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I just wanted to add my sincerest sympathy to you and your lady and also to Steve.

Although, as others have already said, you never truly get over things like this, you do learn to live with them and the good memories never leave.

I lost both my parents within 7 months of each other in the late 1990's, but the way I grieved was different for both of them. Mum died in the March after a long illness. She had gone into hospital in the September of the previous year and we knew that she would not being coming out. Because of this I did a lot of my grieving before she died and you may find that your lady has done the same for her Grandad. I remember having to stop on the hard shoulder of the M3 on my way home from visiting mum one Sunday and crying my bloody eyes out. So when she died I was already a considerable way through the grief process.

Dad only lasted 7 months without her and he literally died of a broken heart. He died in the October of heart failure having not had the time to get over her death. Because his death was sudden I found that it took me longer to deal with the emotional impact of losing him. I didn't just lose a dad, I also lost one of my heroes

That was in 1998 and even now the good times are still tinged with a little sadness because two of the most important people in my life have gone. However, it has taught me to really appreciate the good times and treasure every moment I spend with my children.

Just the fact that you are there for your lady and prepared to listen will be a huge help to her.
 
Sometimes it takes this kind of thread to remind us all just how precious and fragile life is and how insignificant football can be in the bigger picture.

I've been out to Raby Castle with my mam & dad (both in their 70's and doing great but not without some huge health scares recently) and my gorgeous little girl (6.5 going on 40 lol) and I appreciate every moment I have with them all. Lost all 4 of my grand parents for over 25 years now and I still miss them dearly to this day.


Best wishes to everyone today for losses and loved ones who have passed away and for the loved ones we still have and cherish today.
 
I lost both parents in 1983, in quick succession. It was a bad time.

But to Jorvik may I say that whilst you and Lorraine will never forget, you will in time be able to accomodate the loss, and you will be able to look back fondly on treasured memories.
 
My Italian grandfather died a little less than a year ago, of cancer. Ironically, it was the same type that killed his brother in law a few years ago. What amazed me is that even though he became weaker and weaker, he never lost the wit, intelligence and lucidity that had followed him throughout his life; he had a 'que sera, sera' attitude. My most enduring memory of him is the last time we went to see him in Italy last August. It was the weekend of the Belgian grand prix, and he watched the entire 2 and a bit hours of it, as if he were not ill at all. After he died, my parents went to the funeral in Italy, and the morning after the funeral, everybody was watching the Korean grand prix, and the amount of accidents and incidents and pure chance that happened during that race to make Alonso and Ferrari victorious, it felt as if he was pulling strings from wherever he was!
 
this thread for me is a great advert for football because it shows it can bring people together to help eachother im over the moon that a few geordies have been on aswell, this should be a global or general thread for all clubs to post on about family friends and fans who are no longer with us :emoticon-0111-blush
 
Having recently lost my Father I know how you guys are feeling.
I lost my Mother to cancer 26 years ago and the sad part about that loss was she never got to meet my wife see my children or grandchildren what would have been her great grandchildren..

My best wishes for you all.

Although personally I'm totally none religious may your God go with you.
 
Having recently lost my Father I know how you guys are feeling.
I lost my Mother to cancer 26 years ago and the sad part about that loss was she never got to meet my wife see my children or grandchildren what would have been her great grandchildren..

My best wishes for you all.

Although personally I'm totally none religious may your God go with you.
 
simonbh7 said:
I just wanted to add my sincerest sympathy to you and your lady and also to Steve.

Although, as others have already said, you never truly get over things like this, you do learn to live with them and the good memories never leave.

I lost both my parents within 7 months of each other in the late 1990's, but the way I grieved was different for both of them. Mum died in the March after a long illness. She had gone into hospital in the September of the previous year and we knew that she would not being coming out. Because of this I did a lot of my grieving before she died and you may find that your lady has done the same for her Grandad. I remember having to stop on the hard shoulder of the M3 on my way home from visiting mum one Sunday and crying my bloody eyes out. So when she died I was already a considerable way through the grief process.

Dad only lasted 7 months without her and he literally died of a broken heart. He died in the October of heart failure having not had the time to get over her death. Because his death was sudden I found that it took me longer to deal with the emotional impact of losing him. I didn't just lose a dad, I also lost one of my heroes

That was in 1998 and even now the good times are still tinged with a little sadness because two of the most important people in my life have gone. However, it has taught me to really appreciate the good times and treasure every moment I spend with my children.

Just the fact that you are there for your lady and prepared to listen will be a huge help to her.
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I've known that happen Simon, the broken heart thing. My mam has been ok really since my da died but you never know really how people feel.

Take care.
 
Also, I know about the misscarrage thing as well. Somehow, you just carry on, not sure how but you do.
 
JoRvIk-jOe said:
Now then lads,

Iv'e been picking the pieces up of my beloved Lorraine all day after the expected but still painful death of her Granddad in the early hours of this morning (bowel cancer). It bewilders me sometimes that 'how many knocks does a person have to take before the happiness shines again'? In Lorraine's case, she has me her rock to give her the belief in life, pick her up and dust her down..

I haven't personally had these knocks yet in life, my Mam & Dad are alive, old but fit and well and besides my grand parents dying when I was very young, I haven't experienced the sensation of loss but I have supported close people to me, throughout their losses..

My thread is not a 'Grim Reaper' special but a thread for my fellow Safc fans to open their hearts (if they want to), to the inner strength they feel in coping to the loss of a special one. My lolly is going through so much sad today but the closeness she had with her Granddad was as special as special could be..

Thanks lads..
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Joe, any time I can be of any help, PM me, will get back to you, ok mate?
 
You have my condolences.

Unfortunately this is one of the down sides of getting older. I lost two of the people most close to me. They were irreplaceable in my life but I have my memories of all the good times we had together to keep me going.

Rest assured your wife will learn to cope with it and the memories of the good times will be with her forever.
 
Joe, nothing to add but my own condolences and best wishes.

You did a good thing in starting this thread. <ok>
 
I don't think you do fully recover from losses from those very close to us. The pain does ease though and your wife has a good man to stand by her - it's true what they say, love does indeed triumph.

Vinegar Joe you brought me to this site back in January - we are a community here and I hope people's words here do mean something, as I sense real heartfelt sympathy in every word. You post and the responses have deeply moved me in an unexpected way.
 
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