Tim Stanley: Jacinda Ardern’s virtue-signalling memoir is like one long therapy session
Tim Stanley
Jun 3, 2025 • 9:31pm
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OPINION: Don’t read this book. You won’t, anyway: it’s by
Jacinda Ardern. But if I tell you that it’s a memoir dedicated to “the criers, worriers, and huggers,” you’ll have an idea of the nightmare you’ve dodged. A Different Kind of Power reads like a 350-page transcript of a therapy session: “My whole short life,” the author writes, “I had grappled with the idea that I was never quite good enough.”
Regrettably, she persisted, rising through the two or three ranks of New Zealand society to become prime minister at the age of 37, from 2017 to 2023. And yet the practicalities of the job don’t interest her: this book hinges on how everything
felt. Large sections are dedicated to an uneventful youth in Murupara, a one-horse town on the North Island – the Māori name translates as “to wipe off mud” – where Ardern was born in 1980. Her father was a cop, her mother a school catering assistant. The Arderns were Mormons, a fact that threatens to make the author remotely interesting – until we learn that she lost her faith after watching a romcom, about a gay Mormon missionary who gives up God for love. Lucky Ardern didn’t watch Top Cat, or she might have embarked upon a life of crime.
In these passages, our impressionable hero regales us with fascinating accounts of grocery shopping; Nana’s funeral; her first job in a chippy (“There was always a steady routine to my Friday night shifts at the Golden Kiki”). As for what drew her into politics: was it Marx? Or Mahatma Gandhi? Well, one influence came early on: she saw a newspaper cartoon of a Tory stealing soup from children and thought, “that definitely didn’t feel right.”
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Burdened by a “constant compulsion to be ‘useful’”, Ardern concluded that “the world is so big and life could be fragile… but not so big that one person can’t do something to change it.” So, she completed a very useful degree in “Communication Studies”, joined Labour and entered Parliament in 2008. This utterly normal person seems to have done almost nothing outside of politics.
What about her greatest flaw, then? Probably that she cares too much. Ardern recalls, in those early days of the legislature, feeling overwhelmed by her emotions – and another MP saying, “Promise me you won’t try to toughen up, Jacinda. You feel things because you have empathy, and because you care.”
You and I might laugh, but the Kiwis seemed to love it: when Labour entered an unwinnable election in 2017, the party dropped its leader at the last minute and swapped in Ardern – whose nervous smile and boundless compassion, not hindered by having been photographed in Spanx, pushed Labour into office. She lost the popular vote but entered a coalition with a Right-wing party that had previously called her a “meatless hamburger”.
“Yes, I was the prime minister,” she writes. And yet: “I was also pregnant.” Plot twist!
Don’t get me wrong: it’s good to be reminded that politicians are human beings, and healthy that a modern woman can both have a baby and run New Zealand. But between all the paragraphs on childrearing and pump-sterilising – “I expected breastfeeding to be a lot more straightforward than it was” – one gets the impression that there was little else to do.
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During her time as leader, New Zealand saw a natural disaster and a terror attack, both of which brought out Ardern’s best: authoritative and sensitive, she has a fine temperament. But so much ink is given to relationship talk and cake baking – she wants us to know, too, that she replied to every child who wrote to her – that it starts to feel as though the author’s self-doubt lies not in her leadership skills, but in a fear that people can’t see how nice she really is. As she embraced a volcano victim in 2019, she heard the cameras click and imagined cynics saying it was all for show: “That’s fine, I thought, as I hugged [them] tight… I would rather be criticised than stop being human.”
The author’s virtue may be signalled brightly enough to be seen from the moon – and yet this empathy curiously doesn’t extend to every critic of her Covid policy. You’ll recall that when the pandemic began, New Zealand cut off the outside world: the obvious, and easy, thing to do when your country sits in the middle of nowhere. Restrictions and mandates were applied off and on, sometimes severely, through to early 2022.
Ardern acknowledges the psychological effects of lockdown via a letter from a woman who “couldn’t see her daughter’s body after she died in a farm[ing] accident” – but this happens to be a citizen who “understood why we had the rules we had, no matter how hard they felt.” How convenient for the author. By contrast, the anti-lockdown crowd Ardern describes protesting outside New Zealand’s Parliament, wore “literal tinfoil hats”, flew “swastikas” and “Trump flags”.
This is exactly how centrist dads (and mums) subtly vilify their opponents: set a perfect example and imply a comparison. I am so kind that anyone who disagrees with me must be nasty; so reasonable that my critics must be nuts. Yet despite the impression here that Ardern merely emoted throughout her time in office, as though manning the phones at the Samaritans, she implemented real, controversial policies that ended in a property bust, bad finances and a crime wave. And in a move that showed almost zero compassion to her colleagues, she quit office before they were due to be judged in a general election – thus avoiding the worst defeat for an incumbent government in decades.
Post-office, Ardern became a fellow at Harvard University, teaching a course in… you guessed it: “empathetic leadership”. The principle that the world would be a better place if we just empathised with each other is nice in theory, but codswallop in practice. How does that work with Vladimir Putin or the boys in Hamas? On the contrary, true leadership is about making tough judgments, guided by sound philosophy: St Jacinda bungled the former, lacked the latter. By reducing all government to thoughts and prayers, she transformed humility into vanity – a softly photographed carnival of her own emotions.
But there is one wonderful moment of zen. It comes when Ardern meets the late Queen in 2018, and asks whether she has any advice on raising children. “You just get on with it,” said the monarch. It must have been a put-down; it sounds like a put-down – and yet Ardern is too naive to notice.
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