Wish I could say I am shocked. Maybe write an email jointly to senco and head saying that you and copy the governors into it saying that you want xy and z for your son . Sorry it's so ****. I had a constant war with my youngest daughter's school. They talked the talk but did **** all until I kicked off...useless ****s made all her mental health issues way worse. Not a great advocate for my profession am I? On a positive side...your son will remember your support like my kids do.
half the time people like that are just gatekeepers for the money and the remit is too say no until they really can't .
My wife is a teacher mate a deputy head of an SEN school and even with her knowledge they're just ****ing useless.
Only read the 1st 2 posts but I was a model student In school. Will catch up later I'm elden ringin with a posse
teachers are ****s, if they see another one abusing a kid they'll say nothing, bit like coppers that way, pass the blame onto the victim.
I'm sorry to hear about your boy Luv. As a father of a teenager myself who's had his own issues and been made to feel like **** there's nothing worse than feeling like he's your pride and joy, you want those charged with his care to make him feel the best he can, and all they do is bring him down. It was only when mine started boxing something clicked, his whole mindset, self confidence and focus changed. Appreciate it's a different situation but I know how these ****s think and if it's beyond their scope of understanding they turn cold and don't want to know. Only other thing I'd add is it's pot luck if you get a school with the right ethos, good pastoral and SEN care. Usually that filters down from the Head. In my experience that's harder to find in secondary schools bcos the setup eally doesn't lend itself to support a child with autism. A different teacher for every subject, most not having a clue about the child (bcos they teach hundreds across different year groups), let alone knowing the nature of their autism or the child's needs, children scrambling across school having to go to different classrooms for each lesson, timetables which are varied across a week or two weeks. For a child with autism it just doesn't lend itself to a calm, stable, structured environment. For that to happen you need a whole school philosophy with reasonable adjustments made and a 'give a **** attitude'. Primary schools tend to be better at being able to deliver this but it helps they have one teacher teach one class, all the subjects, get to know the child, put in place interventions and strategies to try things even if they don't always work. Not to say every primary is like that (once again depends if they give a ****) but they tend to have the set up to do it. In secondary it's completely different and everything is disconnected. I hope your boy gets through the next couple of years safe and well, and moves forward to a better future mate.
Yeah this maybe another school if you can't sort it out with the current one @luvgonzo always good to have a plan B
I was going to mention that, but it was a brief comment. Not denying that would be a huge challenge But I just hope you can navigate a path through it for him without feeling boxed in
I was a nightmare in schools mate, went to more primays than I can remember and 2 secondarys until I settled down a bit. If i was a yoot now they'd have me zombied and dribbling on ritalin most probably. Hyperactive it was then I think. Anyways no real advice bro hope it goes well and if it's any comfort I always knew my old man had my back and that means a lot as a young lad finding his way. So just have his back is all I can say really.
