On a level mate, and tell me to **** off if you want, don't take the hit. I think I know exactly why you're doing it. It doesn't help IMO. Kids may never forgive you or have a relationship with you again. And if the other half is a so and so she becomes a martyr and you a **** and it will eat you up seeing your kids reactions towards you and her. **** everyone else but play it straight with your kids Just my tuppence worth mate. Its ****ty all round and my heart goes out to you
Well said Fan...someone had to say it. I hope Roofus takes it for the very good advice that it is and not as a dig or anything because that bit was irking on me and no doubt others but I didn't want Roofus to tell us to **** off as I think it's good that he's talking.
All the best Roofy mate, you've got some time to mull things over and I would also say to think about what fan has said. Again all the best fella, keep in touch
Yeah mate I hope he doesn't see it as a dig or even me telling him what to do. This **** is quite close to home, in certain ways, and I have a Mrs who hated her dad for over a decade because he "did the right thing". I alak have a close friend who I literally wish I could punch, as horrible as that sounds, because he wants to do right by his lad and his ex Mrs has made such a mess of him, to the point he is paying for her and her new fellas holidays. Main thing is " right by the kids" isn't always taking a hit. Its too short a life to be in their bad books and it does eat you up inside affecting future relationships I feel.for the fella tbh and its coming from the right place even if translating badly in written form
Well said for cutting to the chase Fan. Been there, done that, and the kids have to come first. They don't forget. They might forgive but they don't forget.
I'm really glad I've logged on tonight. I was still firmly in the 'do the right thing' brigade. This has opened my eyes and seen it from a different perspective. This could come in really handy sometime in my future
Honestly mate been close a couple of times. She was bad for him from the off. Previously divorced with kids and an axe to grind. He's given her not 1 but 2 houses. He lived in rented accommodation and pay mortgage on the 2 properties. Finally got him to see sense and live in his own house
With me it wasn't my Mrs but "doing the right thing" messed things up big time Basically, in a nutshell, you need to be hated by the right people.
Its a tough call what roofie is planning. I'm the last person to give any advice on this, But do what you feel is right and best for you roofie.
At least he's got one of his properties back. I've seen lads hurt in a way that's alien to me. I've split up with my daughters mother and I wasn't arsed, I just thought there's billions of lasses on the planet, I'm not going to get all butt hurt over one split arse. I've seen mates taking them away on luxurious holidays just to win them back. One dick head spent 18k on a motor to win his bird back, after she had blew him out. 18 months later, she was gone again and never returned. I told him he deserved that one.
9 more posts and this thread hits the 10,000 posts landmark. We've had some great chats on this thread.
I agree mate i dont get it tbh. But that said i have been more forgiving since married and had kids than previous long relationships But again i have limits. very short limits
