i think had these quips been posted on the Jockey own page or one he or close Friends/Fam would read , would make it in poor taste , but there is really no attempt to make fun of the fella from what i can make out , Speaking more broadly , i think we now live in an age of oversensitivity on behalf of others , taking offence on someone else's behalf when theres no intention to upset anyone at all .
I have endured it for about many years now. I'm not really sure how i started with it but try to put it down to various things over the years. When we were having our first child i was terrified i wouldn't be able to cope with someone so small relying on me for the next 18 years. I used to have minor panic attacks every evening but keep them all to myself, and battle through. One of the worst side effects i get is sleeping or not as is the case. I would go through days on end not being able to sleep, and the harder i tried the harder it got to get to sleep. I would go to work in a zombie like state some days. I tried to bring it out in the open with my work at the time, but i do think i suffered a large degree of pressure from the managers through it. I probably made it worse for myself because i turn up every single day in what ever state i am in. But turning up to work after three days of no sleep is not a clever thing to do. Other things that used to terrify me was death, even reading about it used to get the attacks coming on. Also another trigger was looking out and thinking about space as daft as it sounds. When i was first encountering it i went for some group therapy, though I'm not sure how much that did for me apart from giving me some insight into it. They gave me various opinions on triggers and such like, with it being me fearing the unknown i think. I could understand the death bit as previously i had gone through quite a few years where death and such like played a very large part in my life. I am probably like you and are very quiet at times. Some things that don't help, is me having high standards that i expect others to have. I can be a bit of a perfectionist at times. I haven't gone into that much of what i have gone through but just trying to show you are not alone.
I've got the trifecta of mental illness. OCD, major depressive disorder and social anxiety. Diagnosed with all three when I was 15. It's a hoot.
I just liked this. It seems wrong, but I'm sure you know what I mean. I have panic disorder. I can't do meetings. My work let's me off staff meetings and I have to have a stiffener before I go into certain situations. Dentists, Haircuts etc. It's **** Edit: I'm in my element when I'm at a City game though. Please **** off Allams so I can get that joy back.
I think it's pretty obvious who this City Man is. I also think it's pretty pathetic that he's trying to hide it.
I think most people with mental disorders wouldn't care that you see a funny side to it. I'm sure as Whittling mentions there are people who look to be offended by anything they can find to be(maybe there is a name for that condition ) It's good that people can come on here and show how common anxiety and depression is, though not necessarily linked. I hope that others can take some comfort that they are not the only ones who endure the effects. I like people to take the piss and if it's about some things I have been through then it's all good. That's the great thing about many of us, that we can see the funny side to anything. One thing that always sticks in my mind, when my dad died, and I went back to work, one of my mates came up and said "can you lend me some money", when I asked why, he said " because you will have loads when the will is read". I found that so funny, and pulled me straight out of any downer I was feeling. I remember some of the other people's horrified faces when he asked it. All taking offence for me..... Maybe it hasn't come across how it should but it was his way of saying he is there for me. Not sure what this has do with anxiety though . Maybe just to do with how we an make fun of any situation to help us through.
One thing I have found out of all of this, is that I always felt I would be mocked or people might think I was weak or something. I couldn't have been more wrong. I think people actually see themselves in me.
I have extremely close relatives with very similar problems. PM me if you wish to discuss your problems further with someone who actually understands. You are doing very well coping with some of the **** on here, and I apologise if, previously, I have unwittingly accosted you on this forum. I sincerely wish you the best of luck in overcoming these dreadful issues.
I think he mounted several female jockeys if my memory serves me right.. all the best to him in his fight for good health. Am reading stories about Marion Bartoli the tennis player today I hope she is OK too, her appearance on the ITV football was strange to say the least and she isn't making much sense at the moment. Fingers crossed not depressive issues
That is the main thing that they all get the help they need, when you are in sport the highs and lows are greater than in many other walks of life.
I think depression is one of those horrible illnesses thats impossible to know how bad it is unless you experience it. Something i have never had. It must be so bad though. Anyone going through it i hope things improve for you .
I've had depression and social anxiety for nearly three years and it's made some of the simplest things (even getting out of bed) so difficult to do. I've not been to the hairdressers or dentist in yonks. I'm a flip flopper job wise. Yeah it's not great, you guys genuinely have my sympathy. It makes you feel so pathetic and useless.
It's nice to feel that you're not alone in the struggle. I suffer from social anxiety and have had some awful bouts of depression. All is quite good at the minute, but then I'm pretty afraid to push myself out of my comfort zone, for fear of a relapse, so I stand still in many ways. Then again, I'm also grateful to be at the point I'm at. Take care people.
I was merely asking a question cos I seriously didnt know, yet you turned it into a personal dig at me....................... are you really THAT insecure? do I scare you?
