Off Topic Mental Health Discussion Thread

It was a top interview too. I spoke briefly to Dean last night. We met on the street outside my place of work, he was alone going to meet his girlfriend from work. He remembered me from the last time we met in the same circumstances. He looked fit and well and we shook hands,
I asked him if he was going to the match tomorrow, (remember who we are playing), he said no, and didn't elaborate as to why. But I already knew and told him life was too short. He should really be the guest of honour today. I told him things will change soon and he agreed, and hopefully he and more other ex players of Hull City will be a part of the club again. Dean Windass, along with Ian Ashbee should be as much as the fabric of this club for life, as the black and amber shirt is. I hope they are soon.

 

i like xmas because my drinking problem gets hidden. no one notices the quiet visits to the fridge for the already chilled vodka so you dont have to alert folk with the telltale clink of ice cubes.
once its over now thats a different matter....
ive passed on my anxiety/depression to my kids. my son in his 30's recently said he once drove to the humber bridge which broke my heart.
i wish it had been his mother.

sense of humour is 99% what gets me through.
les dawson, a secret sufferer, once said look in a mirror and pull a daft face because how can you feel down when you are laughing at yourself.
well those who have it bad know that sometimes it is impossible to laugh or smile or feel anything other than illogical fear or terror.

best advice for anyone who finds themselves low and in the depths of despair, give it as little of your time as possible. dont dwell on it.
side track your mind. think of other things, no matter how trivial. with a lot of luck and practice you can forget for a time you have a problem. once you are out of the cycle in your head thats half the battle.
youtube music search then go off on a tangent is an easy one.

apologies for mainly preaching to myself

 

20 years ago i was prescribed effexor for my anxiety/depression.
listed side effects? = anxiety/depression.
did absolutely nothing for me. weaned myself off it gradually and found therapy helped me a million times more by teaching me coping mechanisms (how to think/act instead)

so easy for doctors to write out a prescription and call "next"

 

Chillo

I can’t agree about the anti depressants that you were prescribed. A short course worked for me.
You are right about the coping mechanisms, I
took up art, wrote short stories, poems and even took a couple of courses in computerised accounts.
I am sorry to say that hiding your drinking is not something that I can let pass, mate.

Please, please, find someone to talk to about this. You may not want to, but, even it is just to tell me that I know nothing and am an interfering old ****, please PM me.

No judgement, I can only offer to listen and understand. But only if you want and only when you are ready.

I am sure others will offer the same. You are not the only one who struggles.

 

Nothing wrong with preaching to yourself mate. It's a great place to say it too. People do read it and take something from it, I know I do.

Take care, hope you have a good Christmas and the new year improves things.

 

I’ve just read this thread, 44 pages and my first visit. Some on here will remember my story 3 years ago, each day is still a struggle. Some bad days some better days, I’ve started going to counselling which took me ages to agree to go to. It’s now the best 2 hours of my week, I look forward to going. It doesn’t stop me disappearing down them dark places but it helps.

 

I remember Geo, his plaque catches my eye most visits to the stadium, and I always offer up a little thought to you and your family. Glad the counselling is helping - sounds like you needed to be ready for it.

 

I remember your story well, and wondered at the time how the **** can Geo get his head around that.
Still no one has an answer

 

I can't imagine what you have been through over the last few years mate, but the fact that you regularly post on here is inspirational to be honest.

Really glad that the counselling is helping.

 

As some may remember I am a psychiatric nurse, still enjoying it after 44 years.
So in that time I have seen many different situations, and different perspectives.
I strongly believe the best way to manage depression is to have counselling.Finding the right counsellor is hard you need someone who you can trust and then open up to them.
Sometimes it is the person who has seen a bit of life and be able to relate to them, rather than the enthusiastic straight from University . don’t get me wrong we all have to learn but it takes time.
With regard to anti depressants they have their place, but long term talking helps.
By talking I include journaling, which I do.Trying to keep your mind active and yes having a sense of humour helps.
I never make fun of clients but I have plenty of sledges said to me.
I meditate as well in a morning also try to follow the Stoic outlook .
With regard to alcohol if it is a problem seek help there,.
Hope 2022 is a better year,I am planning to come over for a few weeks, then plan to go on an adventure by working in outback Western Australia.
Take care

 

Useful Twitter account to follow if anybody is struggling . Has massive struggles but posts regularly and honestly and seems to help a lot of people in the same boat .

 

We don’t forget Geo .. I’m glad you’re seeing some light. We all have dark days for different reasons, me included and at a time of life I should be thinking ‘and relax!!’ I found a bloke called MOOJI on YouTube and find him very inspiring .

 

I imagine anyone on here at the time knows your story Geo.
I can’t imagine what you’ve been through and are going through.
Glad you’re getting professional help

 

Very difficult times at the moment and ahead.
Hard to focus on anything and very tired. Lots of tears in the household.

Wife’s treatment has stopped. Not good news.

 

All the best, mate. Hold her close.

 

So sorry to hear that mate.

It's such a painful time, wanting them to stay, and also wanting them out of any suffering.

I know how feeble this is, but shout if I can help at all.

 

So sorry to hear this. With you both in spirit, we’re here for you.

 

So sorry to hear this TOM , all the best to you.

 

sorry to hear this mate. You have my number, don’t suffer alone x