I'm still struggling with the way many people come to a decision about how they're going to vote, or what side they're going to pick. Making an emotional choice based on misinformation is understandable, but when it becomes clear that it's not possible to be delivered, the rational response should not be "Let's just leave without a deal" - the "jumping off a cliff" approach.
Since when did jumping off a cliff resolve anything?
We have rejected the EU28 club. We should expect them to look after themselves. If we're angry with them, why wouldn't they be angry with us? If they feel a "no deal" departure would hurt them a bit and hurt us more, they'll just be angry at us for not working harder to find something that doesn't do that. Yes, they want us to have enough money to trade and buy from them. Yes, they want to keep costs down on the things they buy from us. Yes, they'd like us to stay and contribute to the club, as we have been doing to. But if we want to leave, why do some people in the UK think the EU27 should do all the work and make all the compromises? It's not realistic. They don't have to do anything if they're prepared for the consequences.
Leaving the EU28 isn't about beating the EU27. It should be about looking after the ordinary people in this country. If we cannot find a solution that does that, we should stop the process (if we can). Saying "we've changed our mind" is a step the egos of most of the people in this country won't accept at an emotional level. So that won't happen. Saying "No Deal" will cripple us economically and be dreadful for ordinary people. That shouldn't be allowed to happen - but... if lots of us look like we'd accept that and just get angry at the EU rather than at our own politicians (1984, anyone?) then some of our politicians will continue to push for it, so their own careers don't suffer.
Leaving should have the lowest negative economic impact possible and the most political separation possible. That's the solution we need to find and the EU27 should not be expected to do anything that is negative to their own club. Why would they? Except as neighbours and customers, they have no responsibility towards us once we're out.
What that means is we'll have to get used to the idea we can't get everything we want, because the two aspects (economics vs political separation) are often in conflict with each other.
What wouldn't hurt would be for us to spend more time pondering what unites us rather than arguing about what divides us.