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Burly Hurley said:
This is a long read, so if you're not interested skip over.

So last month I told you guys that after my last round of chemo I was told the stomach tumour had invaded my pancreas, and on that basis I was no longer on a curative pathway and there was nothing more they could do for me other than to suggest potential immunotherapy trials, or more chemo, the latter being only able to offer a few extra months of life.

I was told to quit work and let my family know that my time was limited.

So I faced it head on. Started to plan my funeral, sorted out all my legal affairs, asked friends to help my sons carry my coffin and arranged so many family and friends do's to, in effect, say goodbye. By last weekend I was happy all that was sorted.

In the meantime my wife arranged a second opinion with another consultant at another hospital.

So, after having a PET scan yesterday I am now booked in for a full gastroectomy on Nov 1st, after which I will need 6 to 8 months of recovery followed by a normal life.

So news of my demise (unless I flake out on the operating table) is premature.

My point is, and sorry it took so long, that you under no circumstances accept the first prognosis. Get a second opinion! It could save your life!!!

There's been a thousand tears shed today. The best kind.
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So i'm not gettingy our Merc yet then?

Chuffed to bit for ya mate, that's the very best type of news you can ever get..
 
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Burly Hurley said:
That's a whole new situation there Tees.

No way am I going to let that lie.

I'm not doing anything until after my operation. The next 6 months or so is all about me recovering from major surgery.

After that I'm going to make sure that the local hospital changes their policies and procedures. I dread to think how many may may have died before me and how many may die if I don't take them to task on my own experience.

I have no intention of suing them. I've 31 years in the NHS. My wife has 20. It would be like suing family. I'm not interested in the money either. What I want is for them to not give up so easily, the way they did with me. But if I don't see evidence of change, I'll see them in court.

All of this is on the proviso that I'll still be here post-op though. Like I said, I'm a stubborn c***, so count on it!
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Good on you mate. Knowing the Nhs everything you say will fall on death ears but you need to say something because what youve said is so fecking scarey to think people have died for no reason.
Im so happy for you mate and the way spoke on here when you thought your time was up speaks volumes of how much of a man you are and how strong you must be mentally as a person. I have massive respect for you mate x
 
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Teessidemakem said:
Good on you mate. Knowing the Nhs everything you say will fall on death ears but you need to say something because what youve said is so fecking scarey to think people have died for no reason.
Im so happy for you mate and the way spoke on here when you thought your time was up speaks volumes of how much of a man you are and how strong you must be mentally as a person. I have massive respect for you mate x
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Thank you Tees. Kind words indeed <hug>
 
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Burly Hurley said:
This is a long read, so if you're not interested skip over.

So last month I told you guys that after my last round of chemo I was told the stomach tumour had invaded my pancreas, and on that basis I was no longer on a curative pathway and there was nothing more they could do for me other than to suggest potential immunotherapy trials, or more chemo, the latter being only able to offer a few extra months of life.

I was told to quit work and let my family know that my time was limited.

So I faced it head on. Started to plan my funeral, sorted out all my legal affairs, asked friends to help my sons carry my coffin and arranged so many family and friends do's to, in effect, say goodbye. By last weekend I was happy all that was sorted.

In the meantime my wife arranged a second opinion with another consultant at another hospital.

So, after having a PET scan yesterday I am now booked in for a full gastroectomy on Nov 1st, after which I will need 6 to 8 months of recovery followed by a normal life.

So news of my demise (unless I flake out on the operating table) is premature.

My point is, and sorry it took so long, that you under no circumstances accept the first prognosis. Get a second opinion! It could save your life!!!

There's been a thousand tears shed today. The best kind.
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Absolutely brilliant mate. So so happy for you and yours

Bengali Muslim women mate , don't mess

Truth be told though mate if we had listened to the specialists my son would not be 13. He wouldnt have got past the 20 week scan. I have a letter of apology but they didn't change their approach.

Glad you will be taking this up with the NHS

But for now overjoyed for you pal
 
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Burly Hurley said:
This is a long read, so if you're not interested skip over.

So last month I told you guys that after my last round of chemo I was told the stomach tumour had invaded my pancreas, and on that basis I was no longer on a curative pathway and there was nothing more they could do for me other than to suggest potential immunotherapy trials, or more chemo, the latter being only able to offer a few extra months of life.

I was told to quit work and let my family know that my time was limited.

So I faced it head on. Started to plan my funeral, sorted out all my legal affairs, asked friends to help my sons carry my coffin and arranged so many family and friends do's to, in effect, say goodbye. By last weekend I was happy all that was sorted.

In the meantime my wife arranged a second opinion with another consultant at another hospital.

So, after having a PET scan yesterday I am now booked in for a full gastroectomy on Nov 1st, after which I will need 6 to 8 months of recovery followed by a normal life.

So news of my demise (unless I flake out on the operating table) is premature.

My point is, and sorry it took so long, that you under no circumstances accept the first prognosis. Get a second opinion! It could save your life!!!

There's been a thousand tears shed today. The best kind.
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A thousand and one mate <ok>

You big ****ing drama queen, I told you it was nowt.
 
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Burly Hurley said:
This is a long read, so if you're not interested skip over.

So last month I told you guys that after my last round of chemo I was told the stomach tumour had invaded my pancreas, and on that basis I was no longer on a curative pathway and there was nothing more they could do for me other than to suggest potential immunotherapy trials, or more chemo, the latter being only able to offer a few extra months of life.

I was told to quit work and let my family know that my time was limited.

So I faced it head on. Started to plan my funeral, sorted out all my legal affairs, asked friends to help my sons carry my coffin and arranged so many family and friends do's to, in effect, say goodbye. By last weekend I was happy all that was sorted.

In the meantime my wife arranged a second opinion with another consultant at another hospital.

So, after having a PET scan yesterday I am now booked in for a full gastroectomy on Nov 1st, after which I will need 6 to 8 months of recovery followed by a normal life.

So news of my demise (unless I flake out on the operating table) is premature.

My point is, and sorry it took so long, that you under no circumstances accept the first prognosis. Get a second opinion! It could save your life!!!

There's been a thousand tears shed today. The best kind.
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Wowzers Burley, this news has lifted me. I’m so pleased there’s a silver lining for you and your family. All the best mate.:emoticon-0169-dance
 
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Seriously awesome news, Burly.

My friends and family often acknowledge me as the cold hearted one who lacks sentiment but I secretly love reading stuff like this.

Really happy for you, mate.
 
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Burly Hurley said:
This is a long read, so if you're not interested skip over.

So last month I told you guys that after my last round of chemo I was told the stomach tumour had invaded my pancreas, and on that basis I was no longer on a curative pathway and there was nothing more they could do for me other than to suggest potential immunotherapy trials, or more chemo, the latter being only able to offer a few extra months of life.

I was told to quit work and let my family know that my time was limited.

So I faced it head on. Started to plan my funeral, sorted out all my legal affairs, asked friends to help my sons carry my coffin and arranged so many family and friends do's to, in effect, say goodbye. By last weekend I was happy all that was sorted.

In the meantime my wife arranged a second opinion with another consultant at another hospital.

So, after having a PET scan yesterday I am now booked in for a full gastroectomy on Nov 1st, after which I will need 6 to 8 months of recovery followed by a normal life.

So news of my demise (unless I flake out on the operating table) is premature.

My point is, and sorry it took so long, that you under no circumstances accept the first prognosis. Get a second opinion! It could save your life!!!

There's been a thousand tears shed today. The best kind.
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Words fail me...Best wishes mate..
 
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