Happy Father’s Day

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Went to visit my dad today in Magnolia house. Unfortunately he has dementia and didn't really know who I was. He kind of enjoyed opening his cards (from me and my younger brother who lives in Ireland) but soon zoned back out and couldn't really converse. It's difficult to watch this happen to a loved one, kudos to the staff who deal with these people every day (like my wife)
 
Went to visit my dad today in Magnolia house. Unfortunately he has dementia and didn't really know who I was. He kind of enjoyed opening his cards (from me and my younger brother who lives in Ireland) but soon zoned back out and couldn't really converse. It's difficult to watch this happen to a loved one, kudos to the staff who deal with these people every day (like my wife)
Despite all the toing and froing that goes on within this forum,I have nothing but sympathy for you.

I lost my old man just short of 10 years ago with it,though me and mine did manage to chip in as a family and keep him in his own home .Very sad to see someone you love and respect losing their mind and their dignity...Stay strong.
 
Got a new City mug, a City van sticker, some beers and a voucher. My son and daughter turned up with their wife and partner and my beautiful little granddaughter. Both my kids are due baby boys in October in the same week. Took my dear dad some flowers and resealed a shower tray. What a day. Relaxing now with a chinky and a bottle of red.
 
Went to visit my dad today in Magnolia house. Unfortunately he has dementia and didn't really know who I was. He kind of enjoyed opening his cards (from me and my younger brother who lives in Ireland) but soon zoned back out and couldn't really converse. It's difficult to watch this happen to a loved one, kudos to the staff who deal with these people every day (like my wife)
Difficult time @Paul Jewitt
I’m no expert in the slightest, but my Grandma lived for years not knowing who most of us were (she mainly thought I was either her late husband or her son depending on the day)
We simply went along with whatever made her happy tbh. I was speaking to a friend who was saying the same last week. Her Dad thought she visited everyday, but she couldn’t and actually went once a week, but would always say she’d see him tomorrow and every week he’d think she’d been there yesterday.
No idea whether that is recommended or not, but I suppose I’m saying don’t beat yourself up. Just do what feels right.
Take care
 
Difficult time @Paul Jewitt
I’m no expert in the slightest, but my Grandma lived for years not knowing who most of us were (she mainly thought I was either her late husband or her son depending on the day)
We simply went along with whatever made her happy tbh. I was speaking to a friend who was saying the same last week. Her Dad thought she visited everyday, but she couldn’t and actually went once a week, but would always say she’d see him tomorrow and every week he’d think she’d been there yesterday.
No idea whether that is recommended or not, but I suppose I’m saying don’t beat yourself up. Just do what feels right.
Take care
This exactly DBT,you've just got to go with the flow and let them live it out in their own world.

My old man would repeat things 5 or 6 times when it first started,he'd tell you something then 5 minutes later he'd say "oh,did I tell you about so and so"?... "No Dad"and rinse and repeat.But he could always remember his childhood during the blitz and his youth,school,boarding school etc.?

He was ex forces and MOD and when he got took into Hospital a couple of times,(broke his hip and broke the other one in Hospital),you'd go up and visit him and he'd tell you they were all getting took away and put on secret missions at nights and they'd asked him to sign the official secrets act and he'd refused.I just humoured him,went along with it, and gave him his place,not in a sick way but some of it was quite intriguing and dare I say pretty humourous at times.

No point anyone beating themselves up because of it,it changes nothing and you'd end up making yourself unwell.

Towards the end he'd mix up my wife and Daughters names and mix up who visited him,that hurt my middle lass as she was really close to him but for some reason he never forgot who I was,yet he and I had our moments through life.