If you have a wife , look no farther for a start . Besides being your true soul mate , she would have a right to know . Between the two of you together , a new plan of attack won't seem so solitary an idea . Therapy after that , if needed , would seem the next action . Good luck swamp and never underestimate the power of relaxation & a trusted confidant . P.S Just wanted to add that getting rid of all the Swan fans on your board couldn't hurt !