Billy and Janie

MrRAWhite said:
It was a strange one Syd..The lad was never someone who I classed as a close friend, simply because we had nothing much in common. However, he was dedicated to his work, would always be available to cover my shifts for matches etc and in the last few weeks or so I felt he was starting to lower the barriers he always seemed to have in place which prevent people from getting to know the real him..
I was one of the last people to speak to him before he was found, and he never gave any hint of what he was going to do less than 48 hours later, and was talking about his forth coming trips he had booked to Prague and new York, and how well he was feeling about the weight he had lost in the previous weeks (he was a very heavy bloke). He never left any explanations as to why he had done this, which has been very hard to take for me..
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Totally understandable mate. Similar to the whole Gary Speed one in that we didn't know him, but we feel empathy towards him and not knowing why he did such a thing is hard to take. In your situation, you did get to speak to him and got to know him in a way. He will have had his reasons, and one thing I have learned about depression is that your are most happy when you decide a conclusion, and for him it was suicide.

No one can take any blame.

Its horrible times at the moment, I am experiencing one at the moment but I don't want to depress people further.

Good times are just round the corner for all of us hopefully, especially Billy.
 
Its strange how we ar all full of bluster, my teams better than your team, we are happy you lot are sad and all the time, behind the screen we are all just people who fate has made black or red, usualy with no real choice from us.

We all have lives and we all know that at times life really can be a bitch. I suffer from depression and can go into a black place for no reason and laugh you may but its never people who get me out, its Osca because without me he starves, he needs me and in his own little way he loves me, well providing I feed him that is.
 
An excellent thread, made even better by our black and white cousins joining in with their own thoughts and condolences for Billy's loss. My own little patch of Dorset will fall silent in memory of Janie on Sunday, someone I have never met, but feel I know through Billy's frequent posts about his love for her.

A win for both teams this weekend will help one of our own on not606 cope a little better through the sad time that he is currently experiencing.

Ha'way the lads!
 
I Sit Next To A Badger-Leazes Corner said:
Totally understandable mate. Similar to the whole Gary Speed one in that we didn't know him, but we feel empathy towards him and not knowing why he did such a thing is hard to take. In your situation, you did get to speak to him and got to know him in a way. He will have had his reasons, and one thing I have learned about depression is that your are most happy when you decide a conclusion, and for him it was suicide.

No one can take any blame.

Its horrible times at the moment, I am experiencing one at the moment but I don't want to depress people further.

Good times are just round the corner for all of us hopefully, especially Billy.
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Hope everything's alright man <ok> <peacedove>
 
I once completed an assignment for the OU about the merits of the Internet regarding the creation of meaningful communities and the community spirit that goes with it. I actually finished with a rather negative conclusion in my summary, but the way that posters on here have rallied round and supported fellow posters (on both sides of the divide) in their time of need, have most certainly made me re-think those conclusions...
 
MrRAWhite said:
It was a strange one Syd..The lad was never someone who I classed as a close friend, simply because we had nothing much in common. However, he was dedicated to his work, would always be available to cover my shifts for matches etc and in the last few weeks or so I felt he was starting to lower the barriers he always seemed to have in place which prevent people from getting to know the real him..
I was one of the last people to speak to him before he was found, and he never gave any hint of what he was going to do less than 48 hours later, and was talking about his forth coming trips he had booked to Prague and new York, and how well he was feeling about the weight he had lost in the previous weeks (he was a very heavy bloke). He never left any explanations as to why he had done this, which has been very hard to take for me..
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Sorry to here that mate.

All the best.
 
I lost my Dad when I was 19 (37 years ago). We bought a brick in his name in panel 13, before every home game I go to place a kiss on the brick, I shall take a minute to think of Billy and Janie at that time.
 
MrRAWhite said:
Billy

The fact that you have took the time to say this with how you must be feeling right now in my eyes speaks volumes for your strength of character..Billy...You really are a top bloke..<ok>
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Cheers, I'm nowt special, just a normal man.

Busy tonight. Housefull of kids.

LOL.

Thanks to you all.
 
concrete tony said:
Billy I lost my wife 3 years ago, miss her every day. I understand what you are going through,my thoughts and prayers are with you, I shall pay my respects at the match. Hope you are coping.
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Sorry about that marra, time heals though.
 
Nice to see so many people contributing to this thread, people have taken something positive from something tragic and I'm glad you keep popping back in Billy.

To Billy and MrRAWhite, thanks for sharing with us something so personal. It really hammers home how important some things are, usually the things we take for granted.

I work with a lad who's going through all sorts, a lot of it self imposed, but he's making it worse for himself by abusing drugs and alcohol. He's a sound fella with a heart of gold but he's hiding some demons and I've sussed him out. I only wish he would talk about his problems honestly and open up to everyone but he's hiding his secrets by destroying his relationship with friends and family and going off the rails rather than face the reality.

I'm going on a bit but what I'm saying is, in my albeit limited experience, talk to people and stay off the booze. Alcohol really is evil. That's probably the best advice I could ever give. Even if it's on an internet forum you can keep in touch with reality and see that there's always light at the end of the tunnel.
 
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