I'm in the best shape of my life, mate, mentally and physically. Good diet, no booze, running 5km every other day, long walks with the dog, loads of fresh air. Loving it, mate.
Balanced. Or acceptance. My wife says “why can’t you accept what you have” and I can see what she is saying: some have things and lose them. Is it just an acceptance of where you are in life at that point in time?
I can relate to a lot here. I once went to my grandmas when I was 18 and she was having a glass of whisky. She wasn’t successful and she wasn’t really a good grandma (sounds bad that but she really wasn’t). Anyways I asked if I could have a glass of whiskey. And she said no. I asked her why. She said “whiskey is for the end of the road. When you have completed your journey. You won’t understand right now what I mean. But when you raise that glass you need to make sure you have completed it”. She was an alcoholic and it made absolutely no sense. At the time. Maybe she couldn’t find it.
Used to be good at magic tricks. could make 8 pints disappear quickly and I could also disappear when it was my round at the Earl.
Good on you, the **** deserves it. I hate people who don't pick up. Personally think their face should be scrubbed in it but your solution is acceptable. Yeah its a tricky one. There is a lot to be said for not over thinking and letting things come to you. An organic experience where happiness finds you is utopian. It could happen. However you seem a fairly intelligent lad with a good helping of self awareness. So I think the pitfalls of falling down a hole chasing happiness are probably less to you. I honestly think a good thing is to look within. Look at what makes you tick, look at what evokes an emotional reaction from you. Work from there. The good thing is you are well aware of your home life, and think things are good there. So the danger of you throwing the baby out with the bath water is slim. I'd just keep working at it fella. A bit of self exploration (not like that Chaos...)
Try not to envy anyone, even Dorty will tell you that, as that only gives you false hope enjoy what you have, your Wife and 2 kids ( who are your best friends in the world) and build on that what you are doing is building a foundation for your family **** happens, just try to avoid the **** happiness to me is when I don't have a stressful day (oh and when the Toon win, that helps )
The older my kids have become, and the longer I've been married, the more I seem to have separated myself from them - not necessarily physically, but mentally. Maybe that's how family life evolves? They are separate entities to me, so though everything is good at home I still have my own space. I prefer that, we aren't in everyone else's back pockets all the time.
I forgot to mention... my lad has a VR headset and I bought a fishing game. It's so realistic. I just sit there on my sofa and it feels like I'm on the banks of a river. So relaxing. That's a new happy place I've found.
Happiness is waking up the day after the morning before and realising that you have to try things no matter how far outside of your comfort zone they are. Also stop giving in to that thing known as a brain. It tries to keep you safe when sometimes you need to just go for it.
