I'm sure I probably got a smacked arse or wrist when I was little but the main deterrent growing up was my dad's incredibly loud, booming voice. When he was pissed off it would scare the **** out of me.
I was terrified of my dad when he was angry. He never once hit me. "The eyes" were enough. I can recall my mum whacking me twice. Once with a stick. I disagree with her method of punishment but understand why she did it on both occasions.
Do you think the smack helped them to understand why it's a stupid thing to do or the only reason they stopped was fear you would hurt them?
For a young child a shock like a sting from a slap along with the verbal message from the adult would help them understand that it was not something they should do so poking dog = sting + telling off = I wont do that again. They may not understand why depending on the age but it would prevent them from doing it again. When the child is older then you can explain these situations and a smack is probably not needed.
Yeah I’m not saying my way is right. It’s my personal opinion that hitting children is wrong as it’s a sign that the adult has lost control, but I wouldn’t tell anybody else how to disciple their kids.
My dad hit me twice, both occasions were when he'd lost the plot, thinking I had threatened or hit my mum. He was the mildest person you could've ever met but when he lost it he was blind with rage, one occasion picking me up and throwing me the length of the hallway towards my room. The guilt and regret he showed afterwards is a bigger memory that those occasions he hit me. My mum would smack fairly regularly. Until one day when I was about 14 she slapped me round the face and I just glared at her, so she hit me again harder. I just asked her if she was enjoying it, my face was throbbing with pain but I wasn't going to show it so that was that.
I remember squaring up to my dad once. I was probably about 14 and we’d both lost the plot, he was going to resort to a slap and I was ready to lump him. I think we both quickly realised what we were doing and backed down.
Smacking just shows you have lost control and/or are too lazy to reason/parent your child properly. Children/humans have brains so you can discuss bad behaviour. Not even up for debate in 2019.
Somewhere in Wales: Alrigh' Myfanwy, you see that there dog? Yes Dafydd, I see it boyo. What says you to prodding it with this big stick? To be honest like, I think daddy would be very angry. I know, it's lush, isn't it. Are you going to do it anyway? Yes, I'm off there now. Tidy, I'll be there in a bit.
Had the same thing with my old man when I got in at 2am aged 13. He hit me, and my head hit bannister and cut open. It was too much aggression on both sides, and was soon forgotten. However I got my way and started going out from that day forwards
Even shouting unnecessary. Why would I want to scare children into not doing something. Surely making them understand why something is wrong is better for them, and earns you far more respect than shouting/violence
Cheeky sod! Reminds me of a story my dad told me where his dad wacked him through a door in front of his mate. He'd given my dad some money to buy a couple of pairs of jeans and my dad bought 1 nice pair. My granddad at that time was largely bedridden. Yet he got up and smacked him. Former merchant seaman during the war and a bit rough and ready so I'm told.
Don’t mean shouting, I mean using a voice that ensures your child understands what they are doing is wrong. This is in response to Luv’s comment specifically about young children, before you are able to use reasonable arguments with them about why what they are doing is wrong.
