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Off Topic Mental Health Discussion Thread

Discussion in 'Hull City' started by Steven Toast, Oct 21, 2018.

  1. Plum

    Plum Well-Known Member

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    Please try and keep on top of your daughters issues. You didn't say what age but I'm guessing teens? The pressures on kids these days are enormous and way out of proportion to their ability to deal with them.
     
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  2. dennisboothstash

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    You certainly shouldn’t feel daft in the slightest.

    Useful links to professionals posted by others, but opening up here in what is a safe space won’t do any harm I wouldn’t think, and as you’re anonymous you can be open without negative consequence I’d hope.

    Glad you’re getting help for your daughter, but look after yourself too.
     
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  3. Qatartiger Cambridgetiger

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    It is so difficult to admit that you are struggling yourself because you are supporting everyone else you love.

    Some very wise words on here.

    Look after yourselves too, you are important and you deserve to be happy and it certainly ain't selfish.

    Remember there isn't a league table of who is going through the toughest times in life.
     
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    Thanks to everyone for your kind words.

    The bit about difficult to admit you're struggling is so true. I can now look back and see I've struggled for a good few years. Have opened up to the wife but not to the full extent of how I'm feeling.

    Thanks again to you all
     
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  5. dennisboothstash

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    Might be a useful read https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/tips-for-everyday-living/loneliness/about-loneliness/
    There’s a link to some tips at the end and at a glance what you’re doing on here seems to fit well with the advice
     
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  6. Chazz Rheinhold

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  9. Chazz Rheinhold

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    I don’t now what you can’t say but he was kept in a room with a mattress on the floor with no contact with anyone except a couple of healthcare’s for company

    his mother was rebuffed at every turn by the Humber trust

    he was kept in inhuman conditions not fit for a dog

    he and his situation might not be as perfect as the press are making out but it’s a million times better than what he had
     
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    This resonates, and maybe it's an age thing, I've a lot of acquaintances, a happy successful life but as I get older I see less of my true friends who live in different cities and don't have what I'd call a proper friend in the city I live in, and it gets me down sometimes. Outside of playing sport, which thankfully I still do a couple of times a week and doing family stuff I really don't have a social life.....apart from going to city, but that's a fkn chore sometimes too
     
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  11. Chazz Rheinhold

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    Always look for simple solutions mate
    Can you move back to hull? moneys important I know but over happiness?
    is your job getting you down? Look into changing it.
    Go through all the things you don’t like and what you would like life to be
    You can’t make it perfect but maybe you can make it better
     
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  12. Qatartiger Cambridgetiger

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    Don't know what to say really. I've only met young Mason a couple of times in his short life. My Nephew who is his grandad is having an emotional bloody rollercoaster ATM. I'm trying to be there for him. His mum is suffering from Dementia and on the day young Mason passed away 30 minutes later his grand daughter was born. How do you deal with all that?
     
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  13. Kempton

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    That's a bum deal, QC. All you can do is to stay strong for the family. Easier said than done, but we have to deal with these things. Keep up the great work you no doubt have been doing.

    Take care of yourself too, otherwise you'll be of no use them. Stay strong x
     
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    Hope everyone’s got through the ‘festive’ season ok.
    Must admit I like Christmas but find New Years Eve a bit maudlin nowadays.
    Not big on resolutions etc and I find myself looking back rather than forwards (which is odd for me as I don’t as a rule)
    I did get an invite from a good friend on here, but as it was we had my Father in Law round for the evening anyway and although he didn’t stay late by the time he left it was slobbing around and watching music & fireworks time…which was fine by me.

    Anyway it’s done, no one needs to wear comedy antlers anymore and the once a year amateurs have left the pubs (thank ****!).

    I hope anyone who has been having a difficult time has a better 2023, but if you don’t then please shout out on here…I doubt it will do any harm

    All the best
     
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    Dear Nation.... I hope you dont mind that I recommend something to watch on I Player. A boy, a mole, a fox and a horse... theres a famous line in it 'what is the bravest thing you have ever done.... asked for help said the horse... that line was actually inspired by Bear Grylls. its a beautiful watch, thought provoking and leaves you in doubt you are not alone... there's another line " I am enough as I am' something that hit me hard.. Do have tissues handy...
     
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    The key to resolutions Den is to flip them and instead of having a 'to do list', have a 'not to do' list...
     
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  18. dennisboothstash

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    Good call
    I shall not stop drinking…
     
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  19. dennisboothstash

    dennisboothstash Well-Known Member

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    The book is absolutely beautiful.
    Work of art in both pictures and words
    We bought a copy for several people when it came out.
     
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  20. TIGERSCAVE

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    The BBC animation was just wonderful Den... check it out...,
     
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