I got back and the day I spoke back we chatted on the phone. So far, so good. Then it goes pear shaped. I didn't hear much from her for a bit as she was back at uni and quite busy which is fine. Then out of the blue she texts me saying sorry for not being in contact, explaining she's busy with uni and then says we should stop speaking permanently because it's unfair on me and it'll be harder in the future if we don't stop now. So yes, that was a bit depressing. But then a bit later she changed her mind and said we should see how it goes. So I didn't expect to talk much in term time but thought there might be a chance in the hols. So I don't hear from her until about January, and we start talking quite a bit again, although mostly by text. That continued until the beginning of March, then she stopped replying and I didn't want to be needy and pester her. Then later on in march, completely out of the blue, she deletes me from Facebook and then a bit later either blocks me or deactivates facebook (she no longer appeared in search results). So I figured it was game over and she's not interested and that I wouldn't hear from her and so of course I took the hint and didn't message her. I thought that was the end but then suddenly several months later I got a text from her saying she misses me. And I said I missed her as tbf I did, as it was good. So we started talking a bit. Then she stopped texting again. Then about a month later, I texted and we started talking again. So I suggest we met up again, she said no saying she's felt we've drifted apart (yes, and whose fault is that?!). So I'm like, eh, and we continued talking for a bit. Then that stopped again. Last time I texted her was on Christmas day when she didn't reply. I figured that would be the last time I'd message her although part of me thinks maybe I should try one more time as maybe she was busy on Christmas and meant to reply but forgot to. So yes, that was quite a depressing and convuluted story, sorry for how long it is, but she was the closest I've had to a gf in 4 years. Sigh.
I take your point Possum, if it were this thread alone. But we have too many other misdemeanours that have to be taken into account. He tries to target people's interests by deliberately belittling their beliefs then criticises them in an arrogant manner to cause them to lose their balance and post things they normally wouldn't. It's pretty sad that a bloke his age feels the need to try to wind people up like that, for some sick sense of gratification that he obviously craves.
Let's face it pm, he is just a pathetic & sad WUM. He is like one of those disgusting persons who TROLLS sites like Facebook, spreading his poisonous comments, basically with the aim of trying to upset as many people as he can - that is what gives him his "kicks". Makes you wonder about the state of his family life, to be honest.
I think that's a tad harsh Wd I do find it hard to get my head around you guys who condemn him and his family life when you have always allowed a certain Pompey fan who was worse in your terms of wuming and is still allowed to start threads with Scummers and poney fiddlers to name just two. Pot and kettle doesn't even come close. As for me, I believe we are all different and react to things in life differently. I love a bit of banter with a certain sb3 and can respond or leave his insults alone. Who knows what makes people tick and i certainly would not insult a persons home life. Their is certainly NO one on here that I would not buy a beer if we ever met up, even if it was someone I had had quite heated discussions with on the Pompey or Saints board. We are not on this planet long enough to allow people on a Forum to get that far under your skin.
Oh my good gracious!!!! The girl I mentioned in post 84: Just came up on Facebook that she's now single. OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG. (Surprising though, from Facebook it seemed like she had a good relationship with her bf)
